1 Year Old VERY Clingy

My clingy monkey has suddenly become even MORE clingy! Due to 2 things.. she is teething - her 2 upper molars are coming in and she just recently took her 1st 5 steps by herself and hasnt taken any more by herself since.. she will walk only hanging on to my finger :) hope this helps!

He is NORMAL.

Attachment to their Mommy and/or separation anxiety... is a very normal development. BUT also keep in mind, that this occurrence, is also age-stage related... AND it will occur at different ages TOO.
And per age, it will be displayed or manifested, differently. At at different moments.

This is normal developmental PROGRESS. Not a weakness.
It would be more "abnormal" or concerning, if a child never... went through this. That would be an "attachment disorder."

Kids, even if independent... are attached to their Moms, and go through separation-anxiety.
Some have this happen, at even earlier ages than 1 year old.

Kids also get like this when:
not feeling well or are sick, or when getting sick
when they are tired
When their life changes somehow or their routines
Or when teething and uncomfortable
Or when stressed

Additionally: this has to do with the concept of "Object Permanence."
Which is a normal developmental thing, that this age or younger goes through. The idea that things that go away, comes back or that, what they do not "see"... still exist.

This is the age when babies get separation anxiety. They're becoming aware that they are a different person than you. It's normal. I would just reassure him without making a big deal of it. Show him that everything is OK with your confident casual manner.

Oh, yes! I have a wonderful photograph of my youngest granddaughter at about that age, sitting in a field of beautiful bluebonnets, and screaming her head off because Mama had the effrontery to SET HER DOWN!

You'll have to let this behavior run its course. Be loving but very matter-of-fact; whether you can tell or not, the more composed you are, the more reassured he'll become. Eventually.

what marda said. also, the key is not to give him tons of extra attention when he is acting like that, just go about like normal. but when he is being good and "normal" give him tons of lovins. :) he will get more secure and get over it. if you are dropping him off somewhere, be extra careful to act like everything is fine. he is learning about separation, and while he's learning that you can help him to deal with it.

Totally normal. And the more you push him away the harder and longer he'll cling, so try to build more cuddle time into your day!

First of all you have to realize if anything has changed in the daily routine. Is he needy throughout the day? Are you teaching him (and I KNOW this sounds harsh) how to play independantly? At this stage, it is somewhat normal to have some sort of seperation anxiety for mommy especially. Because he is not cognitively or emotionally capable to tell you how he feels, we kind of have to guess why this behavior is happening. The one thing I can say is...to give in is to damage him, and to force him to let go is also to damage. i dont know your circumsatnces, but if there is a time when you guys are alone and he begins to get a little clingy, sit him next to you and read a book, do a simple puzzle and look for signs of when the behavior begins. Once you know the anticedent to the behavior, you can calm him before the behavior begins. Be patient, be loving, but do not let him know that you will give in at a whim. This makes for learned behavior If you dont break him now (and again this sounds harsh) it will be even more difficult later. My son was also very clingy...but he is another story =} The most imprtant thing is to look for the pre-tell signs of when the behavior begins, then you can work on manipulating the circumstances to make his seperation more barable for the both of you. Good luck!

Yes it's normal. It's a stage around 10-14 months (per our ped). We just went through it.