10 Month Old Having Problems Staying Asleep

Updated on September 27, 2008
T.M. asks from Royse City, TX
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OK Moms..I need help and quick before I go nuts. My son use to be a great sleeper on up til he had his 6 month shot, since that time he has been hard to keep asleep. He sleeps in our room seeing how I have two other children and we have no extra rooms. We have decided to change our dinning room into his room (still in the works). But for the time being he is still in our room. Here the kicker when I put him down he sleeps very good then my husband comes to bed at 11-12 midnight and as soon as his head hit the pillow my son wakes up and he is awake for atleast 30 to 1 hour. I have ask my husband to come to bed eairlier but it is a losing battler which in tails waking me up. So I told him if he wakes the baby up he is to deal with him seeing how I need the sleep, not saying my husband doesnt but I get up at 5 in the morning to get the older kids off to school and get myself ready, by 7 in the morning I am getting my 10 month old up and out the door to the sitters. My husband doesnt leave til 8 for work. Ok since my husband has taking over the wake up call he has catered to his every whim, whick I have fussed about. It has caused us to fight about how each other is taking care of him. My husband would get him back to sleep by letting him sleep with us I didnt know this til I would wake up at 3 from being kicked by my son. I have fussed at him and told him if he continues to let him sleep in our bed I will start sleeping on the couch(harsh but I am not getting any sleep and by the time I get off work and get my son from the sitters I am draggin and can't seem to get nothing done that I want done. Well my husband has quit for two days now putting him in bed with us and we have been letting him cry it out. It is 12.45 now and he is still going strong with the crying its been 1.30 min. and I am at wits end. I check his diaper I give hm a bottle of water in his crib to drink thinking he will pick it up and drink it and put him to sleep but, no luck at all. I have given him a binky for him he doesn't want it he wants me to come get him and hold him all night. I have put a shirt I have wore so he thinks it is me the smell thingy. I have tried to give him protein before bed to make sure he has had enough to eat...I feel like he is just strong willed. What more can I do to get him to try to sleep through the nights.

Thanks

T.

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We tried the cry it out for one night and it worked for ONE night. We found that holding him till he is asleep in our bed then transfering him to his crib and then when he wakes up bring him back to our bed till he is asleep again then transfer him back this is working so far I can't do teh cry it out I am to soft hearted and my husband said that just wasn't fair to him after crying for three hours he was use to us and we just can't let him feel like he was left behind, babies i don't think understand what we are tryign to get across why is mommy and daddy doing this they dont know, so why put them thur that. we are taking it one day at a time till he gets use to the ideqal of being in his crib, plus we are still working on his room. Thanks for all the help and advice you all have given alot of it was very helpful.

T.

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B.D.

answers from Dallas on

Our son, too, did the same thing and unfortunately it didn't change until he was in his own room. We tried letting him cry it out and it still didn't work; we think because he knew he was in the same room as us and he could see us in the room. To a baby it's not much different than if you would put him down for nap and expect him to fall asleep while you're standing in the room next to his bed! We stumbled on this when we both fell asleep on the couch one night and he slept through the night. We tried it again the next few nights as he would still wake up, but we let him cry it out and he went back to sleep on his own, but we weren't in the room with him. Once we put him in his own room, he quit waking up in the middle of the night and has slept through ever since...2 1/2 months. So hurry and get the dining room ready! and Good Luck!

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B.L.

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The best advice I can give you is to have a consistent routine every night before bed time. When he wakes do not make eye contact, or talk to him. Just meet his needs, if he has a specific one, quickly and quietly and lay him back down again. Talking to him (or each other)is a reward. The other problem may be that he does not understand why he can't be with you and why you won't pick him up if yall are awake and he can see you right there. When my son was in a crib in our room he would wake more often and when he did and saw us that was it. He only wanted me and not his crib. When we moved him to his room this stopped. I will say that I do not use or recommend the "cry it out" method. If you want more research on why we do not use it and how it can affect the babies physically/mentally just send me a message and I will get it to you. Good luck. I know this will not last forever.

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L.A.

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We have a similar problem.

Mine is almost 10 months, and also in our room b/c he can't share a room yet with the toddler who has sleeping problems at times as well.

I also do have a hubby that comes to bed very late (well, me too, but that's cause he stays up, so I do as well!)

The best thing to do is to rub on the baby's back, sing or talk softly to him, comfort him, but absolutely do NOT pick him up. It will be tough, but he will get used to it.

Also, cash in on that ultimatum. I slept on the couch the other night b/c I was tired of dealing with a screaming baby every night, while my husband slept, so I went to the other room and let HIM deal with it for once. Well, things changed after that and it is a little better now.

Hopefully, things can work out! Maybe if your husband understands WHY it isn't good to pamper the baby he will be more apt not to do it.

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C.J.

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Sorry to hear you are having all these sleeping problems, but have you tried a humidifier in your room. They make lots of noise and maybe it will keep your baby asleep. We have two kids and when we are visiting our inlaws we share a room with our 19 month old. Granted he is a sleeper, but my husband gets up really early and showers when we are there and it makes alot of noise (there is a bathroom in our room). So when he was waking our son up at 4 or 5 a.m. I started running a humidifier to keep him a sleep it worked liked a charm. Also helped me get some sleep :). You could also try moving him into your closet. I know it sounds weird, but if you have a big enough closet then it might just work. You could run a humidifier in there and really keep all noise out. He might just be a very light sleeper and needs noise to keep him a from hearing anything that might wake him up. Best of luck.

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C.D.

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My little one was like that as well. She didn't start sleeping through the night until she was 2. She was a very light sleeper and that drove me crazy! I tried everything, but nothing worked. She wanted to be up or in the bed with us. After many sleepless nights, we decided that we all needed rest and she started sharing the bed with us. Of course this is not want I had anticipated, but it helped and we became a happy family again instead of being sleep deprived.

My daughter is strong willed and I found that out during the times she would cry for almost 2 hours. The let them "cry it out" tactic didn't work for her. The longer they cry and nothing is wrong(all needs have been met) the stubborn they are inside. I didn't want to believe that about my little princess,but it's true. She still cries for long periods today @ 2yo when she can't have her way.

Also, the slightest bit of movement can wake babies...he may be ready to be in his own room and bed or you may just have a light sleeper on your hands. I know what you're going through.

GL!

PS...It gets better. Just find what works for you all. Who says he can't sleep with Mommy and Daddy :)

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E.C.

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This is very normal. My child went through the same thing through this age b/c of teething, growing, etc. My best advice is to be consistant - don't pick her up out of the crib when she wakes up. Try and console her in the crib, change her diaper in the crib, etc. My child is now 21 months old and woke up in the middle of the night just the other day and would not go back to bed. Did the same thing that I did before - consoled her in bed and changed her diaper in the crib. I don't know why she was crying in the middle of the night; however, I was there but did not get her out of the crib. She has been fine the last couple of nights again. Teething is the worst - that is when I noticed the most night wakings!!

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K.M.

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I think the sooner you get the dining room turned into his room the better it will be. Babies really need a routine to get on a good schedule. My son wakes very easy too but he sleeps in his own room and we bought a noise-maker to drown out any noises in the rest of the house (tv etc). It has all the different sounds like waterfall, rain, forest etc. We got that at Bed Bath & Beyond. You might try that. It works great for us! I am sorry you arent getting any sleep. I know how you feel and I hope it will get better soon! Good Luck

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