10 Month Old Will Not Sleep in Crib

Ah yes, I remember making that mistake with my oldest one lol. I didnt get him to sleep in his own bed till he was almost 2. What a BIG mistake I did! It was so hard to get him to sleep in his room. The only way I got him to sleep in his room was get one of those globe things that lite up his room and made like stars and shapes on his ceiling. When I put that in his room and then he laid in his crib and laid in their and looked at that and would eventally fall asleep. When I had my second child he went straight to his crip. I think I did this with my first child, I was one of those first time mommy's that was afraid I wouldnt hear if he would stop breathing etc. Good Luck

It is very important that he learn to sleep in his crib. Crying it out is the only way, especially since he is unfamiliar with sleeping alone. At his next nap,make sure his daiper is fine, he doesn't have a temperature, etc. then lay him down while he is still awake and walk out of the room. Aftrer he cries 5 min, pop your head in the door and that is all. Wait another 10 minutes of crying and pop in your head again. Then wait 15 min. If he is still crying, you can pick him up and check him again for diaper, etc. Hold him awhile and then start over. this time he will probably not cry as long. If he is still crying after the 15 min wait, then let him cry it out. Repeat this for next nap but eliminate picking him up after the first 15 min wait, and at bedtime. He should get the message that first day or the next.

maybe try to rock him to sleep and lay him in his bed for a couple of nights or read him a story nad tell him how he's a big boy to sleep in his own bed. Sometimes they feel important to be told they are such big boys. Mine did.

I had the same issue with my son. What I ended up doing was setting the mattress level of his crib to the exact same height as the mattress on my bed. Then I lowered one of the sides of the crib and put that side flush with my mattress. That way his crib became like an extension to my bed but he was still in his own space. It allowed me to still be able to reach out and touch him which helped comfort him. Gradually, he became more and more used to the crib and eventually I was able to then move the crib away from my bed and raise the side back up.

It sounds to me like you have enough on your hands (with the seperation and being a new "single mommy") to make that transition now. And the baby might need the consistency and assurance with the separation being so new. It also may not be worth the tension of working it out with your husband. That said, if you decide it is important to you, mention to your husband that you would like to start doing this and ask if he would be on board or if he prefers not. Just get his position with out pressure. Don't make this a power thing with your husband, it's just not worth it. f he's not willing to change, you may want to reconsider, so you can be consistent. Just really think through is this worth it at this time?

Sorry for youe troubles with your husband. I did the same thing when my son was a baby when I was seperated from my husband. I think I did it for us both it seemed to comfort us both when during a stressful time, not to mention it afforded me a decent nights sleep when I was trying to work full time, and had a baby who had constant ear infections. As for breaking the habbit, when he turned one, we did started a new routine, and had to just let him cry it out to get him to sleep in his own bed. Within three days he slept through the night for the most part, except for when he got ear infections. I know it's hard to have them cry it out, even in the best of circumstances, but particularily in a situation such as yours. Truth be told though, I feel that if sleeping with you makes life easier on you both right now, then do what you must, maybe try the sleeping independently when things settle down a bit. Unless of course you just can't do it anymore, just make sure you and your husband are on the same page with this so there is no inconsistency, as Daddy's, whether they live with you or not tend to do what is easiest for them. Good luck with everything, and Ihope this helps..

Let him sleep with you if you don't mind. It won't last forever. My daughter was deathly afraid of the crib (don't know why..only left her in there ONCE to cry it out for 20 min...big mistake). Anyway, we just took down the crib and bought her a twin mattress. We set it on a Bunky Board on the floor in her room and she has slept on it with no issues (only fell off two or three times..onto pillows I had around it) ever since. She was 10 months when we did this.

It's important that you and your husband are consistent with him. I know it can be hard to get cooperation from the other person sometimes, but maybe if you sit down and talk with him about making sure you both do the same things. It's much better for the child, and provides them a sense of comfort to have the same routines at each house.

Maybe start with a pack-n-play in your room. Or, one of the methods in "Happy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Dr. Weissbluth is to put him to bed in the crib and sit in a chair in the room and slowly back the chair out as he falls asleep. It can take a couple hours, but it worked for our crib-a-phobic daughter at that age. The kicker is your husband has to make the same commitment for it work. It's probablt more spereation anxiety than crib-a-phobia.
Good luck!

J.,

I would recommend a book called the No Cry Sleep Solution. The author details a plan for transitioning from co-sleeping to getting your baby to sleep in his crib. Best of luck!

Can't help you because my daughter is 23 months and she is still sleeping with us. The crib was never used and is gathering much dust. We tried EVERYTHING, nothing worked and sleep seemed to be the ultimate goal. Good Luck!!!

Let him sleep with you! He needs you and you will sleep better knowing he's by your side. People all over the world for millions of years have been sleeping with their kids.