J.G.
Hi,
I don't know if this will help but here goes.
My daughter's skin was the same way, issues all the time. Baby oil and baby lotion, mineral oil, all made it worse. Now I only use Aveeno on her skin and I found a wonderful conditioner for her hair online -- kinda pricy but it's the only thing I can use on her hair that keeps her scalp clean and clear. It's at www.californiababy.com. They actually have a wide variety of skin and hair products -- the one I use in her hair is "California Baby® Super Sensitive™ Hair Conditioner", but they also have "California Baby® Super Sensitive™ Shampoo & Bodywash" and "California Baby® Super Sensitive™ Everyday Lotion". Honestly, I had so much trouble with her skin and hair, it was terrible, I wish I could attach a picture here, the poor kid looked awful. The Aveeno worked for her skin so I didn't have to get the California Baby lotion but you might want to try it if nothing else has worked...
The good news is, you can find some of these products at Target and other places. The web site will tell you what retail stores carry them, then you can buy the rest online...
Hope this helps,
J.