My son was expelled from school on Friday. He had found a pair of broken scissors (or perhaps he was the one who broke them - no one knows for sure). A few other students had warned him to throw them away, but he put one half of the pair in his pocket. Later, on the playground there was a scuffle on the swing involving those same students. They said they knew he still had the scissors. He pulled them out of his pocket at that point.
He insists he was not intending to hurt anyone. Although, I do know my son pretty well - and I know he is intimidating to his younger brother and sister. He likes to scare them.
So I think he knew very well that this would be frightening to the other kids. He made some pretty bad choices.
The principle discussed suspension and expulsion with me. It was decided that being expelled would send a stronger message to everyone that this was not acceptable behavior.
I actually fully support the schools decision - even though I know this is a huge set-back for my son.
I have contacted a couselor and we will be seeing them asap.
Just wondering if anyone has any advice for me.
A bit more background: my son has ADHD - has been to counselors before - is on medication for the ADHD. He is intelligent and funny and he just seems to have a very difficult time with socialization.
I suggest you enroll him in a small school. Do you know of any good charter schools in your area?
My kids went to a charter school, and while they had no behavior issues, many of the other students were there because they didn't fit in well behaviorally at larger public schools. The charter school was a much better fit for them.
no advice, just a hug. I think you did the right thing, and I know it was difficult. I commend you for your strength and I hope it works!
This story is more common than you may realize. I just want to give you a little "food for thought" maybe.
Kids with ADHD often have difficulty with socialization, if he's very intelligent as well it will be a hundred times harder for him to make friends because he will forever be trying to fit in rather than find himself. I'm a public school teacher-and I teach special education-but there are some students who would thrive greatly at a private school and your son could be one of them.
Also, considering the ADHD diagnosis, have you tried modified diets? I have read up on many cases of red food dye and other unnatural substances in kids making them appear to have ADHD BUT, when the additive has been removed from their diet, they are no long hyper/inattentive and cease to require any medications. Just a thought.
Good luck in all of your endeavors with your son. Raising kids is difficult, raising kids with exceptionalities is more so. Not many parents stand behind a school and bring their child(ren) to counseling. You're a good mom. He may not appreciate it now but he will :)
I'd suggest a routine counciling appointment , one a week or every 2 weeks. And he may need a change in meds if the one he's on does not help with impulse control.
My daughter is ADHD as well and it's trial and error for meds that actually work.
We tried about everything before resulting to meds.
I don't know what your son is on but his dosage or med may need to be changed totally.
Hello, I have a daughter/niece who has ADHD, luckily for us she is not violent in any sense. BUT there is a boy down our street who is very violent and his parents lie for him! So I want to give you "Cudos'" for being a responsible parents; and I am happy that you are seeking counseling for him! That is very important!!! Usually a good counselor can and will be able to help him to think better, like they are doing for my child! My 9y. old has very low self esteem and is very easily "depressed". She is learning to look and think differently about life in general and the things that get her upset! Again, it does my heart good to see parents who love enough to get advice and seek help! I will pray that you all are Blessed and guided by the power of love that God has for us!
Sincerely & Truly,
Kathy N. & Family
Hi, my name is M. and this story sounds just like my son Darrelle, my son also has ADHD. HE ALSO 12 YEARS OF AGE AND EXPELLED from school. and it's really setting my son back and a major way he need his education, darrelle is a nice kida love people and willing to help anymone he see that need help from other people,, his issue for beening expelled he suppose to be wrestle some daycare kid to the floor and some gurl suppose to been saw waht happen he try pulling him of the daycare kids and slapped her and the face, now ... i'm not saying my son is an angel but come it's molre then that to met the eye.. and also darrelle have a a very hard time socialization with other if he heaven't took his medcation other then that so many people love him so much of the highly respect he gas for adults and people he willing to help.. at this moment he's seeking help with a counselor for better help... sometime these teacher and priincipal don't take out the strongest time to help our kids these issues and problems there going to threw.. sometime i look and wonder if they had the problem and we had to put up with these lack of behavior... you can contact me on this at ____@____.com
Get him on Magnesium citrate or Magnesium malate. Many times what is labeled ADD or ADHD is simply a magnesium deficiency. Then you can try to wean him off the drug.
Add vit b complex drops daily, under the tounge.
Heavy metal overload can cause behavior issues and social anxiety. Iron supplements, high grain diets(processed foods), food colorings, Lead ingestion, mercury vaccines, etc. Alpha Lipoic Acid can chelate, and so can NCD Zeolite. Just know that as the metals are released, aggitation will increase. (because the toxin is an irritant to the nervous system). be patient.
Fulvic acid can help increase mental health because it treats trace mineral deficiency.
If you are living in a depressed or high crime/gang area - children will be more agressive, otherwise they will be eaten for dinner at school. That could be a factor.
