13 Month Wont Sleep in Crib

If she's not really interested in the bottle, then the waking has become a habit. To break the habit, you should go in, be very quiet, no talking, no eye contact. If you have to change her, do it with no talking and again, no eye contact. Then lay her back down and just soothe her by patting her on the back until she goes back to sleep. The thing is to break the habit of her getting up. So no interaction, just soothing and no getting her out of the crib.

Our ped told us that at 4 months, or at 12 lbs, whichever comes first, there is no longer a "need" to be fed at night. Your daughter is habituated to the night waking, the night feeding, and the night demands for sleeping in your bed. We used the Ferber method. It worked for us.

Summer is a great time to do this. It will take 7-10 days of consistent application on your part.

If you are concerned about your other daughter, move her temporarily elsewhere so that her sleep won't be disturbed.

It will take some tears and some firm resolve on your part, but at the end of the day you will have a child who sleeps through the night, or who can resume sleeping by herself if she wakes in the night and everyone will be better rested because of it.

Good luck to you and yours,
F. B.

It's going to get worse before it gets better.
Be strong.
Plop her back in her bed and let her squawk.
If she wakes everyone, so be it.
Eventually she will figure it out. Better she figures it out now.

how long do you let her cry? It might be worth risking your other daughter waking for a couple of nights if it works. Sometimes it can take an hour or more the first night, but you'll see significant improvement by the second or third night and little to no crying by night 3-5.

As long as you continue to let her into your bed, she will continue to do whatever it takes to get there.

Does she have a blanket or stuffed animal that she loves? Make sure she has something soft and cuddly in bed with her. Maybe a white noise machine could help too.

I was terrible at getting a sleeping baby (or toddler) into the crib without waking them. I finally said, heck with this, and put a twin mattress on the floor in my son's room. For me, it was a lifesaver. I did not sleep train my boys at all. No cry it out, no Ferber, nothing. I simply found a way to get them to fall asleep - with my oldest it was rocking, with my youngest is was snuggling. I waited for them to fall asleep and then carried them to bed. When they were older I transitioned them into falling asleep in their own bed. My routine is not very popular on this site, but it's my routine and I love it!

Both my kids started out with a mattress on the floor. It made it so easy to carry a sleeping child to bed. It also made it very easy for me to comfort them when they woke in the middle of the night, because I could be right by their side.

She doesn't have to sleep in the crib. I would consider putting a mattress on the floor. Huge help for us!

rather then take her to your bed or the couch sit next to her crib, when she stands up lay her back down. rub her back/tummy and talk or sing to her but don't take her out of bed, just keep telling her it is sleep time. Stay with her until she falls asleep at first, then just until she is calm. If, once calm and you leave she starts again give her a couple of minutes and then go back in to comfort her again, but without taking her out of bed. The first few nights will be long, you and taught her that if she cries she gets to sleep with mommy and daddy, so at first she will try even harder, but eventually she will figure it out and learn to sleep in her own bed.

maybe you can put her in a regular (twin size maybe) bed with a bed rail. You can lay down with her to get her to sleep, then leave. If she wakes up, lay down with her again until she is asleep. Get her used to sleeping ONLY in that bed. Then you can gradually work your way out earlier and earlier.

You could also try putting her crib next to your bed... If the mattresses are even, you could take off a side so she has her own sleeping nook, but is still "in" your bed. (make sure to put a mat of some sort over e seam between the mattresses...) Maybe the proximity would help, and you could gradually move her away...

She needs new soothing methods. She no longer needs the bottle at night, especially if she's only eating a little bit. If she's actually eating a lot then she may need an extra meal during the day.

At bed time, she needs a new soothing routine and when she wakes, reinforce that routine. She knows she can just cry and she'll eventually get what she wants because you've taught her that that's what happens. She just has to cry long enough.

Except what a lot of people don't think through is that babies don't automatically know how to soothe themselves if we've been their soothers. They need to be taught. When we remove ourselves as the main method of soothing them and expect them to self-soothe, we have to make sure that we teach them a new method. Fill that vacuum. Transition with a new method that's comforting, maybe something that includes a special lovey or sound machine or stuffed animal that wears a dress made with an old t-shirt of yours that smells like you. Expect the transition to take a month or so. Stick to the new routine even when you think it's not working because if you give up it won't work.