14 Month Old Doesn't Understand No

My daughter is 2 1/2 years old and i am a first time mom too. what my mom told me to do is to pick her up tell no and put her on the couch just for a few minutes and then let her back down to play if she did it again i would do the same thing it shows them that if they dont stop they dont get to play. hope it works for you.

I have a 15 mos old, and was at the doctor's with her a dew days ago. At that time, my doctor said that she is too young too understand. Whether she does or not, I don't know. But I do know, that she will respond to the tone of voice. Be firm each and everytime, and remove him from the situation. He will eventually learn.

children are never to young to understand. This is a stage all children have to go threw. Each child trys to see what her or she can *get away with* how you respond to his behaivor is a big key and him learning what he is surpose to do and not surpose to do. I am a Mom of three and I took care of my niece for three years. Each one of them went threw this.What I noticed is that if you reacted with surprise and excitment at what your child is doing wrong it becomes a game to them. They love that reaction. If you act unphased by what he is doing and remove the item from him put it were he can't reach it and walk away. He lost. As for NO there isn't a child that understands that word. And it is an uneffective way of teaching them. I have an early childhood degree and we have been taught that no isn't a word in parenting. Even at his young age you have to remove what it is he or she is doing wrong and explain to the child why. * That toy is going to give you a boo. Mommy doesn't want to see you hurt* and so on fully explaining what he or she is doing wrong is an important part of there development. They quickly learn each thing they do is for a reason. always replace the item you took away from the child with something he or she can play with better to use a fav toy. If he or she is playing with a correct toy you praise him or her * Those blocks are really fun to play with. Your doing a great job building* and so on. it takes time and it gets frustrating but I have learned to talk things threw with each of my children. Time and patience there is more to come good luck...kindly B.

Hi L., I hope you don't just say "no" and expect him to understand. You have to use actions also. If you tell him no and he continues, then remove what he is touching that you don't want him to. If he laughs, remove him and give him time out. As you say "no", do you make your voice firm and point your finger? You have to show him who is boss. Having consequences is what will teach him how to understand what the word "no" means. -M.-

the not talking doesnt help. I know my sons 3 and not up to speed. he talks but gets frustrated cause i dont always understand. and wait.. it getst to be more fun when NO disiplining works (like the time out ) (room sending ) *( a wrap on the behind).
it has gotten better the more he's learnign. but i ve done things liek take a way favorite toys. walked awya while he's tantruming. even said NO to grandmas cause he was bad. find what he really likes adn snatch it awy whne he doestn listen .
Im afirst time mom at 37.

He's not to young to understand you. We introduced time outs when my son was about this age. We make him stand in the corner. It wasn't long before he understood what it meant when we said "Do you want to stand in the corner?". Remove him from what it is you want him to stop doing. Don't just use words.

Children at this age crave attention and they do not necessarily differenciate good attention from bad attention unless you out-right scream and then you'll notice their sensitivity levels heighten.

If they are doing something and are getting a response from you they will keep doing it.

Around 1.5yrs. you can start using time outs but at this point it's better to just divert your child's attention to something else and ignore temper tantrums instead of re-using the word "no"

My son is also 14 months :) I hope this helps!!

redirect him into doing something else..time outs foor a minute can help on some things on the not talking try making him ask for things he wants & see if you can get him to repeat what u say

As long as you are saying no in a firm voice (not loud and angry...boy that's a hard one sometimes) no is making an impact. Everything I have read says that babies that small understand no, but usually don't listen. I think it has to do with testing boundaries. So, just make sure you are firm, and reinforce the no, with removing them from the situation or taking away whatever they have that you don't want them to have. Things like that. Sometimes it's really hard not to laugh when they are being so cute, but try to remember that will only make him think it is a game.

Neither of my kids were/are talking at 13/14 months, but sometimes I could get the correct response from me saying "no" One thing we try to do, is when they do listen, make a big deal about what good listeners they are. I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 13 month old. If you tell him things does he understand? Like pick up that toy? I had been a little concerned with my son that he wasn't talking, and that maybe he had hearing issues, but the pediatrician said that as long as he responded when I said something in a way that let me know he heard me, not to worry. Kids that small are still figuring out the world around them, testing, discovering, learning, they just don't always do it the way we think they are going to.

So good luck, and just be firm. No will mean no and get the right reaction soon.

I am in the same boat as you. Nick understands what no means, he just chooses not to listen. He is the same way with the TV too - he'll look at you with a grin and wait to be told no. I do like the advice of explaining why he can't do something. He is not talking either but he has hit the tantrum stage. I just let him throw his fit and ignore it. If he's screaming for no reason, I refuse to pick him up and tell him I'm not holding him until he stops crying and he stops a minute or two later but it definitely tries my patience.

Hey every child does this. My daughter would not leave the blinds alone to save her life. I have asked other Moms and they told me to just say No and move there attention away to other things. Even though you might do this a 100 times a day. It will soon pay off and you will be amazed at how well he will start acting. Coming from a Mom who just got out of this stage. You can do it and I promise he will stop just by giving up because you are so persistent. It is easier said than done but we all have to do it.
I have also tried bending down and saying do not touch that again and moving them away. This helps them from tuning out the word No from hearing it over and over.
Good luck and it will get better with in the next few months if you stay persistent.

R.

Hi, L.! I am 25 and have two boys, a four-year-old and 14-month-old. My "baby" reacts the same way when I tell him "No". He doesn't speak, either. I'm not worried about his speach development, because I know he understands what I'm saying. For instance, if I tell him to put his toys in the toy box, he'll do it. Sometimes, he won't listen to me, but he'll look at me as if he's waiting to see my reaction. That's just him wanting my attention. So, I'll tell him that as soon as he does what I asked him to do, then I'll play with him, etc. That usually motivates him...knowing that he'll have my undivided attention after he listens to me.

toddlers are like teenagers if they find that you get aggrivated they do it more to test you the best thing is to get them interested in something be persistent and try using other words or phrases that mean no hope this helps

My grandaughter is the same way tell her no she throws a fit we try to redirect her elsewhere with her things sometimes it works sometimes not you just have to keep saying no til they listen wich is really hard and can be frustrating.

I have a fifteen month old that is the same way. I also have a 4 1/2 year old who was the same way at that age. They like to test limits and boundaries. I found that of course you still need to teach no, but at that age you need to distract them and get them focused on something else. I would tell him no so he gets it in his head that he's not supposed to be doing that, but then get him into playing with something else. My son's favorite thing right now is walk up to the tv, turn around and look at me and pretty much wait for me to say no and he'll turn it off and run away. My daycare has helped me out a lot with learning discipline techniques because I had no clue what age was too young, and when my daughter was that age, they would start putting her in time out when she'd start hitting. It wasn't a long time out, it was acutally more of separating her from the rest of the kids and showing her that if she continued with that behavior that she'd be playing by herself. Good luck!

Well, what I do with my 9 month old is give him 2 chances to stop what I am telling him not to do. Both times I tell him why he can't do it (keep it short). If he does it again, I move him from the plug, cord, drawer or whatever it is, and start playing with him with one of his toys until he forgets about what he was getting into before.

Don't be fooled he know what No means. That is why he grins at you...he knows.

While my son is only 8 weeks old I was a Preschol teacher for many years. I found that instead of saying just "no" it would help to say "Bob We don't hit our friends thats not okay" and then redirect him to something that was okay "You can hit this drum" Showing toddlers something that is okay to do while teaching them what is not oaky is a hard lesson. Good Luck!