In 1985 or so, I watched a TV interview with the author of the book, THE FAMILY BED. He was in favor of allowing children to sleep with parents. He said that throughout the ages, children have always slept with parents. Things changed around the late 1940's, when ideas about family and wealth changed after WWII. Americans showed their new found middle-class wealth by having a house with a separate "nursery" just like the rich people. Only thing they forgot is - - rich people always had nannies and wet nurses sleeping in the nurseries at night. Middle-class folk just stuck their babies all alone in an empty, scary room with NO nannies, NO siblings. Dr. Spock in the 60's came along and said let them cry it out. The author said it is not a natural thing for a human being to sleep ALONE. Our skin is our biggest organ and the sense of touch sends electrical nerve impulses to all internal organs. Babies who are touched gain more weight - - and "thrive." Romanian orphans left alone to cry in cribs with ZERO-touch did not develop properly. Some suffered learning retardation and ATTACHMENT DISORDER. We ALL crave skin-to-skin contact. The thing about this TV show 25 years ago that sticks with me is this: A woman from the audience stood up and said, "Well, I do NOT believe children should be allowed in their parent's bed. When our son used to wake up in the night and cry, we would take him a glass of water and tell him that the water would wash away all the bad dreams!" The author just listened, then asked the women this question, "If you went to your husband and said, 'Honey, I just need a hug right now' and your husband said, 'Here's a glass of water,' how would you feel?" After watching that TV show, I went on to have 4 kids. All 4 slept in our room in various ways. First one in a crib next to our bed; 2nd one in co-sleeper at side of our bed until age 1, then sharing brother's big-boy bed until age 3 or so, then sharing room with 2 twin beds; 3rd child slept in crib in our room, then shared room with 2nd born, when oldest got his own room at age 5; 4th child slept in our bed until age 2, skipped crib, went right to sharing room with 3rd born. The author said that a good rule to follow when older toddlers come into your room in the middle of the night and want to crawl into bed with you - - "NEVER OFFER, NEVER REFUSE." Our older kids are in their 20's and never suffered sleep problems or had anxiety of any kind. As teenagers it was pretty smooth sailing. No drugs. No arrests. No car crashes. Right now, oldest is in 3rd year at medical school, 2nd applying to law school, 3rd working far away in Montana, 4th was placed in 9th grade math as a 7th grader. They grew up so fast and I really miss those warm, snuggly mornings when I woke up with little pudgy arms around my neck. If it weren't for photos of their angel faces sleeping next to each other - - they would not remember sharing a bed with siblings. WARNING: Never co-sleep with a child if you drink alcohol or do any sort of drug or take sleeping pills. It only works if you are a light, "Mommy-hears-everything" type of sleeper.