Really G., I think this is mostly a maturity thing. For example, my daughter plays hockey, goalie position. My husband really wanted this for her, but she was 6/7 years old. The rest of the team are skating and chasing a puck, while she stood there and waited for the puck to come to her. Eventually, she did what we called counting lights or star gazing. We would watch her start looking up at the roof of the rink. Eventually, the puck would come up and whiz right by her. I guess about half way through the season, she began to keep her eyes off the lights and watch for the puck.
My husband really wanted her to play on the travel team here, however, I wasn't seeing it. I took her to a 5 day goalie camp. She worked from 9 - 4 for 5 days. When the goalie coach worked with her, she did exactly what he said and did very well, per the coach. As soon as he rotated to the next player, she didn't do it.
I came home and made the decision she was not mature enough for the travel team. With this, we were able to switch her team, as I didn't think the team she was on was the right team for her either. I realize you don't really have the same ability to switch classes.
She hasn't played a game with her new team, but she has been to about 5 practices, both private and team. My husband says she is working really hard and doing really well. The coach has made comments as well and one of the other coaches has taken notice of her. Monday she went in for her second assessment and my husband said she was sleeping on the ice (not paying attention). I asked why she fell asleep on the ice and she said she was tired and went to bed late. Yesterday she went to her private lesson and she came home and she told me she did really good. I asked why this was better than Monday and she said she got more rest. Okay (self), take note of what she says.
A little school background, she is a pretty good student, but not a straight A student. I think she has the ability if she applies herself, but I just haven't gotten that out of her yet. She is a mirror reader & writer, so reading and writing can be a challenge for her. She started Kumon at the end of last year to help with the reading and that has helped a great amount.
At the start of the school year, we watched a David Blaine series. She asked how he does that and I told her he does a lot of his work with his mind...I don't really get it myself. I told her I thought his story was that he was a poor little boy and he started with one deck of cards and learned to do some tricks and set his mind to focus on his magic. She thought that was cool and I told her that we can all focus our minds on what we like to do best and make things happen for ourselves, as no one can give us anything, they can only help us. I told her, this can work with hockey and with school.
So far, 2 weeks into school, she has been tested in all subjects and she has a 3.0 in each subject, per the website. Her goalie coach says she is really good. One of her private lessons on the synthetic ice, he says he took 300 shots at her and she blocked most of them. That is a great improvement from the kid who was star gazing last year. The last practice she had, she had 3 shooters on her at once for the entire practice and she did very well, per my husband and per the coach. My husband said the coach told him it was like she was hungry for the shots.
Anyway, back to your situation. I suggest you support the teacher and him as well. Talk to him about his day, even if you have to pry it out of him. I mean, if you ask what he learned today and he says math, ask him what he learned in math, was it counting, adding, shapes, or what. Make him talk about it.
As you realize this could just be a maturity issue, keep an open mind to the amount of rest he gets, proper diet and breakfast, sugar intake, processed food intake, lazy eyes, lazy eyes when he is tired (week eye muscles), and personal needs.
I already mentioned my daughters own admission to not getting enough sleep. Along with her improvements, when I had her in hockey camp, we were out of town. I don't think I fed her any processed foods at all. My husband likes to give her jarred cheese, squirt out of the can cheese, McD's, candy, and a bunch of other junk. I have even caught him giving her dip stix colored sugar junk before the game. I am certain he got this from that TV show that gives their little girls the gogo juice before they go on stage. That method is one quick disaster. I have read a lot about processed foods making you sleepy. As well, food has always been known to give you energy, but some articles said not to feed her before practice because you are sleepy during digestion. Well, she had energy all day long at camp and she ate a nice balanced lunch of protein, carbs, and fruit. As well, I fed her an egg every morning for breakfast. So far, my husband has realized that her diet is important. I also mention lazy eyes. My older daughter got into a lot of trouble in 2nd grade for her lack of attention and sloppiness. The teacher pointed out that she had the ability to turn in nice papers, but sometimes wrote across the page, falling off the lines. As it turned out she had a lazy eye and we did eye therapy to correct it. That took care of A LOT of our problems. As for his personal needs, my daughter is very active. She likes to exercise every day. If she doesn't ice skate that day, she asks to go for a walk or if she can get on the elliptical. I have had some people tell me she is in a lot of activities, but like i said, if she doesn't ice skate, she asks me to take her for a walk.
Enjoy him as you watch him grow and mature. All of you will have his personal needs figured out in no time.
Best wishes.