25Th Wedding Anniversary

Updated on August 04, 2010
K.O. asks from Dupo, IL
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Who gives a 25th wedding anniversary party? Are adult children expected to give a 25th wedding anniversary for their parents?

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Thanks to everyone for responding. My Mom & Dad were married 25 years 13 years ago and my Dad passed away 10 years ago. I didnt realize it was the children's responsibility to throw a party and my mom still complains that we didnt. Obviously it is too late. If she had mentioned she wanted one I would have been happy to organize it, but I had no idea. All 7 of us "kids" were in our 30's but none of us had been to a 25th party or knew it was what is expected. Im just so tired of hearing the same complaint. I threw them both a surprise 50th birthday when that hit. I still didnt think the kids threw the party. Just decided to ask & see what other people believe is proper.

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T.T.

answers from Dallas on

The kids and the nieces and nephews gave my aunt and uncle their 25th wedding anniversary.

There are 6 or 7 of us so it made for a cheaper and more well rounded party.

Although you aren't REQUIRED per se to give them a party...a nice dinner with the family would be a welcome celebration should money be an issue.

I also through my mom a retirement party which my cousins helped with and threw my late grandmother her 80th birthday as well.

Good luck to you.

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F.S.

answers from St. Louis on

I know alot of people that do, we always have in our family as well. I don't know if the children are expected to, however I think that it should come from the children. After all how many children in this day and age can say my parents have been married 25 yrs?? That is something to celebrate!! When my husband and I got married 9 yrs ago everyone ofcourse was telling us congrats like they do any newlyweds but I turned to my husband and said getting married is the easy part the marriage is what will take work I want to hear congrats once we make it to 10, 15,, 25, 50, etc....I think it's also a big thank you coming from the children because marriage is not easy and alot of people want to just throw in the towel. So if your parents made it 25 yrs and you grew up in a home with stability and both parents then yes you should throw a party for them and thank them for sticking it out for you kids even when it wasen't easy.

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D.H.

answers from Indianapolis on

Well, my kids didn't..............I hoped they would, but they didn't............my grandparents threw their own 50th with some help........

I think if your parents are getting ready to have their 25th, and you have siblings, it would be great to celebrate it somehow......I never had a wedding cake, not for the first one, nor for this one............so you might ask your Mom, or whomever, what was absent from their wedding........if it was nothing, then find out what colors they had etc.....and try to match the event.........

Also, for a present, pictures in a scrap book would be great.......if you can get some of the wedding day from family or friends, that would be awesome with pics in the back for now....with kids and grand-kids.....be sure to leave space for them to put pics in from the party too.....

Good Luck and have a great time.......it doesn't have to be expensive.....just fun and loving.

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J.K.

answers from Kansas City on

Thats what the adult children have all done in our family. Not sure if it is 'expected' or not, but it is nice.

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S.W.

answers from St. Louis on

Our 25th was last year and our kids were not in a position to do anything. One is in college and was out of state; the other was out of the country. I would not have expected them to have the party.

My parents 50th was 6 weeks later and we arranged dinner at a nice restaurant that my dad paid for. My sister and I brought the cake complete with their wedding topper and candle stick holders. It was what they wanted. I started planning a big party but they changed their minds.

Every family is different.

J.B.

answers from Kansas City on

I was only 18 and my sister was 16 when my parents had their 25th anniversary, so we weren't in a position to host a party. But we did throw one for their 40th a couple of years ago. I think anniversary parties are usually thrown by the kids, but I don't think anyone should expect a party to be thrown for them after they graduate from high school and move out on their own. :)

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S.H.

answers from St. Louis on

I know you've already responded, but this is a subject I feel strongly about! My husband & I are going to hit our 30th anniv next year. I have never, ever expected my children to give us a party! It just doesn't seem right to "expect" someone to provide for you!

On our 20th, my parents (who are divorced) & my sis gave us a wkend trip, babysitting included (our boys were 5 & 14). For our 25th, we had a nice dinner....& my husband went on a fishing trip & I went on a wkend trip w/ my Mom. Worked out perfect.....we each did what we really wanted!

I recently asked my husband what he'd like to do for our 30th. I offered a trip together, a big family party, or did he just want to go fishing again. He just looked at me & said, "this is a trick question. No matter how I answer it, I'm going to get it wrong!" I told him that I truly wanted him to choose...& in the end, he chose fishing. I could see that he was waiting for the bomb to drop.....& he jumped when I shouted "hooray! You go fishing & I'll go to New Orleans with Mom & my sis". He swears that I was still manipulating him! Whatever!

Anyway, again, it never-ever occured to us to wait for our sons to throw us a party! They'll be 15 & 24......& it's just not right to expect that. We are no longer living in the "Leave it to Beaver" world. Parents are older now, couples are waiting to have children. It's a different world!

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R.R.

answers from Buffalo on

My sisters and I hosted a 25th wedding anniversary party for my parents 2 years ago. We had it at the Holiday Inn where we live. We invited all the family and friends, but we didn't have children there. It was a nice party for my parents to celebrate 25 years of marriage, but also for all the adults in our family to celebrate and have a good time as well. We had 2 different kinds of punch, soda and water, as well as beer and wine. We also had cake and coffee or tea. We had a pretty big spread of food, buffet style. It was a wonderful party, and my parents still talk about it to this day. We also got them an engraved scrapbook and put together pictures for them to remember the last 25 years, as well as we took old pictures and put them on a huge poster board to have displayed at the party. We all had a wonderful time!! Hope this helps :)

L.A.

answers from Austin on

For my inlaws, we hosted a small family dinner. It was with their parents. We tried to invite the best man and maid of honor and their spouses, but they were all unavailable, but sent flowers!

You could host a "meet and greet". On a Sunday afternoon, have a beautiful cake (order a tiered cake and add fresh flowers) and have coffee, punch and sparkling wine.. Invite (evite and paper invites) lots of their friends and acquaintances to drop by at their convenience.. From 1:00 - 4:00.. this way people can pop in and visit or come and stay the whole time..

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R.P.

answers from Salt Lake City on

My children won't. I would love it if they would but I don't expect it. They won't be old enough to even think about it. I was married at 21 but wasn't able to have children until I was 26. When I reach that milestone, my oldest will only be twenty and I hope he won't be thinking of me at that age. (I have other plans for him but know he'll have to decide). My younger children will still be in school and I hope their schoolwork is their focus. If I have a 25 year anniversary party, I'll have to give it myself. So to answer your question, it may depend on the age and maturity of the children.

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