26 Yr Old Low Income Mama of 1 Struggling with Weight

Okay - so there's two issues here. One is your feelings, the other is your weight. They seem the same, but they don't have to be. After all, lots of women who are size 18 feel very confident and look very sexy. And lots of women who are a size 2 don't.

I would say first get some clothes in your current size that do make you feel good. Don't spend a fortune, but don't feel like you shouldn't look good because you're wearing "fat clothes." Do your hair in the morning, and put on make up when you go out. Walk with your shoulders back and smile a people. All of that will make you feel good just as you are. Once you believe that you can look good, you'll be really motivated to look better. The problem is that right now you don't really believe that you _could_ look good, and so what's the point of losing weight? I promise you, you can look great.

Secondly, work on losing a little weight. Easiest weight loss tips ever:
1. Drink nothing but water (no soda, milk, beer, etc). If you really can't stand water, get sugar free crystal light.
2. Snack as much as you want, but ONLY on fruits or vegetables. Cut up a ton of carrots and keep them on hand. Same with cucumber, celery, peppers, mushrooms, etc. Always have apples, oranges, bananas nearby.
3. Before each meal, drink a full glass of water. It helps you to feel fuller faster, so that you're not eating when you're not "really" hungry.
4. When you are hungry for a meal, imagine dividing your plate in half. Fill half of it with fruits or vegetables again. One quarter should be (lean) protein (chicken, fish, meat) and one quarter should be carbs (bread, pasta, rice, corn, potatoes, etc). If you finish that plate, get more food, but always start by eating fruits or veggies again first.

The pounds won't fall off instantly, but it's healthy and easy to keep track of. It's also not a "diet" but a way to maintain that weight.

I wish you good luck. I'm sure that you are a strong, smart woman. And I'm confident that you will get to the point where you feel good in your own skin too.

The best and most cost effective way to lose weight is to walk. If you're home with your daughter, put her in a stroller and walk for 20 minutes... then 30... then 40. And when you can do that, see if you can jog a bit with your daughter in the stroller. It's a no-cost exercise plan.

Our society tells us that we need to spend money, take a class, follow a program, etc, but you really don't. Walk every day. Make it part of your routine. And eat only whole foods. Seriously, try to eat only things that have one ingredient. Zucchini. Carrots. Rice. Salmon. Avoid processed foods and excess dairy (like butter) and you'll be amazed at how much weight you can lose.

You say you don't have time for excercise, is that really true? Or could you excercise at a time that may not sound so wonderful right now but would be the best for everyone's schedule? Only asking because I am also a SAHM with three kiddos who are 13, 5, and 5 (twins). I get up each morning at 5:00 am, yes 5:00 to do my hour of excercise. It works out perfectly because everyone is still asleep and then I have time to shower and get ready before they wake up at 7:00. It may take some getting used to but after a week or two you may find you are waking up before your clock goes off (believe it or not!). Believe me, I am not telling you this without completely understanding how you are feeling. In the last year and a half, I have lost 69 lbs from counting points (WW) and excercising. If you don't have any home equipment, then go to your local library, I bet there are assorted DVD's you can borrow for excercising or you can buy some for around $9 at Walmart (maybe buy one a month??). The bottom line is that if you are feeling poorly about yourself, then you have to get motivated to do something about it. No one else can do this for you, it takes a lot of sweat and sacrifice but you can do it. You will feel so much better physically and mentally....committ yourself to one year, it may sound like a long long time but look at it this way, that year will come and go whether you lose weight or not, wouldn't you rather get to the end of it feeling like a million bucks? YOU CAN DO IT!!! Best wishes to you :-)

I feel your pain! I really do. I am still young, 31, and gained over 100 lbs. during my pregnancy. The unfortunate thing is that I was already 40 lbs. over-weight when I became pregnant. Do the math, and that is 150 lbs. to lose! So frustrating. I lost 60 lbs. pretty quickly, but then stalled and could not lose a pound to save my life.

I will tell you my story of the last 100 days...

First, like a previous poster said, I started styling my hair and puting make-up on everyday. I went out and bought a pair of jeans that fit me ( I had vowed not to buy clothes in a size 22) and a few shirts that made me feel cute so that I could wear something besides sweats and crappy t-shirts. I needed to feel good about myself, even if I wasn't even close to where I wanted to be.

Then, I attacked my eating habits...

I finally started losing weight again and this is how I am doing it. Nearly 100 days ago, I made a promise to myself that I would eat whole foods for 100 days. I started with an elimination diet, and vowed that I would re-introduce wheat, soy, corn and dairy after two weeks. After the elimination part, I stuck with leaving out all processed foods, dairy ( I realized I had a diary intolerance), processed sugars and sweetners. I drink only water and a cup of black coffee a day. I eat as much fruit and vegetables as I would like and I stick to lean protiens (chicken and fish mostly). On occassion, I'll have red meat or pork. I also have one starch/carb a day, which is typically a whole grain rice or yam. Previously, I would drink a ton of diet soda a day and I ate cheese like it was my job! I try to walk as my as possible.

I thought that my part of the grocery bill was going to be astronomical, but it has acutally gone down.

I have 21 days left. I have lost 31 pounds and feel remarkable. Clearly, I will continue to do this after my 100 days, but 100 days was just an initial goal. I figured if I couldn't do 100 days, then what could I do? BTW...I have not a single craving for sugar or CHEESE!! Who knew??

I have 55 lbs. left to lose, but I finally feel like I have broken the code.

I still feel like the fat girl in the group (because I still kind of am). And I still feel like I am being judged, but I do feel like I finally have a grasp on the situation. Before, I felt so out of control. But like you, I consider myself a strong and smart woman and knew that I would figure it out somehow.

I wish you the best of luck! Full-time school with a little one? Oh my goodness...

You sound like a strong smart woman--I'm glad you said that about yourself! And, the most important person in your life--your daughter--doesn't know what size is. I don't have any great suggestions. Drink lots of water, eat small portions, don't eat after a certain time. Put your beautiful little girl in her stroller and walk when you can (I know you're in school). Does your school have a gym you can use--maybe you can stay after class and spend 30-45 minutes on the elliptical or treadmill. The number on the scale and the number on the label of your clothes does not matter. What matters is that you feel good about yourself!!! ((HUGS))

I think a size 10 should be your first goal, then push for a size 8. You want to be healthy, not model-like. Besides, everyone has their own ideal weight and if you are normally 165 or so, then you won't ever be a size 2 b/c even if you did lose that much weight, it would not look healthy on you. I have always hated my weight too but obvioulsy not enough to do anything about it. I belonged to a gym until I tore my miniscus and then canceled the membership. From there it was my excuse not to exercise. My problem is I like to eat and I eat large portions. it was what I was used to. I could eat a whole burger, fries, then finish my child's if they did not finish it. I would eat until I was FULL.....I knew what to do, as you do too. so, I tell you all this b/c 6 months ago I got a heart scare and they gave me 6 months to lower my cholesterol or I get on meds. at my age, that is not good. The dietician gave me a diet that was essentially the exact same diet that I was on when I had gestational diabetes with my daughter. Basically it is cut out sugar and eat smaller portions. Over the last 6 months I wanted to exercise, bought a treadmill telling myself I HAVE to do this. Well, I got a sinus infection, an ear infection, ;vomiting bug from my kid's school, colitis that put me in the hospt for 3 days, then strep throat. I tell you all of this b/c that meant that I could not exercise at all which was detrimental!! BUT, what I did do was follow the dietician's menu each day. The first month I was really hungry but I did it. The second month it got easier b/c I 'felt' skinnier. the third month I had lost a few lbs and now I was excited. All from just my diet. by the 6th month I had lost 10 lbs! ONLY from my diet, not exercise. Imagine if I HAD exercised! so, long story to the point that really, truly DOES work:
smaller portions, she told me 1500 calories a day which for your size, maybe 1800 to start with, up your fiber and up your protein. I have heard recently that fiber and protein mixed is a magical combination and apparently it is! My day consisted of: oatmeal or Fiber One cereal for breakfast. I bought the High Fiber Oatmeal and a can of the plain oatmeal, I mixed the packet 1/2 and 1/2 of the canned plain with some cinnamon, that cut down on my sugar but yet still had some flavor. Then you need to have a 100 calorie snack mid morning. I had either an apple, Fiber One granola bar (they are SUPER good tasting), weight watchers cheese stick with some pretzels or some almonds. lunch was the Arnold's round bread/buns. It is bread but round and thin and it is delicious! It is only 100 calories for both pieces and is high fiber. I would have low fat turkey and one slice of cheese or tuna with a piece of lettuce. On the side was red grapes or something similar. afternoon snack was maybe a high fiber yogurt or I added Flax meal often, very healthy, or popcorn, pretzels, 100 calorie packs or cheese nips, etc or cottage cheese with Flax meal in it, or the flavored mini rice cakes, etc only 100 calories at each snack. Then dinner was protein ( no bigger than your palm) and a veggie and a carb. One idea I did for lunch or dinner was chicken with black beans and a little bit of brown rice in a tortilla. That gives you the protein and fiber and carbs that you need for energy. Very good meal. You can also mix that in a bowl and save the calories of the tortilla. Dessert you get another 100 calories which can be a 100 calorie pack or Nilla Wafers.
You can do this but you have to want it. My health for my children did it for me. I have lost 10lbs, one pant size, a hole on my belt and tons of compliments. You can do it, it is a mind set. Print this or write down each idea I gave you and stick to it for one month and it WILL become a habit. I still had cake at parties, I just had 1/2 piece, just enough to taste it and not starve myself. Think of it this way, if after one month you don't want to eat this way anymore, you can always go have a big burger with some ice cream! :o) Good luck to you, email me if you need any more help.

The key component in weight loss is diet. I bet that you are eating way more, and worse foods, than you think you are. I strongly urge you to do at least the free trial period of weight watchers online to teach you what and how to eat along with portion control. There are also very supportive forums there where you can find people at your size to discuss your situation with and also find people who WERE your size and have managed to lose it.

Only you can decide to take charge of this. Its something you need to find in yourself. 10 was my biggest size, so I don't know how to handle obesity per say, but weight loss is weight loss. You have to create a calorie deficit. Most women eat 700 more calories a day than they think they do. Do get out a journal, a food scale, some measuring cups, a calorie counter (I use calorieking.com, but there are booklets too) and account for everything you eat. Figure out how many calories a woman your age, height, and weight needs to eat to loose weight and give it a go. You will learn so much about yourself. What you need is a proven formula. Calories in vs. calories out is the only way I've ever been able to loose weight. If the sound of this is overwhelming to you, then do weight watchers so you can get step by step guidance , support, and accountability. I also would portion control and switch to healthy food only to find I wouldn't loose. It wasn't until I monitored the calories I was able to be successful.

Honey a size 2 is not "normal"! In this country the average sized woman is a 14. True!
I think the important thing is to just do something. O. thing. Start there. Park your car further away from school or get off the bus a few blocs early. Get a small walk in every day. O. thing.
I'm doing that. Trying to just have the foal of a walk. Every day. That O. thing.
OR increase servings of fruit & veggies. Replace O. cruddy snack per day with a piece of fruit or some raw veggies.
Start small. It will help you to feel better about yourself.
and if you can afford it--treat yurself to something that makes you feel good. A pedicure, a haircut/trim, etc. Maybe O. every month or every other month.
Some of the happiest women I know are curvaceous and are happy in their skin.
Thin does not define us. Happiness, gratitude and love can define me anytime!
Good luck to you!

p.s. Repeat this to yourself 10 times per day: IALAC (I Am Lovable and Capable!)

How about a jogging stroller off craig's list and start running? There are groups of moms who do it you may be able to find. In bad weather, dance with your daughter inside. Just getting moving to music. Your daughter will love it.

There's a commercial with a young gal re: Weight Watchers online-maybe that would help??? It's not insurmountable-you can do it-you're so young-please don't stop trying.

I hate that you feel so terrible about yourself. Sometimes those feelings about our looks and weight can make us feel so isolated and lonely bc the insecurity inhibits us. You don't want to go out, you feel like quitting everything bc nothing you have to wear fits or feels good, socializing feels like your on a giant screen tv 10x your size and everyone is staring.

I'm just really sorry you're going through this.

I went through this in high school and a little after each baby was born (gained 70lbs each time!). I remember high school like it was yesterday.

Well it sounds to me like you don't want to feel this way anymore and I think you should take that emotional energy and turn it into motivation!

there are so many things you can do without a gym membership.

1. go for power walks with your child each day!! walking burns 3x more fat than running. aim for at least 45 minutes! If you're walking to the store, just increase your speed so you can feel your heart rate increase but not too much. if youre too out of breath to talk, then it's too high. you want to be at 60-65% of your max HR to burn the most fat.

2. get an exercise DVD (30 day shred is wonderful and also Patrick Goudeau Step Up, Calories burned: About 710 - was in the Fitness Magazine's top 10 fitness videos)... I would personally set you on a program of 3-4 power walks a week and then doing the Step Up video 2x a week. Honestly, even without diet that would shred a ton of pounds, and itsn't too hard! I think you might need a stepper but you can find those on craigslist very cheap! or get cheap ones at walmart for about $15.

3. I would certainly NOT take diet pills. WASTE of money and they are only a short term solution. If you take anything longer than 6 weeks, you RUIN your metabolism and actually make it HARDER to lose weight (which causes you to get addicted to diet pills and need larger doses to lose weight or keep it off). You can try supplements like l-glutamine and l-carnitine to aid in your digestion and help speed up your metabolism. Over time, they definitely work. But you'd also have to change your diet with those.

Diet:

1. golden rules to help you START losing weight are: if you have to microwave it, you probably shouldn't eat it. If it has more than 8 ingredients, your liver probably cannot process it (which leaves leftover 'things' for your body to deal with, which slows the metabolic process) and if it's hard for you to pronounce or you don't know exactly what it is, good chance your liver feels the same. If it makes your car smell for over a day; SKIP that drive thru! If it has calories, then don't DRINK it (though I keep a coffee clause in here LOL!!!).

2. the more natural and "whole" you go, the healthier/cheaper. You don't have to go organic. By whole foods, I mean starting from the ground up. Fruit, vegetables, nuts, then on to spices. Then travel on to animals and fish, honey and cheese. Just go from ground up.

3. Simplify your meals. Don't drizzle, cover, pour or melt. Food doesn't have to be encased in cheese, gravy and sauce to be good. Eliminating "toppings" and creamy sauces can eliminate a lot of calories! And the more clear your salad dressing is, the better. (same goes for soup)

4. LESS dairy. I used to have a terrible habit of eating bowls of cereal throughout the day (for no reason!). I loved the cold + crunch. I still miss it. but I cut out grains, starch, dairy and most sugars. I dropped weight like crazy.

hope this helps a little.
biiiiiig (((hugs)))

I know how you feel. I am 5 foot and 3.5 inches. I was 213.4 pounds in November. I am now 185.6 pounds. I started watching what I ate the Sunday after Thanksgiving. Remember,it is also not what you eat but how you eat it. I never skip breakfast that is the golden rule. I eat a lot of protein and have cut down on the carbs like breads,rices and pastas. I do not drink soda's or eat chips. For breakfast I may eat some eggs,scrambled,hard boiled. I work out and have a protein bar after I work out. Make sure to eat every four to six hours. It may sound strange but it works and helps speed up the metabolism. I eat breakfast, a healthy snack,lunch,healthy snack,dinner and a healthy snack. I was in a size twenty and now I am in a size sixteen. I feel better about myself and when I feel depressed I tell myself I am doing well. If all else fails, I go and work out. It is springtime. Go for a walk. Soon the swimming pools will open. Drink lots of water,green tea but make sure no sugar. Brew it yourself and add some honey instead of sugar and add lemon juice. Cut back on the caffiene,it makes your body hold water. remember the weight did not come on that quickly so do not expect it to come off that easily. God bless,have faith and will power and it will all work out.

I feel furious that someone would have the balls to tell a women that her kid is cute only because of the father! I wish I personally knew you so I could go choke this horrible person! If you have a half hour a day wich you probably do since you only have one kiid and you stay at home except to go to school wich is part time, you could buy a work out DVD. I like Leslie Sansone she has walking ones that are really good..you can get one for like10-12 dollars at Walmart so they are not expensive. I am a SAHM also with 3 kids and a husband who is always working and I walk everywhere now to lose the weight of my last baby wich just would not come off like the it did with the other 2. Also if you have cable some types have exercise on demand that are free so that's an option if you have cable or satelite. It sucks to look in the mirror and feel like a big fat cow and put clothes on and hate the way they look. I feel you. You just have to bite the bullet and make time for exercise I decided that I am sick of looking the way I do and I want as much of my old body back as I can (after 3 kids not sure if I'll look the same) Gook luck and go punch that idiot in the face...I am still fuming over that horrible comment...

Walk. It's free and you can take your little one with you. Don't take pills. They do much more harm than good. Watch your food you're eating and pay attention to when you're eating as well. Tell yourself you ARE beautiful and believe it. I have an online program I'm using now that's been helping me. PM me and I'll send you the link (it's free as well).

How does your Husband, react to you and what you look like?
Hopefully, he does not disparage you. Like your Husband's RUDE and obnoxious friend.

I would, look around for a support group.
Google search one for your area.
Support Groups, can be great.
Then you will know, you are not the only one.

And remember, it is not what a person looks like. It is about who the person is.
There are MANY large sized women... who are confident gals. And look at you: you are a MOM, going to school, and full time soon, and making something of yourself.
Be PROUD.

There is a guy, I forget his name, but he was born with no legs and no arms. He goes around giving talks to groups as a guest speaker.
He.... is not pitying himself. He is really, inspirational.
He wrote a book on his life.

hugs.

do you like to dance? turn on the radio and boogie around the house! I've been putting on my sons earphones and using his mp3 player and while he's doing his schoolwork on the computer, I boogie away in the background. he laughs at me, sometimes joins me, sometimes tells me to go in the other room! Its not like doing exercise videos or walking on somekind of machine, it's fun! I'm not a very good dancer, but i'm not out in public so i dont care!! depending on how old your daughter is, she may want to dance with you or you can hold her and dance. I've lost 20 lbs by not eating late at night, no junk food, lots of fruit and water and veggies and dancing around like a fool! good luck!

Take your daughter for walks and bike rides. It doesn't cost a thing and it is GOOD excersize!

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, and you're right many of us do. The good news is...yes you do have time, yes you can loose weight. It has to become a priority and you'll have to be willing to do the work....
First get it in your mind (even if it's not true) that you are loosing weight. Have notes around the house with the number of pounds you want to weigh and have no doubt that you'll get to your goal. Using the law of attraction. Ask to be able to loose weight.
Next, you're staying at home with your daughter so you have all the time in the world to exercise. You could choose to wake up before anyone else does (this is what I do) or you could choose to incorporate your work outs with her.
Exercise is important not only physically, it will help you mentally. And the cool thing is, once you start to exercise and the happy chemicals run through your body, you'll start to feel good. When you feel good, this will help you feel like your body doesn't want junk food or large portions of food.
Some choices with her are walking laps with her either in a stroller or on your back or next to her. Walking to the store or other errands you have. bikes are awesome! There are kid carts you can sometimes find at yard sales, craigs list etc. and pull her around as you run errands to the store etc. You tube has many videos that are free aerobic workouts. Hula hoops are in. Cheap at Walmart, one for you and one for your daughter. This is a great workout and can be alot of fun when you put on some music and dance with. You can also check out hoop tricks on you tube for free.
As you know, eating right is important. Everyone needs to find their own diet and as you said, cutting down portion sizes are important. Being at home, it's so easy to snack all day. Try keeping a log for a week to see what you're actually eating. Don't even buy desserts, what you don't have at the house, you can't eat. If you get hungry in between meals, try eating a piece of fruit (with the intention of how healthy you are) or some carrot sticks, a bowl of vegetables, easy to prepare if you have frozen. Smoothies are awesome. Remind yourself to think out of the box. Salad for breakfast! There are a million recipes online, watch your sugar intake (it's in everything)....
You can do it!

Well, if you are like me you can't just work out to work out, you have to be doing something, so perhaps belly dance? (also watching a 18 months - 5 year olds trying to do belly dance is HILARIOUS.)

If that doesn't work try not to ever stop moving, ever. You would be surprised how many calories you lose just tapping your foot all the time.

You can do this! You need to make yourself a priority. I know you are busy with school and your daughter, but you can squeeze in some time somewhere to exercize. Try to get up earlier than your hubby and daughter, even a 1/2 hour a few times a week or when he gets home. You can do squats, leg lifts, put soup cans in a grocery bag to lift for weights, jump rope with your daughter. See if your local library has dvd's you can checkout for exercise workouts. Take a 10 min. break from schoolwork to work in an exercize, even jogging in place. Do leg lifts while on the computer. Cutting down portions is a great way to start. Make sure you don't go to the grocery store hungry. Make a list and stick to it. If you don't buy unhealthy food,it won't be at home to tempt you. Make a list of what you eat the whole day and look to see what you can change to make healthier. Now is your time, you can do this!!

Hello Sushimama,

I can definitely say that you are not alone in being a struggling stay-at-home Mom with a weight issue as I am also in your shoes. I have 2 wonderful boys and got up to 228 when I was pregnant the second time. I am slowly losing the weight by doing the wii fit plus 33 minutes a day. I do it for myself and nobody else. The biggest size I have worn is an 18 after my son was born.

I started doing the wii fit plus about a year ago and I am down 2 dress sizes to a 14 now and at 170 pounds. I am trying to get to a size 10-12 which should be around 140 pounds. My husband is supportive no matter what I choose to do though. I do the weight loss for me and my health. That remains my motivation. I never ever thought really skinny people looked healthy at all. Bones showing looks sick to me. Just do what you can. exercise comes in many forms. Try non stop walking around the house or taking your daughter window shopping. Or if you have stairs in the house, you can walk up and down stairs for a few minutes each day.

Nobody can make you decide to change your body. No matter what you decide you should only change what you don't like and shrug off what others say and think about it. I am sure you are a beautiful person inside and out regardless of what the model women at your husbands work think!!
*hugs*

D. P.

If you are Catholic, consider The Light Weigh. Small initial investment and a world of good. I know there's another Christian one that's similar. What you pay in the initial fee you'll save in reduced food expenditures. Good luck. I know it can be hard.

First- I'll second what Evermom said... let's join the 200 Club (and descend the number a little at a time!) I am also a size 18/20... have been for the past 5 years... I've seemed to hit a plateau with my weight loss (argh!)... but I agree with PP- take your child for a walk (while the weather is still cool enough- heaven knows it's going to get really warm really quick in our neck of the woods!) And when the weather gets really warm (like next week! LOL) get a fun dance/excercise DVD. I've been doing Zumba and latin dancing at home, and I even have a belly dance DVD! I've had a lot of fun with these DVDs... am I good at the moves? Heck no! But it's a lot of fun and I know that the important thing is just to get up and move. Sometimes my time is limited so I only do 5-10 minutes, but hey- that's 5-10 minutes of extra movement a day! I have 3 kids and a home-based business so yeah... things pop up where you get busy. But you can always work in 5 minutes here and there. So... shall we work on losing 10 pounds at a time together? 8)

Second- let's talk about your self esteem. Forget everyone else. You, my friend, are a strong, beautiful woman! You radiate beauty and sunshine! Now... tell that to yourself out loud. Did you do it? Now, I want you to say this to yourself everyday at least 3 times a day. Why? To begin to change your thinking about you. If you keep telling yourself positive things like this, you'll eventually start to believe it as well! Your subconscious only knows what you tell it, so might as well tell it positive things! No stinkin' thinkin'! Especially about yourself!

First of all i think you are being too hard on yourself and im glad your husband sounds like a good guy. I wanted to cry when i read what the friend said, that guy is so terrible, id backhand him if i ever met him. I also wanted to say that its not the people around you being small that makes you feel this way. Its personal....its your view. All but 2 of my many friends are much bigger than me and ,my inventory of myself is hard too. After a few years of being far too big in my personal opinion of myself i started getting serious with it. I work out every day now and i eat small nutritious meals. My workouts and dieting were at first VERY daunting a task. I had to make myself do it. It got easier and now i am 25 to 30 lbs lighter since x-mas.

You HAVE to make time for yourself. I know its easy to get busy doing other things i totally get that, but you CAN find 45 minutes to dedicate to yourself in a day, and if you cant....get up early or go to bed late. After a few weeks when people start to notice a difference, you will love it.

I'm right there with you. I am the same as you but don't beat yourself up too much. I have struggled with my weight all my life. I have recently done the HCG diet. I was very successful with it. Plus you'll get results right away which is a great motivator I get my drops from a vitamin store in Chandler. They are made by Anumed Int'l. They were only $50. I see you're in Tucson, I would think you would be able to find a place there that sells them. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with going to Hi Health or GNC. I bought mine at a family owned and operated shop. They are very particular what items they sell in their store. They do have mail order if you want to go that route. Enjoy!