3 Year Old Seeing "Guy in Window" at Bedtime?? Is It Made up or Something Else?

So, first things I think of is: 1. Is there a weirdo out there? and 2. Is it the reflection of his own eyes he's seeing? I'd sleep with him one night, and ask him to wake me up when he sees the eyes.

Can you change the room around so his bed is looking at the window from a different angle? Maybe that might help.

Has he been read the book "good night mr. night"
It talks about mr. night who walks the earth and puts everything to sleep.
In the end he stads outside the childs window and puts him to sleep.
Look at the library, sounds like what he maybe talking about.

1. use a shade or blinds to ensure no visibility from either side.
2. allow child to explain fears and
3. develop a safety plan: outdoor lighting and a dog that can bark.
4. screen video and t.v. influences.
5. document behaviors/keep a log of date, time, and what was seen.
6. find a child psychiatrist for consultation if concerns persist.

Children are extremely psychic. They see and hear many things that we don't. They have not been away from God and heaven for as long as we are so they are still more in tune with the other side. Plus they have not had years of people telling them "it's just your imagination." Encourage him to talk to you and be open about what he sees. Tell if it is scares him to tell the "guy in the window" to go away. Take time each night before bed and pray together and tell God this is scary for him and he does not wish to see anything. It will go away. And if you don't believe a dang word I just said that is fine. The important thing is you are being gentle and supportive and not making your son feel like he is doing somethig wrong. If it is really all in his head a little support and a way to get rid of it will help him greatly. Good luck!

My first instinct says it's probably his imaginiation, but you do want to rule out and dangers. Could he be seeing his relection and think he's seeing someone? Did he recently watch a video or something and maybe that's what he's talking about..Maybe you can ask him questions about what he sees.

Who knows? I've often wondered if children are able to see things that we are "too grown up" to see. Their imaginations haven't been dulled by reality. We went through this with our daughter this past spring. It started at my sisters house and continued at home. She was seeing people and cows outside. Since we live in farming communities, this wouldn't seem so strange except she was looking at open fields (with neither people or cows). We would ask her what they were doing and she told us they were walking around. She was so intent and serious about this that it freaked us all out... especially my husband who can have an overactive imagination when it comes to such things. We neither discouraged her nor did we dismiss what she was seeing. We simply let her talk about it and tried not to get too creeped out ourselves.

my 18 month old does things like this to but if your son is not scared and doesnt seem to be bothered let it be and dont worry. if you dont see anything then it cant hurt him. when i was little i told my mom that "that man tickled me" and pointed to the corner. i was the only one in the room. best of luck K.

He could be stretching his imagination and I wouldn't be worried. Kids that age start having trouble with fears at night. Just reasure him. He should get over it after a while. My youngest, though, still sleeps with the light on. Ever since we moved to this house five years ago, he's had to have the light on. He was three then. He's 81/2 now. And very scared of the dark.

I would guess that it's probably his imagination. I have four kids with very active imaginations so I can relate to this situation. If it were me, I would probably talk to him and ask him if he has any ideas about what he thinks the two of you can do to make "they guy" go away so your son can get some sleep. (because big boys need their sleep to be strong and healthy"). You might find that he says something like a new curtain, or maybe suggest some kind of a window blind - you never know. I wouldn't tell him you don't believe him because you want him to always be able to trust you to tell you things no matter what - no judgment.

Good luck! I hope it goes well.

I've gone through the same thing. When my son turned 3 he started seeing the "Orn". It was a creature of his own creation and it terrified him. He would go to bed just fine but then start screaming 5 minutes later because the "Orn" had come in his room. I can't tell you where your son came up with his man in the window, but I can tell you that it's totally developmentally normal. The key is to get him involved in "defeating" his fear. Talk to him about it during the day and see if you can get to the bottom of it. Ask him how he feels and what he would like to do. You can also have him draw pictures. The more you talk about it during the day, the less afraid he's likey to be at night. But it will pass. My son just turned 4 and we haven't heard much of the "Orn" in quite a while. He still talks about it every now and again, but he hasn't been afraid of it at bedtime for over 6 months. Just keep talking about it with him and you might come to the bottom of it. We figured out that the "Orn" was a orange puppet on a movie he had, and somehow his intense imagination had made it really scary! So in a way it means your son has a great imagination and that's something to be happy about. Unfortunately, it means there will probably be other monsters and things that he'll dream up. But it will pass, and I'm pretty sure it's not a ghost. :)

I am one of those that believes in this sort of thing, but my husband does not. If it was us, I would call one of those organizations to come out and "investigate" (you know like Ghost Hunters). My husband would laugh at me the whole time. There is one of these groups in Milwaukee that will do it for free. I'm not sure what they are even called but I'm sure you can google them.
Not sure if you tried yet, but maybe you could get down on his level and just stare at the window for a while and let your imagination run. Maybe it is just a streak in the window, or the way the light looks when cars pass by. Even though I believe in this stuff....I would never encourage my son either way. I would never tell him it's just his imagination (because young imaginations are vivid and sometimes scary and I wouldn't want him to feel he can't come to me)...but I also wouldn't promote the idea (becuase if it is just his imagination, you don't want the thing to get out of control). Just comfort him, and if it seems particularly bad some night just stand in his room and say something like "we don't want you here, you are scaring my son, now leave him alone please" (even if you don't believe in these things, it couldn't hurt).

I think this is his imagination. At this age, they cannot distinguish between fantasy and reality, so even if there's a hint of a "face", he will imagine it. My son used to think the knots in the woodgrain of his dresser were "eyes" and got spooked out by it. Yours is different because it's in his window, so it feels more real to you. But it's just him putting fantasy on top of reality and dreaming things up in his little mind! Go along with it and don't be too alarmed by it, it will pass and he will move on to something else.

This is not a crazy question. When my oldest son was about that age we had a man living in out bathroom door. He wouldnt go in the room it scared him. So here is what we did. We went in the room with him watched for the "man" to come then when he was there my son talked him into going with his dad. Then dad took the man out of the house and dropped him off far away so he couldnt find his way back. We never had a problem again. We have a had a few "men, monsters" show up since then but they are always taken away by dad.

Maybe you should try and put a little camera in there at night and make sure there isn't some sicko looking through his window. You never can be too careful when it comes to that sort of thing. If it is "imaginary", I wouldn't worry about it too much. My son has two imaginary friends and it usually means they are just gifted children. If it gets too out of hand, your pediatrician may be able to refer you to a child psychiatrist.

Your son is seeing the spirit world and it is a wonderful thing.We all have a sixth sense and as young children our minds and our third eye(psychic center beteeon the eyes) are more open and clear.
We live in a multi dimensional universe and the spirit world coexists with this third dimension...Everything in this world has a spirit and is alive.
There are esentially good and bad spirits and some are gaurdian spirits and some are lost souls.
If you feel this is a negative spirit then there are various ways of getting rid of it.You can smudge the house with sage/incense or scatter salt around the house and in the corners of each room in the house.You can also put up a mirror to reflect the energy away form your son.
At the end of the day believe him and help identify what is is.A Lot of kids have imangery friends and these are spirit friends and helpers coming to play with us or help us in some way.
It is society's ignorance that makes people think there are crazy for seeing these things.. as adults if we open our eyes we would see alot more.

Don't know if this is plausible cause we have very little info on what he is seeing but is he seeing his own eyes as a reflection in the window and that is what he is talking about? First thing that popped into my head though. Otherwise I would chalk it up to immagination, or something on the curtain or something of that nature. Try replacing the window treatments.

Have you slept with your son for awhile to see if you can see what he is seeing?
Are there city lights near or distant that he may be seeing? or are the blinds closed at night??
i've never personally encountered anything superstitious, but i also know people that have and it's a little freaky.
So i guess i would maybe talk to your Dr. about it....or let him start sleeping in your room and see if it goes away???

After moving into my new home my 2yr old daughter started telling me about the ghost in our house. She didn't even know about the domestic disturbance and death that happened there prior to us moving in. I cleansed the house while telling her what I was doing. After that, I never heard another word about it. If you would like more specific details, just let me know.

My six year old son (then around 3 or 4) used to say he saw "eyes" in the area around his bedroom window. I am not really sure what he was seeing. Maybe it was the curtain or miniblinds, or the light from the neighbors side door light. I really don't know. We told him the eyes were just there because they were lonely and wanted to be his friend. We told him to say hello to them, but that it was bedtime, so he had to tell the eyes would have to come back and play in the daytime. If he is afraid of the eyes completely, take a water bottle and have him spray the eyes with it. Tell him that the eyes don't like water and will leave him alone. ( this also works for monsters hiding around the room. ) We kept telling him the story about the eyes being his friend and he eventually stopped talking about it. It took about 6 months or more, so keep on telling him.

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I saw all kinds of things when I was little and everyone always told me I was imagining or lying. Although now as an adult I know they weren't real I still remember seeing them!! Make sure you don't doubt him. I had a very vivid imagination and the things I saw seemed VERY real!!

Hi Mellisa:
Well you say that you dont believe in the supernatural, are you sure? I am just asking because you mentioned that you were freaked out. Children have a natural ability to see into the other side. The theory goes that they have this ability until about the age of 8 when they start to learn the difference between fantasy and reality. If you dont believe in it then you prob wont see "it." Unless he has the gift of seeing the other side it will go away in time. I prob sound a little crazy too, but if you have had as many experiences as i have with the supernatural you would be a believer too.
What I recommend is doing some research on the background of your current residence. You may come across some data that says there was a death in the house or maybe talk to the former resident to find out if they ever had any experiences. Of course if you were able to get in touch with the former occupants you may get a hang up or door slam in your face. Try and find some paranormal investigators in you hometown as well, maybe they can help.
Of course it may be his imagination too. I dought that a child would be that imaginative and so graphic with his explanation. I wouldint worry too much because from your description, what ever it is that he is seeing doesint seem to scare him or seem threatening. I could go on and on about this so I will stop here. Hopefully everything works out for you and I hope that i didint freak you out even more. I would not undermind him when he speaks about it, instead ask him questions, who knows you may learn something too!
K.

Hi M.,
My son did the same thing and come to find out it was because of some of the different cartoons or things he saw on TV. I wouldn't get to scared of this, most people want it to be something supernatural and 9 times out of 10 it isn't, not to discredit people who can see supernatural because I believe also, but it is the way you are saying your son describes this thing to you. It sounds just like what my son went through and at this age they have a huge imagination. If you change some things that he may watch or see something that you watch this might subside. Thats all I had to do get get the whole someone is outside my window thing to rest. PS My girlfriend went through the same thing with her son and changed what he watched and read and no more person outside their window either. Good luck I hope I helped and it helped so it didn't scare you. :)

When I was a young girl I use to see a shadow next to my bed. It either looked like Zorro or Clint Eastwood in his poncho and hat. The shadow seemed to watch over me. At first I always saw it out of the corner of my eye and would try and "catch the person" by turning over really fast. I never could figure out what was causing the shadow. A few years later I became a teenager and was constantly moving my furniture around and I never saw him after that. Now as an adult I miss him and wish I could see him again. He became a comfort. My friend and I both believe in gaurdian angels and she swears that her grandfather is hers. The bell on the microwave goes off for no reason and sometimes she'll feel a tug on her ponytail just like he use to do. As soon as she says stop it Grandpa, it stops. Maybe your son just has a guardian angel. The next time he sees it have him come get you and lay in bed with him.

When my oldest daughter was that age she started headstart program. The first day she rode the transit bus she was sooo excited. She only went 1 day to the school and the teacher came one day to the house. Inbetween the days we would be walking out to get in the car and she would sit down on the curb where her bus would pull up and tell us she was waiting for sunny. I asked her who sunny was and she said the guy that takes her to school. So i thought okiee the bus driver or the aide that rides the bus. HMmmmmm NOPE lol I asked the bus driver and the teachers. They had no clue who sunny was. Not the driver, aide nor anyone at the school. I question my daughter more and more she had told me that sunny dressed in all white and was very friendly. I was like oh boy lol I believe it was her guardian angel while she was on the bus just because of the way she described it to me. Have u asked ur son to describe what they guy looked like... does he look like a stranger or what is he wearing. What also makes me believe in guardian angels is.... my grandmother passed away in march of 06 not even a month and half later my older sister gave my dad a kidney. My sister ended up coding after being out of surgery 8 hours. She ended back up in surgery and when she came out at 3 am she was telling us she seen my grandmother. That she wanted her to come with her. My sister told her no and of course came back to us. She also told her that she needed to tell her aunt that every thing is fine and she needs to rest. In which my aunt was having hauntings in her house after my grandmother pasted away. After my grandmother talked to my sister the hauntings went away. So do i believe in spirits and ghost and guardian angels. Oh yes i do. So i would say if it was not really bothering him in sleeping..... just ask more questions. Maybe u can pin point it down some more. Also the idea of tryin to make the guy go away is a good idea too. Also ever thought of dream catcher... maybe that would help too some how. Good luck and lets us know what happens.

Hey M.,

I don't think it was his imagination at all. Not to sound spooky, but there is a spiritual world that not all of us can see. I don't know what your background is or what your beliefs are but I know something that will help. I have used this with my four children. They used to be so afraid of the dark. They would almost always wake up and cry from bad dreams and night terrors. Once I found out how to get rid of them they have not come back and it's been several months now. I don't use any spices, incense or crazy chants. What I use works. In fact it's the only thing that will work. It's the name of Jesus. Again, I don't know your background and I'm not trying to change your prospective, I'm just telling you what will help. Tell the "man" or any other spirit to leave his room in the name of Jesus. Let them know that they are not welcome there and that they must leave. It's your house, you have the authority to do so. The awesome thing is, it must obey. Jesus is the name above every name and the scripture says that everything shall bow its knee to it. That spirit falls under that category. If you have any further questions about your authority or the name of Jesus I would be happy to help. Feel free to contact me anytime. And that goes for anyone else who is reading this as well.
Take care and God Bless!
K.

My son at 2 suddenly started whimpering when we would go to close the blinds at night. in his little words, he said something scared him, and I don't remember exactly what it was that he said, but I got the idea that he said there was a monster out there. So I looked, too. Turns out that down the street, a light reflecting off of a roof-mounted a/c unit looked like one glowing eye, the street-light made another, and a huge tree made a very dark, shaggy outline around both of them. With the roof or something like that, it TOTALLY looked like Cookie Monster! Now, he wasn't afraid of Cookie Monster, but I think you can imagine that a black Cookie Monster with glowing eyes would be frightening. We went and looked out other windows, where the angle was different and it threw off the image so it didn't look scary anymore, and I explained the lights and tree, and he was okay with it again.
Something similar happened when he was much younger. We were reading "Time For Bed" (http://www.preschooleducation.com/bookpic/timeforbed.gif) and he pointed to the black spot on the nose of the calf and signed "frog." I thought he was confused, but when I looked closer, I saw that it does, indeed, look like a black frog! He did that in another book, where he signed "turtle" for a rock that really did look like a turtle.
Sometimes kids use their imaginations to see things that really ARE there, but we adults don't see them because we think we already know what they are.
BTW, the same son also told me one night that someone came and looked through his bedroom window. I freaked out for a second before he told me that it was Grandpa when he'd come to mow our lawn. Phew!

What I would suggest is to look around the room. Look at his window (from his level) and see if you can make out any kind of face or "eyes". Also, remember that the human brain is programed to recognize faces or facial features. Its called matrixing and it can be done on virtually any textured or stained surface. It could be that there are moisture patterns on his window that are giving the appearance of someone being there. Then turn the lights off and do the same thing. There could be some light reflecting creating and illusion of something or someone being there. Have you tried re-arranging his room so he has a different view of the window? That could solve your problem right away. You could also have him draw you a picture of what the man or eyes look like. It might give you an idea of what he is really seeing.

Its most likely just his imagination getting the better of him. But definately keep an eye on him. If he starts having behavioral changes or starts to really lose sleep over it, you might look into having someone come out and investigate. But be careful with those groups. You really need to find someone that is reputable and doesn't go in trying to prove there is something going on, but rather that there isn't something going on.