30 Month Old Not Calling Me Mom No More

I think this is just a normal phase. My kids all went through that at one point. She's just calling you what she hears other people calling you. Just keep reinforcing "mommy" and don't make a big deal out of the other. She'll come around.

Does your little daughter call your mother mom? That would be typical. Your mother has been mama to her while you've been gone.

Don't be upset. She's just a little girl and it will take her a while to straighten things out in her mind.

Since you're going away again, see if you can get your mother to help. Leave a good clear photograph of yourself, and ask your mother to reinforce in your daughter's mind that that's a picture of Mom! I'm a grandma myself, and I wouldn't be upset to teach my granddaughter the difference between Mama and Gran (or Grandma or whatever name she likes).

Your kids are young-- this is sort of normal. They hear other family members talking about you and calling you by your name. You'll be able to fix it when it all pans out. I would make mention to your parents that it's bugging you tho and they should be instilling the "mommy" factor while you are away.
You ARE the mom, so don't worry about it... you'll be able to fix it when you are back home again.
You are awesome being who you are right now! Thanks!

I'm confused. You have a thirty year old that needs to stay with your mom?

All my kids have done this around that age. They go through a phase of calling us by our first names. I wouldn't respond a lot to it. Don't make it a big deal or else it's going to become a bigger problem. It's pretty normal. I imagine it makes you feel more insecure considering you've had to leave (or will be leaving? kinda confused). Either way, I think it'll sort itself out. I know you've tried not answering to your first name, and I think that's the way to go. Just don't respond, don't get mad, and wait until she figures out to call you "mom".

Huh? You have a thirty year old kid that you had to leave with your mom? My daughter stopped calling me mom at 14. I think my son will call me mom until my death.

This is pretty typical. I wouldn't make a big thing of it. I wouldn't spend the next 3 weeks fussing over what your daughter calls you.
My daughter went through a phase of calling me by my first name. I was surprised how many other people got really mad about it. My daughter was very smart. She figured out I had a name besides "Mom". No one else called me mom. I wasn't the least offended by it. I didn't ignore her. It's not like she was cussing. She was using my name. She knew full well I was her mother. She wasn't confused in the least about that.
I think you're seeing this from an emotional stand point when your daughter isn't. She doesn't mean anything by it.
I wouldn't fret so much over it.
I really wouldn't.
Enjoy the time you have before you deploy. Be sure to tell her a million times, "Mommy loves you!"

Best wishes!

Tell your mom that she needs to refer to you as mommy all the time,never by your name. It is common for kids to call everyone by the same name. Teachers at child care get called mommy nearly every day, or just plain old Teacher.

I call my hubby papa to the kids, "tell papa it's time to eat" "Tell papa to help you take a bath" "papa, you dad is on the phone" etc...if she refers to you as mommy it will reinforce the kids calling you mommy.

The ball is in her court and she can help you out a lot by calling you mommy too, not like you are her mommy but when she is referring to you call you mommy.

It's normal for kids to realize, "Hey, my mom has a name other than Mommy! Whoa! Her name is C.! I'm going to try that!" It's like they're testing to make sure that it's not a whole new identity and that you are, in fact, still Mommy-with-another-name-other-people-use. It's a novelty. Your kids absolutely know that you're their mom if that's what you're worried about. They won't ever forget that.

You can try explaining simply, "Yes, Mommy's name is C./Cassie/Sandy but that's what other people call me. Because I'm your mommy, you need to call me Mommy."

On the flip side, my best friend's son didn't speak for his first couple of years. He neared 3 years old and wasn't speaking so he needed speech therapy. When he finally started to talk, he didn't call her Mommy but what he heard everyone else call her (her first name) and she was just so happy that he was speaking and that he was referring to her by anything at all that she couldn't bear correcting him. He's now 11 years old and he still calls her by her 1st name much of the time, but when he really feels snuggly or emotional she's always Mommy.

I was brought up in a three story, multi-generation household. We did a lot of yelling for each other. My mother would stand at the bottom of the stairs and shout "Mom" up the stairwell. My grandmother would shout back down the stairs "What is it?" Well, as you can imagine, all us kids called our grandmother "Mom". My mother became Mommy because Mom was taken. So be aware of what you call your mother. If you call her Mom then you can't be Mom, too.

My husband was in the Military when my oldest was young, his first deployment to Iraq was when she was 1.5 mos-8mos, then again 18mos-23mos. While he was gone my daughter and I went to stay with my parents in a different state b/c we had no family here for support. During his second deployment my daughter was in the learning to talk phase and was getting confused with mommy and grandma, she couldn't pronounce grandma and started calling her mama too. We had her call my mom meema (something she could pronounce and differentiate between us. I know it's not quite the same situation as you are having but maybe since your mom is taking on your roll while you need to be away your daughter is just confused, and coupled with the novelty of your "new name C." she is just figuring things out. This too shall pass and your mother should help with the confusion while you need to away. Good luck in training!

is it that important? it seems to me that they can come up with all kinds of fun names for grandparents....i would put more energy into your relationship with them. maybe it will change as they get older. my step son will call me mom if i'm giving him something. if he's mad at me or in a bad mood, he's calling me by my name. don't take it personally i'm positive they aren't doing it negatively or to hurt you. as they get older, other kids may think it's super cool that you let them call you by your first name....
hope that helps.