my 4.5 year old son comes home almost every day with dirty underwear because hes not cleaning his bottom after using the potty, his teacher cant leave the class unattened to wipe for him nor do i expect her to because she has 14 other kids. my question is how can i teach him that he needs to clean him self at school? he doesnt have a problem at home because i tell him to go back in and make sure its clean. he also has the flushable wipes at school and home. i'm just getting tired of throwing away underwear and taking him to the dr for rashes....
thanks for all the advice! i think we are going to use the cool charactor underwear as an incentive to come home with a clean bottom!!! he really wants some iron man ones!
What about "bribing" him. Every day he comes home with clean underwear he gets a star. After 5 stars you will take he to the toy store and let him pick out something (set limits).
You can guide him, but 4 1/2 is still a baby in many ways.. especially when it comes to cleaning themselves.. My son, had a hard time cleaning up properly too, but we just dealt with it.. even if it meant constantly going thru soiled underwear.. Your son will eventually start doing it, just keep guiding him.. but whatever you do, don't shame him (not that you do or would) kids below the age of 5 still don't even hold a pencil properly as not all muscles in their fingers have developed (hence, the reason they have to practice writing so much at school) ... these things take time.. at least your son does it at home.. Also, maybe your son is afraid to stay in the school bathroom alone.. you never know what's going on with them.. talk to him.. get his perspective on things..
best of luck
Keep teaching him at home and reminding him for school. He's still very young and will out grow this soon. Good luck!!
first off ask him why he isnt wiping he may have a good reason. but if not dont oput undies on him i know it sounds nasty but he will see that its uncomfortable and want his undies back. hope this helps!
Keep being consistent with him. Remind him on the way to school to make sure he wipe real good. My 5 year old in Kindergarten was doing that but has gotten a lot better. I was calm and I keep saying the same thing over and over make sure you wipe real good once your done. His answer would be I am trying.
I spend a lot on under wear cause I got tired of soaking them. Plus he wanted color under pants with picture so I went to all white and told him once he started coming home with clean underpants he can get color.
So far so good. Be encourage
My son used to not wipe as good as he should have. I am wondering if the wipes are in reach when he does go. I used to put some in a zip lock baggie for him and keep them in his pocket. I never threw his underwear away, I just washed them really well! Then a shower or a bath every night. That helped with the rash. I even used balmex at night when he was five or six.
It's hard for anyone to clean properly without wet wipes. You say they have them. I would go in when he is finished and teach him step by step, and gently and quietly, how to clean himself.
Most people don't have the money to buy more underwear and they soak and wash what comes home dirty. He's just a little guy, have patience.
I have that problem with my 6 year old, I keep wet wipes at home. You can talk to his teacher about sending in wet wipes for your son.
EDIT* I missed where you said you brought in wet wipes, I tried deleting my comment but it wouldn't let me so please ignore this comment.
I agree with Heather H
