Hi, I am a mother of 5 children ages 16 to 4 yrs old. Each child has been different but the this same method has worked for all of them. First of all, parental guidance is needed in establishing the sleep and eating routines and patterns for an infant. Ask yourself if you have a parent-directed feeding plan during the day? If your daughter is not teething (you will feel the bumps and see the redness in the gums), then this plan will work. If she is waking up every night at basically the same time, then she is out of nighttime habit and not out of need. If that's the case, you may need to help her eliminate the feeding period by not physically attending to her. Normally it takes three nights of some crying (or screaming, but hang in there) before the habit is broken. She will never remember those three nights, I promise! Nor, will they have any negative effects on her. However, helping her to learn nighttime sleep behavior will have positive effects, and is healthier for you, your husband, your marriage and your baby.
1. Choose to do this on a Friday night (so you can rest during the weekend afternoons).
2. Talk to your husband about the plan to let her cry it out.
3. Have a bedtime ritual in place... last feeding, bath, story, then lay her down and walk out of the room.
4. When she wakes in the middle of the night, do nothing. If she proceeds to scream for 10 minutes, do go and check on her (sometimes they get themselves in a fix), but do not pick her up. Pat her on the back, give her the pacifier (if using one), place blanket over her.
5. Speak softly and calmly.
6. Walk out...do not stay in there any longer than just checking on her.
7. Try to get some sleep....hold your husband hand and encourage each other that this to shall pass.
8. By the third night, she will put herself to sleep more quickly and the rest will be history.
Remember, the most important relationship in the family is between you and your husband. As sweet as babies and children are, they are only "welcome guests". All of you need rest.
Blessings!