7 Year Old Talking About Sex!?!

B.,

Hello, don't feel bad or you did something wrong. My daughter was 6 years old when she started talking about sex. She heard about it from my friends son and told me details that made my mouth drop. So I was honest with her and we started talking about it. Now I didn't give to many details at first but as she grew we kept talking about it and then I gave more details. I felt that being honest was better then making it sound bad or not talking about it at all and having her want to go and do something when she got older. I hope this helped?

D.

Hi B.. As much as this sucks, you just can't ignor this. You have to talk to her. Just start with asking what the letter meant. What is sex? Very often times, kids will hear a word, use it and really not have the full understanding of what it means. If you allow her to give you HER defination of sex first, you may learn it's not the same thing as you know it to be. Oh, and pray much. That always helps. =)

Good Luck,

D.

I can totally understand your alarm, but don't panic. Ask questions first. Listen carefully before you draw a conclusion. Then if something needs to change you will know what it is.
Maybe you need to ask her what she meant by what she said. Ask her to be specific about what "having sex" means to her. As careful as you have been, it may be that she is using words she has heard without knowing what they really mean. There may be some other possibilities, but start there.

(I am a stay at home mother of six, the youngest just turned 13. I volunteer as a lay counselor.)

This reminds me of an episode of the Cosby Show in which Rudy is singing a song that includes a euphamism for sex. (I can't remember which one it is.) When he Dad asks her what the words mean, she says, "hugging and kissing." That could very well be what your daughter thinks sex is, too.

Hi
well first I would ask her what she thinks sex is. She may be thinking kissing or have a different idea. Kids do hear a lot on the play grounds at school. Everyones household is different and if there are older siblings kids can hear a lot of different things.
I have always tried to be matter of fact about the our bodies and have had age appropriate talks with my kids. If its dealt with as a natural part of life and beautiful in the correct setting ( here you add your own morals and values) its not such a taboo thing then. When people get hush hush then the kids want to know more.
There are some great books out there. Being a Christian I bought the books "Why God cares about Sex" and I think the other is Why wait( just tried to find them to get the exact titles, they are somewhere in my sons messy room). You can look into books that fit your household as well.
We all want to believe our kids are too young and innocent but they do know more than we want to admit. I have discovered that myself so better you have the talks with them so they are comfortable with you and getting the correct information.
Hope that helps. I have a long story myself on the topic if you want to hear more:)

B.,

She probably has heard the word and a bit of the context but doesn't really know what she is saying. Last year my daughters (6 and 3) were talking about "oh that shirt is so sexy and you are so sexy". My husband freaked. I just told them that the word sexy was for grown up ladies and men. That it wouldn't be good for kids to look sexy because it's just not fun and kids are all about fun. I told them that kids can look cute, pretty, or beautiful, but not sexy. This is probably the same thing. Explain that sex is something that a mom and a dad do, not something for kids. It might be time for the general overview of the birds and the bees. Just emphasize that it isn't bad, it's just not something that is for kids to talk about with each other or talk about doing. Make the driving a car analogy - bodies just aren't grown up enough when they are 7. Hope this helps!

Hi B.,

Having a 12 year old daughter, I know this can be very frightening. First, I would talk with her about what she things sex is. Often times, kids that age think it's just "making out". I would find out where she heard about it. Then, I would give her age-appropriate info about what sex really is, the purpose of it, and how "special" it is.

Having open communication with your children is extremely important. Helping them understand peer pressure and how to control their own behavior is critiical.

Best of luck to you!

G.

Maybe she doesn't know what 'sex' really means but she has heard the word used around her by other kids. It might be helpful to ask her what her definition of 'sex' is. Once you understand what she thinks it is, it might be easier to clarify what she is talking about so she can use other words than 'sex'. If she know what the word really means it may be time for the birds and bees talk :-(.

Hi B.,

My name is C. (nickname for Cecilia). I know what your going through with your daughter. My daughter is 7 and she came home asking questions about kissing and the boys private part. All I can say is keep an open communication with her. I'm glad to say that I'm happy she tells me this stuff and I'm happy with her that she tells her friends and she doesn't think they should about this at school. I found out that some parents say a little too much about sex and the girls just repeat what they have been told.

Thanks,
C.

no,no,no,...don't be scared instead be ready for whatever she hears and DON'T discourge her of what she hear at school. It is your responsibility to explain in levels of understanding, on how much she needs to know.
I have 7,15,19 year old and I hear everthing from pensis to how they perform sex/position. Cause they hear it from peer who hear it from adults...who don't realize how to keep keep it to themselves.
Share with your child that you and the children are developing a special time where on;y the both of your get to speak about certain issues. but you have to be opened minded and veru understanding. i hope I helped.

I have two daughters ages 10 and 12. We have chosen to homeschool so we have been able to regulate what they are exposed too. They did however go to public schools for a couple of years and had other children who were aloud to watch adult movies sharing stories with them. My only advice to you is to be honest with your daughter. If she has a question, answer it. It would be so much better for her to learn about sex from you then from some misinformed classmates. Hope this helps.

You may want to start out the conversation by asking her what she thinks sex is. She may think its something different than what it really is (my son thought it was kissing). Then ask her where she heard it, and tell her that she's a little too young to be talking about things like that, but if she has questions she should always come and ask you first. If you haven't already, you may want to talk about appropriate touching by kids and adults. They are very curious at this age.