Hi G.,
What an incredible resource this is. So much support from so many wise mothers.
I have nothing to add that hasn't already been said. My son never crawled, but he could certainly get around on his bottom, pulling himself along with his legs. Today, he is 22 years old and just graduated from NYU. All babies are different, but being worried (a good part of the time) just comes with the territory; especially with a first child.
There are a series of books that you can probably find at the library in the parenting section. They are written by Louise Aims. The books are titled, "Your 1 Year Old", Your 2 Year Old", etc. They are wonderful books that help you to understand your child's developmental process.
When I discovered these books, my anxiety level decreased considerably. The books describe the *range* of normal development. They let you know what sorts of things to expect so that you can respond appropriately. So, not only do they tell you what NOT to worry about, they also provide you with info on how BEST to support each stage of development.
When my son was about 3 (if I remember correctly), he went through a stage where he was upset with ME constantly. It seemed like overnight, everything I did was "wrong". One day I felt like a competent and super-mom, and the next, I felt like I had no idea what I was doing. I hadn't read the "3 year old" book yet.
Here's an example: One evening, after his dinner, I gave him a chocolate donut, something I rarely did because I didn't like to give him sweets. I thought it would be a special treat. He took one bite and began crying that the donut wasn't hole any more. He was so frustrated and angry. It seemed that he was only having trouble with me.
The next morning I ran out and bought, "Your 3 Year Old", and within the first couple of chapters, all my anxiety was gone. It was as though Aimes was writing about my son, explaining this stage where the mother becomes the safe "target". Once I knew that, I could stop worrying and not over-react.
Essentially, I found that these books helped me understand, WHEN to be concerned and react, when NOT to be concerned, so I wouldn't over-react; and especially, how to ANTICIPATE each developmental stage so I could help SUPPORT my son and PROMOTE the healthiest development possible.
I hope you find this useful. I know it's way beyond your question, but I'm hoping that other mothers will read about these wonderful resources.
Best of luck,
V. S., LICSW