Oh yeah. He sounds like a poster child for adhd-i.
COULD it be allergies? Possibly, but I'd lay money against... because you mention several of of *gifts* of adhd (hyperfocus for hours at a time, giftedness, etc.) and the things that mimic adhd ONLY mimic the downsides. ADHD always always always comes with both hyper and hypo focus. Hypofocus (distractedness) can have many sources, hyperfocus doesn't come along with those other sources. Kind of like 2 women can have equally large bellies. One is pregnant, the other is an alcoholic. Same symptom... 2 totally different causes. Remove the alcohol and only ONE woman's belly will shrink. It's like that with allergies. If you do an elimination diet, and work with a nutritionist to make sure nothing is missing from the diet, and symptoms magically disappear ... it's not adhd but was a nutrition / allergy problem. If (after about a 30-60 day placebo period -where the excitement kicks up adrenaline which naturally medicates adhd- all the same symptoms are there, it's not allergies). The "mimics" only fool non-adhd professionals, or the hacks. The ones who only know a liist of 10 negatives to look for.
((A very very cool side note: The "field" has finally recognized publicly that ALL forms of adhd have hyperactivity. ADHD-h (hyperactive) is denoted for hyperactive physical... ADHD-i (inattentive) is denoted for hyperactive mental... and ADHD-c (combined) for those of us who were too greedy -or indecisive ;) to just stick with one. They hyperactivity is ALWAYS there, but for some it expresses physically, some mentally, and some both physically and mentally. ADHD-i used to be known as ADD, and you'll still find that phrase kicking around for the next 5-10 years while the terminology shifts)).
Hyperactive mental types spend a LOT of time "in their own worlds". We have entire universes in our minds. Surfacing requires both a lot of effort and interest. It's daydreamy in appearance.
Here are a few other traits I'll bet your son has exhibited most if not all:
- "Is a pleasure in class" AND "Does not consistently or regularly complete or turn in homework"
- poor transitions (needs time in between each activity, and even with "warning" gets shocked/ surprised/ freaked out that it's time to transition)
- His own sense (or lack there of) of time. ((Time is apparently linear for most people. Our sense of time looks like a london tube map... tangled). Constantly struggles with being late.
- Sensory issues. These vary with all of us, but most of us have them. Touch, sound, light, crowds, clothes, etc. Sensory overload : TOTALLY "inappropriate" reactions to certain of these stimuli. Like shutting down completely in stores from being overwhelmed, to throwing tempertantrums about something minor and fixable.
- Strong emotions. Love, Anger, Embarrassment, Fear, Joy, pick an emotion, any emotion... and it's intense. Also comes with a protective "shut down" response where the emotions are so strong they go "blank"... retreating inward. But everything is x10. The good is fantastic, and the bad is heartbreaking.
- Background noise. As in having both the music and the TV on at the same time.
- Sleep issues. Either insomnia or oversleeping or both.
- Judging social cues incorrectly. ((I'd always translated this to social awkwardness, but in my son and several others this actually translates in THEM to charisma. They don't "know" they're "supposed" to avoid an outcasted kid, or be afraid of popular kids, so they get equally excited about *everyone*, and end up being uber popular themselves. Ditto other social "supposed to's". They just don't see them and so their own personality just shines through no matter how many times they're told to act a certain way. But more often, it really does translate to social awkwardness.)).
- Quasi-eiditic memory. Ex) being able to repeat back a conversation word for word without actually having *listened* to what was said. (I've known adhd'ers who could repeat back up to 20 minutes of what several groups of people were saying while they were reading a book or watching a movie. Their brain catalogued it without actually translating it) OR being able to recall scenes in minute detail, even years later OR absorbing *interesting* information like a sponge in almost rain-man like ability... but something they do every day (like putting their shoes in a certain place), they can't remember.
- Selective memory. He can stand there, listen to simple directions, repeat them back to you, walk away 3 feet and not remember what he's supposed to do. Or only remember a piece of it.
- Magic hands. Things disappear out of his hands. They were there, then they're not. They're somewhere (set down while his mind was elsewhere), but where is anyone's guess.
- Piling System. Others have filing systems... adhd'ers tend to pile everything in SIGHT. Creates a giant "mess", yet they can reach right into a seemingly random pile and grab exactly what was needed. Unless they're in a rush. Then they run around looking for a thing that is in plain view.
If any of this sounds familiar...
Check out www.additudemag.com and the book"You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy?!?" by kate kelly & peggy ramundo.