Hi, I understand and feel for your situation. I have 3 children and my boys seemed to be ADHD/ADD. I would like to take a moment and commend you for going outside the box. It seems that just dealing with the ADHD & ADD was never enough. This involves the family. I feel from personal experience it is much more than a issue mentally or physically. I imagine everyone is uncomfortable with the terms of the ADHD & ODD. I am certain your child probably is going through the there's something wrong with me or I am not good enough or even the problem is me and this could make it harder for him to even want to hear anything else. The hardest thing to accept is that it doesn't change over night and time is of the essence. Please look into natural foods, diets and relaxation techniques to help as well, and do your best to not make your child feel like it is just him, it is an embalance that is not his fault. I made the mistake of constantly saying you need your medicine to help you and really this was true, but life offers many other options to keep the normality of the situation which makes being normal seem normal. I am sure you love your child and give your best effort and good job, I know that can seem almost impossible. Here is a few suggestions I learned along the way to help with his I don't want to attitude. Keep him responsible and offer a responsible approach. I made contracts, give and take setting. My son responded well and it seemed like he felt like he even enjoyed the responsibility of growing up. I also found that getting on his level helped. Not being the big bad parent was best. I highly recommend keeping the circumstances between you (Mom & Dad) and your son, it may seem like a pandemic, but it doesn't need to be the tabloids. I mean that children get very embarrassed, enough to get angry, irratated or rebellious to you-which is whom is trying to help or someone else that could be helping. I simply went through this and see how important it is to have respect for issues that should be resolved within you and your son. It doesn't mean that getting advise or dealing with counseling(behavioral/phycologicalor and whatever is needed),but expansion of that could be harmful(the venting is what I mean, talking with friends and family-my son did this/that or even I am stressed-please get what you need just respecting boundaries is very crucial. Also getting everyone involved for support (Mom, dad, siblings) is very important and goes a long way. I can't say much more than that and wish it was more. Believe me most people I think just shrug it off because they can offer medicine or say its an hour, but whats important is what you take with you and of course never give up. I also recommend a drastic approach and then an earn back approach if he is really not cooperating. I would take all the goodies (game boys, wii, big toys,etc) away and pack it up, find out what is most important to him and have him earn it back. I also recommend never involving family time as a punishment. If you plan to go out for a birthday pary, dinner, the movies or even just spend the day together-please don't threaten to take that from them. That time is for family and is most important. But if a child is not behaving then you can say we can leave and go home, that is important because children should be enjoying the time and if getting in trouble is whats happening perhaps its time to leave. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best for all of you.