Adult Hygenie Issue (Gross)

OMG this is hilarious and totally gross!
He will be embarrassed with whatever approach she takes.
And good grief, DO NOT tell his friend.
Why tell the whole world?
If she tells one of his guy friends, then that guy friend WILL TELL EVERYONE!
And then her Boyfriend will dump her.
And he will have no friends. He will be embarrassed. Because of her.
Because she told his guy friend about his dingleberries and stink butt, and then ALL his friends will know and laugh at him.
And he will be the laughing stock of the whole community.
And that is only one problem.

How can she even be intimate with him?
Ugh.
Ick.
Eeeww.
And shaving his rear end, will create stubble when it starts to grow back, and it will itch. Will she keep shaving his butt area every other day?
Yah, right.

Hmmmm...if their relationship is intimate enough for her to know about said "dingleberries" (gag), then I would think they should be intimate enough to have a chat about her problem with "his one flaw". I'm of the belief that communication skills should be in tip top shape long before anyone should know anything about each other's hairy butts.

Ew, that's so gross! The problem with offering him a sexy shave is that hair grows back and she will have to offer sexy shaves every week(?) depending on how fast his hair grows.

The only thing I can think of is the wipes you mentioned. You said she hates the smell of the wipes, but does she hate the smell of the wipes more or his skid marks/dingleberries more? Which does she think is the lesser of two evils?

If I were her, I would just convince him to use those. It's awkward to ask him to shower before getting intimate (although this is preferred) or asking a third party to talk to him. But if she's thinking long-term, she should just be honest with him.

She could give him a flea comb ( the kind you use on cars and dogs) and tell him to comb the turds out of his back end.

ETA: I read this to my husband!! He said - she needs to call him Captain Kirk because he's hanging around with Clingons!

Okay E.....here's my take...

This W. is OKAY with having sex with this guy - obviously getting UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL with him - but she can't TALK to him about her problems with his hygiene? Is he THAT good in the sack?

Seriously? She needs to step up and say I've got a problem. You need to work and fix this - OR I AM GONE.

No. She doesn't ask one of his friends. HOW embarrassing for him.
Give him a shave? Sorry - that should be done professionally - more like a waxing. I have heard of men getting their backs waxed...one guy (wwwaaay TMI - had his balls waxed...he said it hurt - but was worth....this is what you get when you let people get drunk in front of you!!)

She can suggest they shower before they have sex...but really? Is she going to reach down and wipe his butt for him?

She needs to be STRAIGHT UP WITH HIM. DO NOT involve his friends. DO NOT beat around the bush....(pardon the pun (sort of)) and get 'er done. She feel comfortable to have sex with him - get her face in his rear end - then she should be comfortable enough to say - this is disgusting to me.

Good luck!

I would say

Dude wipe your butt right, or no sex for you. I dont sleep with a toilet.

there is nothing delicate here. That man, NO MATTER how hairy his bunghole is, needs a lesson on wiping the poop.

Get him some baby wipes for, a nice double after the poop, wipe too. They work wonders.

If he wants a lady to stick around, he needs to be told. If he runs away and dumps her for being concerned for his smell. Then he wasnt so lovely after all. I can not stand a stinky butt man. Pits and what not ok, poop COME ON we are civilized human beings with an arsenal of beauty products it can be accomplished.

Your friend has interesting preferences. She doesn't like the smell of flushable wipes but has no problem being intimate with someone with traces of feces next to his genitalia and on his clothes?!
Good God, she needs to TALK to him.
And there's nothing "sexy" about a poopy shave, eeewwww!!!!

Umm... that's really gross. I think showering, really cleaning back there, making sure that it all gets washed well is important. Make sure the toilet paper isn't the ultra-quilted 'wear half a roll later' kind, and FINISH wiping.

E., my husband is a hairy guy and we DO NOT have that problem. It's a 'finish the job' sort of deal.

I will say this, as the horribly pragmatic person that I am-- how can a relationship stand a chance if people can't be honest with each other? Something for your for friend to deeply consider. If you can't ask for a basic need, like not gagging on a dingleberry, then it's hard to be hopeful...

ETA: and a big bunch of flowers to Bug for getting to the heart of the matter. Oh, and I asked my husband about this, he reminded me that "wiping until you are done is Butt Wiping 101. Hair has nothing to do with it."

O.M.G. I am at a loss for words. I hope you didn't injury yourself when she imparted this gem. I would never look at this guy the same way again. Ever. For all time. Going into my grave. Forever and ever the guy will be Captain Dingleberry. I hope I can scrub this from my memory. Sheesh.

As for advice your friend has to talk to her guy. She has to tell him in no uncertain terms - wipe properly and adequately using whatever products it takes for a fresh, clean butt. End of discussion. The upshot is I can't imagine a more uncomfortable topic will ever be broached in the rest of your friend's relationship. If she can get through this, the rest will be gravy.

There goes my dinner. You did forewarn.

He needs soap & a bucket of water. or one of these toilet to bidet conversion kits

http://dailycandor.com/dont-knock-bidets-until-youve-trie...

http://www.amazon.com/Water-Non-electric-Mechanical-Bidet...

or a butt sprayer

http://www.amazon.com/Mrs-bidet-White-Attachment-Toilet-C...

I will NOT shave anyone's hairy butt for anything, let alone call it romantic. And let's face it, this will be an anus shave. EWWWWW sorry EWWWW Ugh! The picture in my head is pretty graphic. ****kitty cats, puppy dogs, cotton candy...ahhhh that's better.

good God, I'm eating lunch. Gag.

Give us a "graphic warning" next time, please!

Helpful comment: yes, she needs to address this. & which would she rather have.....poop in her life or a little bit of scent on those wipes? I mean, seriously, it's a no-brainer. A little bit of perfume is a much better choice.

& taking it a step further.....his hair is part of who he is. Don't make him change an integral part of who he is.

I have nothing constructive to offer but I sure did get a lot of laughs out of the responses!

hold on, have you met this guy? not to be rude but I don't think hair is the issue, I think he is probably morbidly obese and can't reach, not sure if wipes will help w that or not.

sorry not wiping for whatever reason deal breaker for me.

and by the way I like scott tissue because it feels like it gets it all.

Of course there are unscented wipes on the market. We use Pampers Kandoo sensitive.

She should be the one to talk to him (nicely). She knows him well enough to know about this...so yeh. And if he's a jerk about it, he's not a keeper anyway.

ADD: Personally, I start with toilet paper to get "pretty clean", then use unscented baby wipes for SUPER cleaning and also to be gentle to the bottom. Do NOT throw in the toilet, though. It works and keeps the bottom non-aggrivated from wiping too hard.

ORIGINAL: Here's the thing. It's a "crappy" conversation to have to have, BUT, if she can't talk to him about this, what else will she not be able to talk to him about later in the relationship? If she really cares about him, she needs to let him know that something is wrong. Heck, she can act like it's a medical issue if she's doing his wash and knowing about the skidmarks, she can approach it from a "honey, i've noticed... this isn't normal, are you having digestive issues? How can I help you with this?"

I'm thinking this guy needs wet wipes for #2... I think the smell of the wipes is preferable to the smell of the ...dingleberries.... Lol.

ICK.

Maybe wait for him to fall asleep, then wax it. ;) Crappy (yes, I had to go there) wake-up call, but a quick fix! Lol. (Btw...that is a joke. Lol.)

I'm sorry, but there is NOTHING remotely sexy about shaving a guys hairy a$$. Lol.

Sorry, but I have to occasionally deal with the dingleberries with the dogs, and it's one of the grossest things ever. I'd never be with a man who had them. She doesn't like the smell of scented wipes but is intimate with a man who has these issues?

This is beyond gross! I didn't even know it was possible for stuff to get stuck in the hairs. Dingleberries on dogs make me gag so on my man...no way. DEAL BREAKER. He is a grown man he should know how to wipe.

I did a good laugh from your responses though!!

Eeeww!

She "hates the smell" of flushable wipes? What, the smell of poop is better? Flushable wipes all have different scents. She should test them out.

If she's not comfortable telling him, then she's going to have to put up with it. How would she even convince him to use wipes, if she won't tell him? I've been known to tell males they had this problem, in my sexual past. And it wasn't because they were overly hairy. Some guys just don't know how to wipe their butts.

She needs to tell him. I can't think of any other way. He can bathe before sex, or wipe more carefully and use flushable wipes.

If she refuses to tell him, she will have to put up with it. Disgusting.

Reading below: Best laughs I've had all day!!

Unscented, flushable wipes do exist. She should purchase them and make them available. http://www.amazon.com/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=i%3Aaps...

If he doesn't get the point, she's going to have to talk with him. Gently suggest that he use the wipes because his...."fur" is hanging onto some icky stuff.

It's nothing a little laser hair removal won't fix.

If she's involved enough to be having sex with him and seeing/washing his underwear she should be able to talk with him about this.

(see the part about 'Bikini Area-Men' about half way down the page)

http://www.laserrn.com/laser_treatment.html

No helpful suggestions...just YUCK!!!! ( ;

Some women get very short haircuts because they say it is easier to maintain.

Maybe this guy would find a short-butt-hair style easier to maintain?

They could go for a "couples spa day" and he could get it waxed.

Totally agree with Bug on this question! That is why i waited to have very intimate sex with my DH! We have been married for 10 years and if we want to be extremely kinky, we both take showers before the deed happens! I would never want to be that close to his poop hole when he has not showered! NASTY! I dont even look at his poop hole, so i am wondering how she can tell he has dingle berries? his butt cheeks must be completely spread open or she is in a classic sexual position. I mean, everyone has skid marks every now and again, especially during cold and flu season but to have them all the time.... oh lord! Ok.... cant comment any further, i think you have gotten lots of good advice here! Tell your friend good luck!

She can take a few showers with him and "find" one. If she just says "what's this, it was in your hair?" then he might get the idea and find a way to wipe better.

Having so much hair makes it nearly impossible to get it all. Imagine if you will that your hiney is on the back of your head. Your hair would make it nearly impossible for you to get every thing.

I'm with Cali. *gag*

I'm at a loss, I have nothing constructive to say! Totally stumped!

A little manscaping down there should clean things up. Nair, or some other hair removal creams, will do the trick without much pain.

How did I miss the "Gross" in your header!!! EWWWWW

Could something in his diet be causing anal leakage?

Take him to European Wax Center (or another such place where all they do is waxing) and have him waxed. Tell him "manscaping" is IN, and that it helps all his sexy muscles stand out. :) It will hurt like crazy the first time he is waxed, but after that, as long as he keeps up on it, it won't be so bad.

OMG I'm laughing so hard right now! My girlfriend used to always complain about her ex-husbands' streaked underwear until she discovered dark colored underwear. Regardless of the color of underwear I think it's totally gross and am so thankful that my hubby knows how to properly wipe himself! Sorry no advice for the dingleberry issue - just YUCK!

I would have your friend invest in some flushable wipes....