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It sounds like he is getting depressed. It's hard with a man, because they usually find it harder to ask for help. Does he get enough exercise? That can sometimes help. If you gently ask him if there is anything else he would like to be doing instead of staying home all the time, you might get a better response than him snapping at you. What is going to happen when you have the new baby? Are you going to go right back to work, or is he going to work for a while? He might be worried and stressed about this coming up. If he has any close friends that he confides in, you might want to talk to them, and express your concern, and see if they can help him. But also, stick up for yourself, don't do things you don't want to do just to appease him, and do take some time for yourself. Just because he's moody or grumpy, doesn't mean you have to do everything he wants. Good luck.

Hi! I know it is easier said than done, but really try to get him to open up about what is bothering him. Maybe you could get a sitter and go out to talk. He may be worried about how he is going to handle two kids at once. I am a SAHM and I know that when my fiance suggests I take a part time job, it strikes a nerve. He only means that maybe I would be happier with something to do outside the home but to me it sounds like he is saying I don't have enough to do/am not doing a good enough job as a SAHM. The truth is also, that it's not financially realistic for me to work unless I could bring our baby with me. Being a SAH Parent is so hard. It can be isolating, which can lead to depression (which often looks like laziness). And because no one is there most of the time to see how much you do, you can feel really under-appreciated. Maybe your hubby just needs to hear what a great job he's doing and how wonderful it is that your kids can enjoy the advantage of having a SAHD. Also, try and convince him to join a Dad's group if there is one in your area. I am in Burlington and I know there is one every Monday where Dad's and their kids get together for dinner. The best thing for him might be just talking to other people who experience the same trials and joys as he does everyday. Good luck with everything! I am sure it will all work out in the end:)

I think that you should try talking to him again about getting a part time job or even to go out for alittle while with some friends. tell him that you aren't confertable with having sex all the time I had that same problem when I was pregnant. Tell him that you need a break to take some time for yourself. I hope I helped alittle

Hi C.

Unfortunately, I can relate to your husband because I am the stay at home mom and my husband works and I tend to find myself getting moody also because I'm home all day with our 1 year old and get very bored and need some adult time. He really needs to either get a part-time job or a hobby so keep him busy. Try to talk to him about it and hopefully, he'll come around and realize it's not your fault that this was both of your decisions. About the sex, he needs to understand that you're tired from not only working but from being pregnant also.
Good luck

You need to just try to understand, even though you are at work and you're not having all the fun in the world, that is your social life. Stay at home parents dont have that. I am a stay at home mom, i have a 20 month old and i am 8 months pregnant and i feel like i am going crazy being home so much. It is very boring. Now with the thought of another baby, it will be even harder to get out of the house with 2 kids under 2, maybe he is having the same thoughts about that. And about the sex thing, i have the same problem, i will talk to him about it and he gets better the a couple of weeks go by and he is trying to mount me every 2 minutes. I personally hate sex when i am pregnant. You are supposed to have sex to reproduce, i think god takes away your sex drive when you're pregnant because there is no need for it : )

C.,

I feel for both of you. I am a stay at home mom of two boys, 2 and 5. My boyfriend works full time. I have experienced the moodiness and the boredom and still do at times. However, I have learned to curve it because my boyfriend and I had so many arguments because of it. I finally understood that he works so long and hard to provide for us and after a long, hard day at work, all he wanted was to come home and see us all smiling. So, I do that for him, even if the smile is fake. When he comes home, he spends 45 min. or so with the kids, just the three of them. I found this time helpful for me to relax and lose any of the stress or anger from that day's happenings. I read, watch my favorite tv show, or do a crossword. Then when my boyfriend comes out to talk to me, my mood is relaxed...and I'm happy-just like he wanted. I also do many surveys and secret shoppers. It helps me bring in some income, and gives me something to do. Your significant other may want to try it. It has helped me so much with my boredom. I also enjoy making crafts, um, unsure if he would like that, but he needs to find a hobby. It's hard staying at home, but if that's what he wanted, he needs to learn how to cope with it. Otherwise, it could jeopardize your relationship. Just like I'm sure you try not to bring too much work stress home, he needs to try not to bring too much home stress. I hope this helps at all. I know the stress you both are feeling! Good Luck!

sign he and the baby up for swimming lessons at the ymca. make him get out and do something. also when you get home give him some time to do his own thing. i'm a stay at home mom, and the 30min break makes the diff. also with the sex thing...,,,,of coarse his gonna want sex all the time, what else do you expect him to think about all day. just be happy he want it with you........he prob. misses you. be happy

OK first of all...I think all of us SAHM need to get together and hang out!!! LOL I feel for you and your husband. My husband and I have 2 children, 2 and 5 yrs old. My 5 year old just started school this year so our 2 year old is home. For the past 2 years, my husband and I have worked opposite shifts. Before that, I was home with my first son for about 6 months. It is rough!! We decided to work opposite shifts b/c I REFUSED to work so that I could pay someone else $900+ to watch my kids for the month! This worked out well b/c we both had our own time with the kids...but we also had our own time away from the kids. It is rough and I believe the marriage has to be open, strong and full of communication! B/c there is not a whole lot of time for the parents! But..they always say..."Absence makes the heart grow fonder"! And I believe this b/c when we do finally get time together, we have sex and we both LOVE IT!! B/c we miss each other so much! Plus it makes for good conversation! Each person has some input to what they have done for the day...instead of the SAHparent feeling like there isn't anything but kid stuff to report:) Then on days off together we have family days where we go and do something special together as a family:) So maybe he would like to do that? Good luck and I hope everything works out!!
~A.

I don't pretend to know a whole lot about the other sex, but I do know that a man feels emasculated at times when his woman makes more than he does, or when he finds himself in the role typically taken by the mom.
Perhaps people are teasing him about it? Maybe he is dealing with his own feelings of inadaquacy?
I am not sure, but I hope that you can just ask him about this, and that you notice this often now.
The sex thing, well, that may be where he feels the most manly, and needs to feel manly often.