L.S.
Hi B.!
I've been struggling with this issue for a long time. I don't know if I have any answers for you, but I may have some advice that might help. I'm in a similar situation, but I don't have the little ones or babysit. I have a 3 year old who is at home. She missed the cutoff for preschool so I have to wait until next year for her to be gone 2 days. I also have a son who is in first grade. I never had any time to myself to get any work done so I was depending on my husband's help. When he got home from work I was spending a couple of hours working and he did the bedtime routines. We don't eat dinner together like we used to, which we have gotten used to. We spend time together after I'm done working and the kids are in bed. I also found a new solution. I work on the computer and my daughter loves to go on playhousedisney.com and pbskids.org so that's when I used to get my "not on the computer" work done, whether it's housework or work. I recently got a laptop and now we both work at the same time. If your daughter can find an activity that keeps her occupied, maybe you could have her do that when the twins are napping and then you could get some work done. I just know that this is a situation where you need support. I couldn't do this without my husband understanding that I NEED to get work done. Unfortunately I haven't found time to exercise yet. I think that this is something that I still need to figure out. Another option is to switch off children with a friend. You could have a child over at your house part of a day and then have your daughter visit your friend's house part of another day. You could do this during nap time too. If you have nappers I would take full advantage of that. When my daughter gave up naps that's when I had to start being creative. Good luck to you. Please let me know how things are going. You may have (or get) some great advice that I could use too!