My mother recently battled stage 3 breast cancer. She too lost all off her hair, and went through Chemo. My mother always had really long hair... and the day we cut it (To help make it so it wouldn't be so devistating when it started falling out)was such a sad day for her. She had lost a breast and her hair... she felt like she lost her "womanly appeal". She is a christian, and had faith that God would get her through, but there were days when the chemo make her so sick, and she just wanted to quit. There were many times that she prayed that she would die. I never knew what the "right" thing to say was... but my sisters and I just went on treating her like "mom". No different. She was sick. But just being there for her and loving her was enough. Make your aunt a little coupon book, with foot rubs, bubble baths, etc. in there. Then she can pick what she is needing at that time, and you can do it for her. Cancer is terrible. I lost my Grandma to ovarian cancer this past March. It was rapid... and I have felt such a tremendous loss. Don't look at your aunt and think,"She could die"... look at her and think "She could LIVE". If you need anything else, let me know. I hope this helped... I don't think I gave you what you were looking for... but I have been where you are, twice... once turned out sad, and one (My mom) turned out great.