Advice on Child Support with an Uncooperative Father.

I'm very confused.

You opened a case two years ago and it's never been finalized?
He's ignoring the orders all together?

When a person is served a notice of motion filed with the court, they have so many days to respond to them and have their response filed. If they do NOT do that, then a default judgement is entered against them. For instance, if whatever agency you are going through (child support services) has determined that the support amount should be $400 per month, and your child's father does not appear or respond within the days given, you would automatically be awarded that amount and a judgement entered.

You have a case number. You should be able to go to the clerk's office at the courthouse and look at your file to see when the papers were filed, served, etc. I wouldn't take anything the father says at face value. Arm yourself with information.

Also, in California, child support arrears accrue 10% interest and even a small amount can become huge with interest penalties. Also, they can take away your driver's license, put liens against any properties you own and do tax return intercepts.

Again, I'm a little confused and I'm not sure I understand your situation.

The best thing I ever did for my kids was be able to support them by myself. Then, when I DID get support, it was like icing on the cake, but we didn't need it to survive.

Not all non-custodial parents jump in to do what's right. It's sad, but true.

Best wishes.

Turn him in to the local child support enforcement agency and then if he gets caught up with be happy for the extra money but in the meantime don't count on it. My mom left an abusive spouse who later didn't go through the treatment required and refused supervised visitation. So he never saw us. He refused to pay for "what he didn't have" so for many years Mom got nothing. You have til your kid is 28 (10 years past 18) to get arrears. It would be great if he had to pay up (and he may, eventually. Our father wanted a government job and they made him settle up) but in the meantime, try to be zen about it. Remember, this is not about you being greedy but it is easier for him to blame you than to feed his child.

Thank you so much for your responses, it means the entire world to me to hear your words.

I'm having to talk to several people about this because I guess my case worker isn't working on my case as strongly as she should, and if that's the case, I think I'll go else where for the help I'm not getting from her. I've told her (my case worker) and her boss 4 different places where I thought he'd be or last seen, but it's taken them almost 3 years to track him down. I was informed about a year and a half ago that a sheriff and deputy would serve him court order papers and paternity papers...I guess he doesn't to just not show because nothing happened.

The guy (my sons father) has seen him 4 times and out of the 4 he made the effort to see him once. The first and last he showed was 5 months old, he wasn't even in the delivery room for his birth. It's not that I NEED help raising my son financially but it's only human of me to want help, it'd be nice..especially with daycare costs. I'm working two jobs and on my own, been since about 2 years ago.. It's hard but I have my family that watcha him every now and then.

When he had told me about the papers, he complaining to me that he couldn't afford it and that I'd ruin his daughters, like he expected me to show him sympathy. Yeah, after my son was born (we weren't together) he got the girl he was seeing pregnant. Little girl, and married.

It's just funny that he thinks signing over his rights has everything to do with child support! It makes my stomach sick to know our child means nothing to him! He's the kind of person that make his family go hunger k owing I wouldn't get a dime of his.

There is no way your going to get anywhere with this man. If he wanted to do more for his child he would. Not trying to sound rude here but I had to do it myself when my sons father walked out on us and he refused to pay child support. I went to the District attorney and filed. I am now rec'ing child support they collect it for me and since he never calls or makes the initiative for our son I just let it be. In the end your child will see who truly loves them and is there for them.
Save your self the frustration let the system make him grow up and take responsibility!
I am here if you ever need any advise or someone to listen :)
HTH