Advice on Returning to Work

Hi L.,
I know exactly how you are feeling. I am a teacher, although I wish I could stay home, I can't. This time is always hard for me because I have had over 2 months with my daughter (2 1/2 years old) and now I have to go through leaving her all over again. The beginning is hard, but everyday gets a little easier. Just leave work at work, and really concentrate on your girls when you get home. We try to do a My gym class or something special just the two of us, which you could do with your older one. I hope it works out.
J.

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You should never feel guilty about going back to work. You are not doing it because you want to, rather, because you have to. I'll bet you'd feel a lot more guilty if you didn't do the responsible thing and your children suffered for it. They may not understand it now, but they will respect you for it later. Besides, maybe it won't be for long. Or, you may end up later finding an ideal working situation that will allow you to be at home with them in the afternoons after they start school. God has always provided these opportunities for us, if we ask Him and have faith.

Just think of all you will be able to do for them financially, now that you are back at work. I'll bet there are times when a SAHM feels guilt about not being able to do or afford some things for their family. You see, both sides have their pros and cons.

Just keep reminding yourself that you ARE doing what's best for your children at the moment and they are in good (GOD's) hands.

Going back to work part-time and transitioning to full time worked very well for me - I did this just over a 4-5 month period. However, it gave everyone a chance to get used to the new routine. I was also breastfeeding (a baby that refused a bottle or cup), so it allowed us to continue that more easily and once I was back fulltime, he was already on some solids. In terms of my job, I sat down ahead of time with my boss and explained why I wanted to do it this way - I was also returning 2 mos early as I had originally said I would be off 6 mos. I also made the effort to show up for staff meetings at 9am on Friday mornings and gradually lengthened my days in the office from a few hours to fulltime. And, as others have suggested, not worrying about the house and keeping meals, allowing you to focus the end of the day on time with your kids really does help compensate for that time away. I honestly didn't reach a point where separation from my kids was at all easy until they were well into elementary school, but you do adjust and you need to consider the advantages your kids will have in terms of socialization - my kids are fanastic in any new situation and make friends very easily. Since I am not a social bee, I don't think they would have had near the social interactions had I chosen to not work.

The best advice I ever got about going back to work was to give yourself 6 weeks to not do anything after work. Don't worry about cleaning, cooking dinner, etc. - just come home and enjoy the kids. You can eat sandwiches, or something like that - but the most important thing is going to be getting in that quality time when you are home.

L.

Bless your heart.
I wish I could give you great advice to make it a wonderful experience or tell you the perfect way to handle it but I don't think that exsists. I can tell you, as hard as it will be at first for you, your husband, and your wonderful daughters it will get easier. Your 2 1/2 year old will break your heart but maybe you can use her as your big helper with sister while your working. I don't think the guilt ever really goes away, but the tears are less often and after they establish routine it may make it a little easier. I wish you all the best, you seem like a very positive person I believe that will help you.
Many Blessings, T.

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