After Delivery Question

I know this will not be a popular question but who takes care of the kids when mom is out doing her thing? And why don't women think raising a child is an important job?

Maybe it's because you truly want to do it. I worked full time and took one or wo classes per semester with two kids, then did my full-time dietetics internship after having #3. Now I work part time as a RD with four kids. It can be done. But it's hard work and stressful, I won't lie. Worth it now, though. I love being a dietitian.

Congrats on the new bundle! This doesn't seem odd to me. Obviously, you dream to be an RN. I think a new baby makes everyone reevaluate themselves and their situations. Of course you are going to think about fulfilling your dreams and aspirations. A baby is a new beginning in a lot of different ways. It may not be something you can do right now. But it does not mean it's out of the question completely. And there are many options available if you want to work in the medical field. Many of those options do not require the money or time and RN requires, but may fulfill you the same way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a career for yourself.

This is JUST me and my experience. Before having kids i always wanted to stay home, then I had kids. 3 close together, and I wanted a job more and more with each one. Staying home with small children is HARD. When they got older i got to stay home again, and i've loved it. i went from no patience to homeschooling 2 of them, but then it's different when they are older, less demanding, and more interactive. Fast forward, my first 3 are 12, 10 and 8, the oldest and youngest in school and the middle still homeschooled, I have an 8 month old and I have wanted nothing more than to go back to work since he was born. I think it's because I don't have to feel guilty if I go to work, but wanting to go out and leave my little boy is less acceptable. (which isn't even actually true, but how I think people view it, honestly i bet no one would even care, but I can't convince myself of that when it comes to actually going out). We're pregnant again, and due in Feb. I'm thrilled, (but I'm already looking for jobs and sitters, I'm going to need the guilt free break to keep my sanity)

Victoria it is probably as you think...you love the way they made you feel while taking care of you and you want to give that back. Caring for your children is the most important job in the world... I do look at it as a job and although I do not get paid...i have a boss and requirements, schedules, demands, meetings, and on and on and on. I love my job and take it very seriously. Now that all 3 of my kids are in school all day (I always thought I would go back to work) I am considering what I want to be when I grow up.Hee hee. I loved the job I had at a chiropractors office and know I would be welcomed back but the hours are just not possible with my 1st and most important job of being a mother. You have alot of time on your hands while on bedrest so you could maybe do some online schooling and when your children are older and inschool if you feel you want to continue your education in the nursing field- so be it. For now I am still just a stay at home mom- which is the hardest and best! job in the world, even when they are in school- and I like it that way. Not to mention the flood of hormones that your body goes through after delivery...instead of babyblues of ppd you get i wanna be a nurse symdrome :)

I have three kids my last pregnancy was Hell or just short of it. Hyperemesis and then Post-eclampsia. Hospitalized for weeks after delivery with uncontrolable high BP Oh how aweful!

Fast foward 15 months. I have a beautiful and completely worth it third child. and I am a year into going back to school. I take one to two classes a semester to keep me sane. Best thing I have ever done. some days are rough but really not much worse then if I wasn't goign to classes. I do everything online.

Have you filled out financial aid to see what you can maybe get?

I am not however wanting to go into nursing I know that this is NOT a field I would be good in. I tell you what though with all the help I got from nurses and the hospital staff I would probably be going to be a nurse if it was something I could do but I know I can't. I lived in the hospital for nearly a year (on and off) it's like a second family when you have some major medical issues so I can see where you are getting these feelings.

I had my 5th on July 2nd and started back to school on Aug 30 last year. I only took a 9 mo course, but just took my ceritification test for coding and am now nationaly certified. Now I'm trying to find a job, but having troubles since I don't have expericance & I am expection #6 in Nov (unexpected - but still welcomed & loved).

I'm not saying it was easy - my day was very long... up at 6:30 to get 3 kids off to school by 8:00, pick on one of them from pre-k at 11:00, pick-up 2 at 2:30, snack then homework time for 2 kids till about 4:00, out the door for school at 4 - 4:15 at the latest, class from 5-10 pm then home and try to get some homework done (sometimes till 2-3 am). just to do again the next day. Not to mention - I still had to do dishes, laundry, nurse the baby, grocery shopping, and all the other things a mom & wife has to do. Yes, hubby had to make dinner & put the kids to bed when I was a school - but when I was/am home... it has and still is all mine, even if he is doing nothing.

If you really want to go back to school - you can make it work! Look closely at schools, check out their graduation rate & the hire rate of graduates before attempting to go there. Then call them and see if they will assist you with financal aid - most schools do. Also, go on-line and see what your FAFSA is - this is the rating that tells a school how much you can afford to pay for school & also if you can get any grants (federal and state) for school. If you income is lower for 2011 - you may want to wait till 2012 to go to school, cause your grants are based on last years income and your current family size. If I'm not mistatking the max federal grant is a bit over $5,000 - so if you FAFSA report says 0, you schould get the whole amount (the lower the "score" or responsiblity the more $ you get. So, also look into how much the school will cost and if that cost includes books or not - that way you know if you have to pay extra or try to get loans to cover the rest of the cost.

As to why you go through this - I'm not sure... are you happy in you current job. Does it give you want you want & provide for your family like you want it to. Are you just looking for something new? My reason was - my job of 12 year got shipped overseas & manufacturing seems to be going away from the US - I looked for work for a year with no luck & I needed to find something to provide for my family... so a new path & schooling was needed.

Good luck on whatever you choose - and congratz on your boy!

hey girl - congrats on your new little angel :) i also have 3 children & had pre-eclampsia with all of them (all born right around 37 weeks). I have been thinking about a nursing career for quite a while, and my littlest is now 1, and i am going back to school - i took my first class this summer, and am taking 2 classes for the next 2 semesters, until I start the actual nursing classes next fall. I am taking the classes through my local community college, which has a great program, and is soooo much less expensive than the school i received my first degree from! I don't qualify for the federal pell grant, but I do qualify for stafford loans, which don't have to be repaid until 6 months after I graduate, so we are going that route - right now the interest rate on those is 3.4%, which is very good, and since tri-c is not very expensive, we won't have to borrow too much to pay for the entire degree.

good luck to you!
~T.

No real advice...Just wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS Victoria!!!
So glad to hear he is here and you are both doing well!

If I had my life to do all over again I would have gone into nursing.
After my 1st birth I too had these lovey dovey feelings towards what I felt must be one of the best jobs in the world.
After my 2nd...it was just a different kinda birth (water) and I did not have those wacky postpartum rose colored glasses on.
I certainly understand. Being in the hospital and taken care of is...nice.
Babies are...precious.
Nurses are so...important!
Forgive me, I'm rambling...
Who wouldn't want to be in that environment?
All I can say is I think I understand. And right now you are hormonal. Lol.
Like I said-if I had it to do all over. Or didn't have kids. And was rich. Lol.
But none of those things are reality. So, I have to choose to be content w/ the life I made.
GOOD GRIEF! I need to go to bed! Again, forgive me and congrats!!!
Boys are sooo much fun! And that is from a mama who wanted a tribe of DD's! ;)

ETA: Now that I am awake and a little more coherent...I hope I didn't come across as discouraging-not my intent! If you really want this-then do it! :)