Am I in Denial?

When I had my ultrasound for my 3rd child I was secretly hoping for another girl. When we found out it was a boy I cried! I had a couple very valid reasons for wanting him to be a girl (I won't get into them) At any rate, I got used to the idea after awhile and nowI love him so much I couldn't imagine not having him. You will feel the same, I promise ;) Besides, you could get lucky and she'll be a tomboy :D

I felt the same way when i found out i was having my second boy. I had conviced myself it was a girl because my pregnancy was so different. I thought i wouldn't care either way but i was upset for a couple days. It was my last pregnancy as well. My youngest is now 10 months. I love him to death and saving money on baby clothes is great. I do however see cute baby girl clothes at times and think how nice it would be to have a girl. I have 3 nieces so i take them dress shopping sometimes. There's nothing wrong with being a little bummed out.

Let yourself grieve for a few days if you want to. It's not a betrayal of your baby.

Don't worry, you will love your daughter plenty once she's born.

People often fill a seance of disappointment when they find out they are not having the sex they thought they wanted. It is normal, and it will pass. You will love this girl completely just as you do your first. I know my sister was disappointed to find out she was with boy #3, but now, even thought at times she thinks it would be nice to have a girl, she can only think of it in addition to her 3 amazing boys, not in replacement of any one of them.

I had a similar experience with our last (third) daughter. All I can say is that some months or a year down the line, I bet you will love your child so much, you will have forgotten all about this disappointment. You won't be able to imagine life without this very child.

Give yourself some time to accept it and adjust to it. You had your heart set on something else, and it takes some time for the world view to adjust. You probably don't need to pay for another ultrasound since it sounds like that one was clear. You just need to spend some time coming to terms with it, walking through the stages of letting go of a little boy you thought existed and getting excited about a little girl who does.

I'd not recommend getting another ultrasound - it's not healthy for the baby. My advice would be to make a concerted to refocus your energies on getting this baby through the rest of the pregnancy and nurturing her as much as possible.

UItrasounds can be wrong, but it's very unlikely.

My husband and I chose not to learn the gender either time. We just wanted healthy kids. We ended-up with one of each gender for the time-being (I want one more).

I am one of 3 girls, my husband is one of 3 boys. We all have different personalities, as will your girls. Celebrate their differences in personality rather than their genders, and I think it will help you get past the disappointment you currently feel.

Good luck.

I think it's just shock.
look at it this way , at least you won't have to go out and buy all new stuff, you already have one girl and it will be easier to room them together if you need to!
Congrats on having another healthy girl!

I remember being very surprised to find out my second baby was another girl! I was so sure I was having a boy (no morning sickness, no big weight gain like with my first). But, like you, the ultrasound was clear - I definitely had a girl in there! After the surprise wore off and I accepted that, yes, I was definitely having another girl, I began to think about how fun it would be. (I, too, had felt like I should have one of each.)

My younger daughter is now almost 5, my oldest is 7, and I LOVE having girls! We have so much fun together doing girly stuff, and my husband absolutely dotes on them. He loves being the daddy to two girly girls! Even though you didn't think it was what you wanted, give it a few days to sink in, and know that some day you will be sooo happy with your two beautiful little girls! It may take some time for the surprise to wear off though. =)

Well, you just found out yesterday... so in a way, you have to mourn the loss of your "feeling" it was a boy. In a way, it is like parents who find out that their child has Down's Syndrome. They will love their child, but all the hopes and dreams and plans for their child are suddenly changed. In that respect, you are going through the same thing. No football in your child's future, no blue boy's nursery, no future Daughter in law, etc. So it is okay to "mourn" the loss of these things you anticipated. It will pass and you will move on.

That said, we were told that our first baby was a girl. I "knew" it was a girl all along. Well... they were wrong. And so was I. Granted, the ultrasound was much earlier in my pregnancy, and technology 12 years ago was not what it is these days... but there are errors and until the baby is delivered you won't know for absolute complete certainty.

Your feelings right now are normal. Whether you have a girl or a boy, you will love your child. And none of it seems "real" until they are delivered! lol Once you are holding your baby in your arms, you will be fine..

I am sure it is the hormones altering your mood. Just wait until she is born and she see your beautiful baby, nothing will matter then.

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J.,

I think most of us moms go through this at one time or another. I have 3 children all boys and I wanted a girl so bad. The first I knew was a boy and I was ok with it but the second time everyone kept saying I was having a girl and the pregnancy was so different from the first. I was sure it was a girl well surprise he was a boy. There was a brief moment of disappointment but that soon faded. The third time was going to be the last and I wanted a girl so so bad and at the ultrasound they showed the gender and everyone in the room knew it was a boy and yes I was disappointed again. But they are 14, 12, and 7 and I would not trade them for the world. I have such loving and compassionate young men and often am thankful that I have all boys. My sister on the other hand has had 2 girls and would love to have a boy in the future. But for now I can love on that sweet little girl and send her home. Boys are so much easier to me than girls. No disrespect to those with girls, I have 5 sisters and 7 nieces and I love them all.

When I was pregnant I was just assuming it was a girl. Imagine my surprise and shock when the ultrasound showed a boy. It threw me for a loop and it felt weird for a few days until I had time to adjust. I don't think you're in denial, I just think you're in shock. Think of a girl's name to make her seem more real to you. And.....Congratulations!

You just found out so I'd give it time to sink in. I thought for sure this time around I would be having a boy too. All of us did (except our daughter who kept telling us it was a girl). I am so thrilled she is healthy too...but really thought I would be having a boy. I am 34 weeks and still have a small tinge of denial thinking the u/s have been wrong...but really I know it's a girl now. Give yourself some time to accept it and start thinking of all the perks of sisters. :) Congratulations!

Its happened to me before as well and as you go further into your pregnancy you will soon enough forget about it and start looking fwd to holding your new little girl..

G.

I think it's possible that it's a boy, but not very probable. Sometimes when they think it's a girl, it winds up being a boy, but not the other way around. So I would say you have hope, but realistically, chances are it's a girl. Ask for another u/s if it will help you, but if the results are the same...get ready to be a mommy of 2 sweet girls! Good luck!

I just knew on my second pregn. that I was having another boy. Yep, two boys is what I would be having. Come to find out from the sonog. that #2 was a girl. I never really believed the tech. until my beautiful baby was born (even though for the shower EVERYTHING I got was pink ... in the back of my mind, I kept on thinking I would be returning lots of things for boy items!). Needless to say, when the baby was born they said, "it's a girl!" I was laughing and saying really?? I have never more in love with a child and God knew what baby to send me. I love my 1st with all my heart also, but their personalities are so different and #2 and I are joined at the hip. She's 11 now and we continue only to get more in common. Congratulations and don't stress on the sex. Just laugh about it and enjoy every day with both of them! My dad will tell you he always said he wanted boys. He got THREE girls and now says he could NOT do without "his girls!" You can see his chest swell with pride when we walk in the room and he is now the proud father-in-law to three amazing "sons" (really son-in-laws). He got the boys he always thought he wanted, just we got to pick them out for him. He laughs about it and is thankful it worked out this way.

no harsh words. very understandable. my husband was convinced i was having twin boys. even had names picked out, and wouldn't accept anything other than boy stuff. well we found out we were having girls, and while i was super happy, he had a hard time, not because he didn't want girls, but because he had convinced himself we were having boys. he didn't talk much, and was pretty down that day, and maybe the next day. he came around. our girls are now 5 and he says he doesn't think he would have loved boys more than he loves out girls. you just need time to let it sink in. and look at it this way, your daughters will always have each other. my sister and i are 4 years apart, but we're totally like twins. the closeness was there from the get go.

Congrats on the healthy baby girl. I'm not an expert on this, but have heard that those with expectations that aren't met, are actually lucky to find out so early so that you can grieve and cope before the baby comes. Give yourself some time. Return the boy clothes and get some cute girl outfits, start looking at names. If the technician was sure it is a girl, you are probably in a bit of denial, but that is to be expected with anything like this. Give yourself a break. If in another month or so, you are still having some issues, you may want to talk to your ob and get some recommendations for someone to talk to.