Another Child Not on B-day Party Invite List

I can't imagine that it wasn't an oversight. I would mention it and if I was the hostess I would be extremely grateful.

If the entire class was invited except the one, it may have been an oversight. I think it's worth talking directly to the birthday boy's mom while you aren't in front of any kids. It's likely an accident.

ETA: I don't understand the "stay out of it" mentality on many of the responses. Stay out of WHAT? If the mom says "Billy doesn't get along with Bobby so we didn't invite him," then OKAY. And if the mom says, "WHOOPS! I'm so glad you told me!" then OKAY! Either way, no harm done. Silence, however, fixes nothing in this case.

I would say something to the mom . If it was an oversight and you didn't say something wouldn't you feel terrible if you didn't ? Also, I would want to know if it was intentional .If it was , who does that to a child ?

Your best bet would be to stay out of it. Remember, not everybody is invited to everything. It may be hard but life is not fair and you make rock an apple cart that may cause you to be on the outside looking in.

the other S.

It's none of your business, it's the party hostesses business.

Why would you get yourself involved in someone else's party. There are some things that you stay out of.

I think as an invited guest, you should not ask about the others on the list. It is not your place and I am sure those holding the party know who they invited.

You can send a quick email to just the host and say "I noticed that one child in the class was not invited. Their current address is x in case you need it. I only mention it if it was an oversight." And then stay out of it. The boy may not get along with the other boy or it might have been a bad email used or whatever.

There were a couple of times in preschool where some of the moms would ask about other parents' email addresses since they didn't seem to be good ones or whatever. I don't think such a short note would be out of line, as long as you then just let it go.

My daughter is and is not invited to some parties. Last year the girl next door had her birthday party at home and told my daughter she was inviting her, but didn't. Then gave her some bs story about why she had to not invite her. I told my daughter to let it go, and she wasn't the type of "friend' she wanted anyways, for way more reasons than just this.

So honestly, I would stay out of it. It's not your party to host, you have no idea what the dynamics are between the families, and you will make the situation awkward if you say something.

Depends on whether you can do it in the right way. Think about whether you can just call her and say, "We're so excited about the birthday party, and we noticed there was one boy in the class not invited - I just wanted to mention it in case it was an oversight on your part." That's it. Don't say anything more - let the birthday boy's mama take it from there as she pleases.

I still remember a party I wasn't invited to, and it was an oversight. The girl's mother thought she had invited every girl in the class - and I was the one left out. It was pretty hard for me when the other girls were talking about Leslie's upcoming party at school. As it turned out, on the party morning they were at the dime store (anybody remember dime stores?) at the same time I was, for some reason. Even before I got home my mother received a phoned invitation for me.

What are your school rules? We recieved requirement, All or none, can be all Boys ( I have a son) and no girls or it has to be the entire class so there are no hurt feelings. Especially in Kindergarten. If you have the same rules, then I would venture a guess that it was an oversight.

Something in passing to the host mom and be done with it..

Do not say a word about it.

I would maybe just send a private message.."Thank you for the invitation, my son will defintely be attending and is looking forward to it! Not sure if you are aware but, I did not see so and so's name listed on the evite...I have the families contact info if you are interested."

Nope, I'd stay out of it.

I don't think it's your place to say anything. Also, you are assuming that they haven't already spoken to the child's parents.. who knows, maybe that child and his family are busy that day...

No, don't say anything. The boy probably just invited the boys he's actually friends with, not all the boys, why would he?

Don't say anything...

Where did u see this "list"? Do the other moms see it? And when/where would you mention this supposed oversight? If it would be at the party, nothing could be done except make all parties feel bad. I would stay out of it Mama, not your battle.

Well I think it is rotten if this family invited teh whole class except this boy. I would mention it to the birthday mom and say I noticed you left one boy out of the whole class.

Knowing the kind of person i am, i would probably just mention it in passing.
More than likely it sounds like it was an oversight on her part and maybe it wasn't. It sounds to me like it is bothering you. I would probs say something! Good luck!

I agree that it was most likely an oversight. One of my friends is constantly using the wrong e-mail address for me on Evite (she missed one letter in my e-mail address and she keeps forgetting to C. it in her Evite address book), and I never get the invitations to her daughter's parties until she verbally follows up with me....a day or two before the party!

Maybe she doesn't have the boy's e-mail address? I know some families won't list theirs in the school directory for privacy purposes. I would probably send her an e-mail letting her know that you noticed that the one boy was not included in the invitation and that you have his e-mail address if she needs it. Let her know that if the omission was done on purpose, that you will make sure your son doesn't mention the party at school. And then just leave it at that.

*ETA: So, that family/boy knows they were not invited? Since you said that you know them and you know, they did not receive the plain e-mail that was addressed to parents first?
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I would think, that any Mom/Host, would have gone over the invite list, a few times to make sure their invite list, is accurate.

Next: Another thing is, perhaps that boy is NOT on the list, because the parent does NOT want her e-mail/info/name, to be displayed publicly....on the Evite display of the evite invitation.
And if so, then perhaps, the Host of the party, sent that Mom/boy, a SEPARATE invite, which you would not be privy to.
Because, it is personal.
OR: perhaps that boy/Mom did get an Evite for the party... but it went to their "junk mail" ???? So they did not get it.

You really cannot assume, that that boy was not invited. Because the scenario could be something else. Or maybe he really was not invited. Who knows. That is the bottom line. And it is personal per the Host etc. and her child.

And in any event, there is no "rule" that ALL kids in a class have to be invited to another kid's party.

Per my kids and whatever invitations they get... when they were younger...I do NOT tell my kids, about it, until it gets closer to the party date. I do this as a precaution so that they do not inadvertently talk about it at school in front of others. And now that they are older, they KNOW NOT to, talk about any parties or invitations they get, at, school.

My son was recently invited to a party in which not all classmates were invited to. Fine. That is the Host's choice and her child's choice.
But the kids do not talk about it, IN school.

I see both sides. I actually was the person left out at a preschool party. The mom left all invites with the preschool. The mom invited us the year prior and the year later, so I am assuming it was an over sight. She left the stack on the pick up table minus mine. Anyway, I never ask and didn't tell my son. I figured either she forgot or she invited too many and made a cut that year.

Kindergartener could have issues with certain children. I was so surprised at the behavior my son's year. There are a few kids I was not crazy about and 2 my son did not want to be around.

Here is my opinion. The kids are going to talk in class. The party boy will say something to his mom when he finds out non-invite is not coming if he wants him there.

I know in this day and age it's hard to imagine, but perhaps the boy's parents don't have an e-mail! I know it's hard for you young parents to wrap your head around the idea of picking up a phone AND TALKING ON IT (as opposed to texting) or putting pen to paper, but there is no better way than the old-fashioned way!

Although this is a kid event, the dynamics are adult induced. Because the child is the son of your pal, I would say, that I noticed, but be ready to let the mom know that it's none of my business. Then, I would be busy and not have my child attend the party if the kid was indeed slighted. There is no way I would support a child being slighted. Karma for my child.

It's not your son, if this is bothering you so much, give the mother of the birthday child a call or email and let her know what you feel free to have let everyone else know. Yes, it may have been an over site or there may be a good reason why this parent didn't want the child at HER child's party. Either way, you take the risk of being perceived as a "busybody" and having your child taken off of future invitations.

An out of school party does not mean that everyone in the class MUST/NEEDS to be invited.

For one of my son's parties, I invited two kids at the last minute because the class list I had at the start of the year didn't include the names of two newer students. Had my son not mentioned a name that I didn't recognize, I wouldn't have known that the class list had changed.

Normally I'm pretty "not my business" about stuff like this, but there is no harm in asking the other mom about it.

I would send a quick email to the host mom. Just say you noticed on the evite that all the boys in the class were invited except one. Ask if she needs his contact info or if she prefers to keep him off the list. Make sure she knows that you haven't said anything to the other mom yet and say not to feel bad if it was intentional.

I'd mention it to the inviting mom that I noticed this boy was not invited.

IF IF IF she says they left him of intentionally, for instance her son doesn't like him then I think I'd RSVP a no thank you then explain it to my son.

This would be a great opportunity to teach your child empathy. Having him put himself in that left out boys place, how would he feel when he found out he was left out, how would he want to be included? Etc...