Any Good Books/resources Out There for Parenting Girls?

You are her best role model!
It's nice to also have her involved in some all girl activities: sports, Girl Scouts, things where girls/women come together and make things happen without the help or distraction of boys and/or men.
Hopefully she has a good relationship with her dad because that goes a long way too.
I've heard good things about the American Girl books as well, but my girls were never really into those (they said they were "boring.")
Also, I have spent a lot of time watching TV and movies with my girls, especially the stuff marketed to them. It's a great way to talk about issues: why do you think she did that/made that choice? what do you think YOU would do? etc.

I have a daughter, that is 10 now.

One of the most important things is, your "relationship" with her.
No matter what age. Which is nurtured all along the way, from babyhood.

Even if a child, goes through icky "tude" phases, per age, they still need... a Mom. Or another parent, to be close to.

For me, per my kids... I know if they are just giving "tude"... or if they are really just feeling icky, and need me. So I adjust my reaction to them, accordingly.
Keep in mind, if a child is feeling icky/frustrated etc. or going through emotion based changes or development, it is hard on them, too. BUT being they are a child.... they won't say "Mommy, I need you right now, I have things bothering me emotionally...." So they need us, to be their "radar" also. And to be there for them, at those times.
Lots of kids, don't even know themselves nor their own feelings or why they feel a certain way.

My late Dad used to say, that if a child cannot or is not allowed to vent or express themselves at home... to at least one parent, then.. who or where, will they do that with? And the answer is: it will be with outsiders or with other people or at other places, with whom you don't even know.
Thus, my Dad, used to be very aware of our cues. Not being a "friend" but a parent... who guided. And he was there when need be and was always there, to talk with about anything.
If a child, is always expected to be, spot on and perfect... everywhere and all the time, at school and at home... then at some point, they will get all pent-up, and this is also what causes problems. Because they have no where, to be themselves or to express themselves.

Kids either get bratty just to be bratty, or they have "real" reasons for not feeling all happy as a clam and pleasant as a daisy. So for me, as my kids' Mom... I really gauge my kids. I know, if they are just being a "brat", or if something else is churning underneath the surface. And I talk with them. They can tell me, anything. Without fear.

A child being themselves and being self-assured and being mannered, starts from the beginning of their lives. Not just at a certain age. It is like a rock collecting moss.

For me personally, since my kids were 2, I taught them to know themselves, to be themselves. So that once they are in school, they are not just followers or copy-cats and can be more self-reliant and to know... their own feelings and to choose friends wisely etc. And along with that, the relationship with me and me with them, is built.

One book I would recommend is Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Dr. Meg Meeker. Here is the info off a book review: To become a strong, confident woman, a daughter needs her father’s attention, protection, courage, and wisdom. Dr. Meeker shares the ten secrets every father needs to know in order to strengthen or rebuild bonds with his daughter and shape her life. I have heard her speak on radio and TV and I was very interested in her thoughts. Good Luck! You may have been looking for a mother/daughter book, so maybe someone can make that recommendation!

I am a certified parent educator. I have had parenting articles published.. Over the past 10 years, I have seen kids get very sassy.

Yes, you are the role model. Up there w/ the role models are the tv show and the commercials these kids see. When I was a kid, I watched The Brady Bunch. The parents were parents and there was a family life being carried out. Today, the teens on tv usually run the household. Words like "Jerk, stupid, idiot, damn, shut-up, ETC" are common everyday language. The tween and teen girls on tv are in full make-up and hair...and the clothes are not t-shirt like. The kid actors belittle one another, etc...
I see in families that kids are the center of attention. Birthday parties are over the top. Kids call other adults by thier first names. Parents do not give kids chores and parents give kids phones starting in grade 2...
Kids are growing up too fast--- and if they are --- they will have the attitude that goes w/ it and the attitude comes with all that they see on the media and with the kids they hang around with...
When my kids "sass', I stop them and say, "That is unacceptable...Try again."
I could write a book here. But, I will tell you that kids ages 7+ are much tougher than they were in the early 90's.
In the early 90's a parent would ask what time should a 3rd grade go to bed. Now, parents want to know why their third graders won't get off their phones when asked to because they won't stop talking on the phone and go to bed. It's simple: The phone is not allowed at the dinner table, nor at hw time and it goes on the kitchen table at 7:30 pm. In fact, I had one parent who starting following these simple rules and alot of the child's attitude went away...A child needs to be a child---not the adult like on so many of the tv shows today.

You do not need books. Just teach her the proper things in Life. Be kind to others, always share, say please and thank you etc. you get the picture. Attitude is normal. Just pick your battles and always remember you are the adult. Keep lines of communication open and love her and hold her through the rough times.

You know, I have a son and have really been impressed with the scope of Kathy Masarie MD's "Raising our Sons". She has a book entitled "Raising our Daughters" which I think is worth checking out. Her books are a collaboration and feature articles and pieces written by other people who work with children.

It likely won't give you a 'do this, do that' sort of formula, but give you a broader view of raising a child over the years. I went to a seminar Dr. Masarie hosted and was very impressed at the scope/big picture perspective of raising children.

http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Our-Daughters-Ultimate-Pare...

American Girl has a whole series on dealing with all the "girl stuff" - good for kids and parents.

I have boys so I read Dobson's book "raising sons" it was excellent, I'm sure there is a daughters book also! It is a really eye opening book, about how the world affects our children. And how we can parent (protect, teach, coach) them to be great kids.