My suggestion is to make a list of the signs and symptoms of the problem with the reflux, like back pain, irritability, fever, an abnormal odor to her urine, frequency and amt of urine in her diapers. It might be convenient to make a chart on your computer, copy it and keep it on a clip board next to your changing table. That way all urine output can be monitored, you will be aware of any changes that take place and be able to prevent any complications. It will also be a valuable resource for your physician to monitor the situation.
The surgery for this is to reimplant the ureters higher on the bladder. It is necessary in some cases. I would recommend having your dtr evaluated by a pediatric urologist. If you can go to a teaching hospital, as here in Ohio, we have University Hospitals of Cleveland, or the University of Toledo pediatric urology dept. It is important to have check ups to make sure your dtr doesnt develop polyonephritis, when the urine backs up into the kidney and causes a chronic infection, inflammation and possible death of the cells. I will pray for you and your dtr.It is a challenge to your parenting responsibities but remember it is short term and will either go away or be corrected with surgery. I like the clipboard idea because it will allow you to stay on top of your dtrs condition and it allows you and your husband to continue life as normal from day to day and not focus all your energy on this problem. You want to enjoy your newborn and provide adequate attention to her special needs.