This is so scary for you all! This is one of the situations where I would probably opt for CVS testing or some other early-pregnancy test. (I am, thankfully, not a CF carrier, and thus have opted out of all prenatal tests and screens). Keep in mind that a decision to test doesn't necessarily imply that you will abort the baby if it comes up CF positive (and whether you do or not is completely your own business - there is no reason to go into any detail with anyone beyond saying "we lost the baby". No matter how or why you lost the baby - be it accidental or intentional, it is a very difficult thing for a parent to go through and requires emotional support). Some parents simply want a "heads up" so that they know what to expect once their child is born. For others, their decision to carry the baby to term may depend on the test results. And many parents would rather not know because it won't influence their actions in any way and they'd rather not worry if the result were positive. Either way, it's a difficult decision and I hope you and your husband find a solution that you're at peace with. I agree, it makes it tough to decide to take the plunge and get pregnant again.