Anyone Not Tell They Found Out the Gender of Their Baby to Keep It a Suprise??

Yes but don't make the mistake of telling everyone that you both know and aren't sharing. Instead just say that the baby wasn't cooperating and therefore you don't know if it's a boy or girl. Trust me if you know and don't tell some people they'll bring it up constantly in every conversation.

Hi mother!

All I can tell you is with my first (I had my first in germany)...they did an ultra sound on every visit! Each time they said it was a girl. My husband (now ex) did not want to know. I smuggled in a complete wardrobe in for a girl (I kid you NOT...birth to 3 t...the PX was being 're built', and sales galore!!!)

In any case, after my emergency c section...I was the only one surprised when HE was born! My first comment (caught on video...and woozy from drugs) was, "She can't be a boy!! I have no clothes!!"

I never asked the sex on future pregnancies!

Best luck!
Michele/cat

We waited on our 3rd... it was such a great experience. I know this isnt what you are asking but I would suggest not finding out. No words to describe the emotion when baby is born and you find out at that point.

Congrats and Good luck!

I kept it from even myself,,,,,,,,,,,,one of my best decisions

We found out the sex of both our children ahead of time, but kept it to ourselves until they were born - it meant alot to us to be able to plan and dream in private for awhile before letting the rest of the world in! Enjoy this special time together :)

What's the surprise? If it's NOT a boy or a girl, THAT would be a surprise!

I found out as early as possible with all three. I liked to call the baby, he or she rather than it. It formed a personality for me if I knew the sex.

But we're all different, and that's what makes the world go 'round, right?

Either way, congrats to you and your fam!

:)

Nope! We gotta know and so does everyone else, lol.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

With our first we didn't know. I had a gut feeling which proved to be true when the doctor said, "It's a Boy!" Seeing the sheer joy and surprise on my husband's face was worth the wait. With our second we decided to find out.
So at 19 weeks we found out we were having another boy. The day he was delivered the doctor said, "It's a Boy!" It felt so wrong and kind of sad compared to our first. We both said if we were to be blessed with another we would NOT find out because we loved how it went our first time. So far we haven't had that joy again. But I do tell people that if I could do it all again with our second son I wouldn't have found out.

My brother and his fiancee said they were not finding out the sex of the baby. Totally cool, until we had a baby shower for the fiancee. Her family gave all of their presents at my brother's house not the party, a little weird until my mom stopped by after the baby shower and discovered everything they gave her was pink. She had told her family that it was a girl but not my mom. My mom was very hurt by this and still is when she thinks about it. So be honest with each other, if one of you slips admit to it and spread the good news to everyone. My husband and I kept our son's name a secret until after he was born. There was very little commentary about the name other than "Oh good, it is so normal". I don't think I could have kept the sex a secret for 20 weeks. Good Luck with whichever way you decide.

With all three I couldn't stand not knowing or telling!!!!!!!!! However, we kept the names a surprise! Congrats!

We found out the gender with both of ours but my family (my mom) didn't want to know - I slipped with the first and made a "he" reference and my mom was so upset! So for #2 we made sure to never slip or to cover it around my family - everyone else knew what we were having and knew not to say anything to anyone in my family - my parents were so sure we were having another boy, figured I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret if it was a girl! They even told my brother it was a boy, without saying they were assuming! So when my little girl was born - Uncle had to exchange his gift! They were absolutely shocked I managed to keep it a secret! It was fun, but also tough not to slip and make a "he/she" reference.

Good Luck and congrats on the baby!

I wanted to know with our daughter and hubby didn't...I just couldn't stand not knowing. But knowing and trying to keep it from him was difficult. If I said girl the next day I made a point to say boy...

With our son we decided we decided that I wasn't too good at keeping it a secret so we didn't want to know. I told the tech "no we want to be surprised" (I was having a Level 2 u/s) tech was great no mention of the sex and was very good to not show us anything...the doc came in and was telling us the issues with baby and then she slipped and said "it's a cyst on his brain"... I just looked at her like WTH? and she said "most of the time these cysts go away"...I said "we didn't want to know the sex...but please continue with the cysts"....after that I just had to see for myself.

All is well and he is perfectly healthy!

yes - with our second we knew but didn't tell anyone. I think it's more fun that way. I have to say w/ people telling the sex and name ahead of time, the actual birth is a bit of a nonevent sometimes. No surprise at all. It worked great for us to not tell anyone...

We did the same thing (we weren't going to, but I made sure we found out as my husband was completely convinved my SON was a girl - good thing as he needed some adjustment time LOL!). It was so hard to keep it a secret - at least for me. I had to make sure I didn't let anything slip, not to gravitate towards blue things..... as hard as it was for me, our friends got a kick out of trying to get it out of us or waiting for a slip up. I made a game out of it at my shower and told everyone then.

With our first we found out what we were having but decided not to tell anyone else. The mistake we made though was letting people know that we knew but weren't telling. For the next 20 weeks people would try to get us to slip up and spill the beans. It was so hard to keep it to ourselves. If you find out, I'd definitely say that they couldn't get a good view to find out the sex. With our last four we found out and told everyone.

This is exactly what me and my hubby are doing right now! We have 2 kids and I'm 36 weeks pregnant with our third. We told everyone we didn't find out the sex but really we did hehe. It has been so fun to hear people say what they think the baby is and to go on and on about how I must have such great control to not know the sex of the baby. I am loving this! It is super fun and has been a fun little bond between me and my hubby :)

We kept the names secret, but not the sex. It was nice to have a part of the pregnancy all to ourselves! Enjoy your secret!! :)

Yes. For our first we didn't find out. For our 2nd we did, and didn't tell family. Both of us were allowed to tell one friend. It made it fun and easier planning for us, and it was great to still have our family surprised once the baby was born.
I will say though I delivered both children vaginally and NOT knowing the sex of the baby was more motivation to keep on pushing.

I didn't want to know the gender with my first three. It was a surprise for everyone including me but my "maternal instincts" told me what each baby was and I was right. Now I'm pregnant with my 4th and we were not supposed to have any more children so this baby was a total surprise. We decided to find out with this one but we told everyone.

We did not find out with our first and after the baby was born my husband and I were so happy and relieved we did not check...we did not have any preference at all. We just kept looking at this beautiful baby and then finally someone asked if we wanted to know what sex our baby was...we laughed and checked...BOY. We found out with our second to make it easier to prepare our oldest...I can't imagine keeping such a big secret....I am really, really bad at that kind of thing.

We had our u/s on 12-7...we wanted to wait and suprise everyone on Christmas. Not exactly the 20ish weeks you are looking to wait, but it was fun to wait and tell everyone at once.
Had a Christmas Eve party and DD announced she was getting a baby 'brudder' and passed out little treat bags to her cousins.
Nexy day we wrapped up a present w/ a dino sleeper in blue tissue for my ILs.
It was a lot of fun!
It was hard to wait even for those 17 days.
But maybe it was harder cause ppl nagged us to know...
Congrats! Have fun!
P.s. We did keep the name secret until almost the very end...once it seemed so close no one would give us grief. :)

I think the only way you can do this is to tell people you don't know or are not finding out the sex. I knew for our first child and no one else knew (including my husband) and had no problems keeping it to myself......but no one knew I knew!