Appropriate for School or Not?

Put it this way: will it get her any positive attention?

I think, considering that someone else's parents might be taking her, that it would be respectful to have her dress a bit more appropriately. Personally, that would be 'at home on the weekend' clothing, not school clothes. I'd never allow my son to wear something like that to school.

(My rule is simple: if we wouldn't wear it in front of grandma, we don't wear it to school.)

I would have vetoed it as well. I don't think she'd get in trouble, but it just doesn't look very classy!

I also would have vetoed that shirt. and because I am "that mom" the shirt would probably magically disappear. I hated shirts like that. or anything that was vulgar or disgusting.

You did right.
It's fine for home but it's in bad taste for public.

I guess I am no fun or just not into potty humor... but I wouldn't let her wear that shirt at home let alone to a school function:). Good call on your part!

Don't assume public school standards are lower than private or Christian schools. Ours certainly isn't.
This O.? Technically, I'm not sure.
I wouldn't let my 10 year old SON wear something like that, and if I saw a kid with it on, I'd have a lower opinion of her/his parents.
I remember a question a whole back about the appropriateness of a onesie that said "all daddy wanted was a bl!w j*b." (eye roll)

that shirt sounds hilarious.
You're no fun mom!!
I would have let her wear that.
I would rather she wears a shirt depicting farting rainbows then pants that say DIVA accross her butt.
L.

I would ask your daughter what she wanted to convey. Did she want to be classy and show good taste, especially around her friend's friends that she did not know? Some humor is best left home til you know your audience.

My sks would probably not get in trouble per se, but it might leave a poor impression. If she really insisted on wearing it, I'd probably let it go, but only because the content is more potty humor than something sexist or vulgar.

ETA - I just read another post that mentions homosexuality. That didn't occur to me. The offense to me is something coming out of the unicorn's butt. I just wanted to make myself clear on that point...

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To be honest, my kids wouldn't own that shirt in the first place...

My older teen came home with a shirt that was made to help raise money for breast cancer awareness. It had handprints where breasts are. The back of the shirt had "hip talk" about the fight for breast cancer. We had a talk about that shirt and the fact that it was really just racy and breast cancer is NOT what people think about when they see that shirt, and most won't read the back of the shirt anyway. I took the shirt out of the washer and got rid of it. While my son was living with me, he wasn't going to be wearing inappropriate clothes.

From just the fact that you're asking the question, it sounds to me that you don't find this shirt appropriate. If that is the case, I have to wonder why she owns it in the first place. But that's just my opinion and I run my house that way...

Dawn

I agree with you, and wouldn't have let her wear it. Appropriate for home, but not school.

IDK if it is really inappropriate, but I would probably discourage just on the basis of first impressions.

Look, I have a sense of humor, but I would never dare let my daughter wear a shirt like that to school, or the grocery store for that matter.

It's not the most vulgar thing she could wear, but surely she has other cute tops.

My son wanted to show me a shirt that he wanted to order online.
(He also has a sense of humor).
He showed it to me and it was a silhouette of a woman hanging on a stripper pole. The shirt said, "I support single moms one dollar at a time".

I told him I'd buy it on one condition, the only place he'd be allowed to wear it was at his dad's house.
I didn't buy the shirt.......my son was joking me. I joked him right back.

Some kids love "potty" humor, but find a shirt that can't be seen as vulgar.
Problem solved.

Just my opinion.

I doubt a child would get in trouble for wearing a shirt like that in a public school. However, would I let my child wear it, most likely not.

This reminds me of the time (Not because I think the shirt you are describing is as bad, it just reminded me) I had to take a double look at a girl who was wearing a "Future MILF" shirt in my daughters Kindergarten class. Could NOT believe it. Plus their teacher was older, assuming she didn't know what it meant, so I'm not sure if she sent her home or made her inside it out or not.

I don't think a kid would get in trouble for the shirt but I don't think I would have let my kid where a shirt like that. Obviously you thought it would give off a bad impression so why does she even have it?

I don't know if my child would get 'in trouble' for wearing that type of shirt, but I'm a little bit conservative in that regard and I don't think I'd allow my daughter to wear it to a school function. I'm laughing at Laura's response, though; we also don't allow her to wear stuff like "Cute" or "Diva" emblazoned across the rear. :)

First impressions can last a lifetime so why chance it?

I agree with Hazel!

In my opinion, I think that a t-shirt like that should be saved for a day that she is staying home.

I think my daughter needs that shirt! It's so her! I would have let mine wear it. But, hey I'm not too worried about what others think of me. If you want to base your opinion of me based on a shirt my kid wears that has nothing inappropriate on it...then I say go ahead.

But we have farting contest in our house so...

I think I would settle this issue by with an unfortunate bleach accident all over the farting unicorn.
Seriously, it sounds a tshirt to wear around the house, but not in public-ever. I think she'll see what other girls this age are wearing and feel a little silly. Do her a favor and stick with the veto.

Why does she have the shirt in the first place, if you don't care for it?

depends on the school

If a public school, they probably see much worse
If a Christian school, probably not acceptable

I agree with you,, I think she would be more appropriate in something else.

Here in Austin,in a public middle school she would probably be asked to change her shirt if it was a regular school day.. And we are pretty liberal here.

You'd Have to check with the school first to see if there is a dress code and if that dress code is enforced at evening events. You cannot assume they do not have a dress code. You could also ask the parents who are taking her, as they will be the ones who might feel embarrassed

This is the husband and daughter that think it's hilarious to fart at the dinner table??

My daughter probably wouldn't have liked it but it's not something I would have battled.

A fair is not a formal school day. I don't think you needed to worry about it.

Well, who bought her the t-shirt in the first place?
LOL

Its a funny t-shirt.
But sure, it can be taken as crass and rude/obnoxious.
Of all the shirts she has, its no big deal to choose another one.
If she insists on wearing THIS one, then she probably is trying to convey her "attitude" and make a statement. For who knows what reason.
Just to be "different" and "cool."

Lots of people, wear shirts worse than that.
Cartoonish or not.

Didn't you even talk to her... about it?
Instead of just stating "your" feelings on it.
If this is a private school, they typically do have, rules on clothing.
At one private school I know of, they can't even wear socks that goes up to their knees. It is seen as being too "sexy." Like as in, stripper girls dressing like school girls type things.
Ahem.

I wouldn't ever be faced with that decision because my child wouldn't own the shirt. I have several CD's of people I've met, they are signed...and I don't like the music, so I don't listen to it. I think I'd feel the same way about the shirt...you can't put significance in everything...especially not an inappropriate T-shirt. I am glad you didn't let her wear it...wise decision.

My GD goes to a school that requires uniforms. I love it because we NEVER have to have this discussion and getting dressed in the mornings goes very quickly and smoothly. The only decisions are khaki or navy pants and navy or white shirt. It's wonderful!

I am an PTO officer at my child's public elementary school. She would not be in trouble for wearing it to school. It would probably be quite a hit with kids and teachers alike.

Our dress code for t-shirt prints forbids alcohol/drugs and obscene/hate language, not farting unicorns.

At the last PTO meeting, just after St. Patrick's Day, I wore this t-shirt:

http://shirt.woot.com/offers/someones-lucky-day

well, my very 1st thought is: for many people, rainbows=homosexuality. Not sure you want that issue to be brought up. Personally, I have NO issue with it. :)

As for "potty" humor, it is a funny shirt. I don't think she'd get in trouble for it, but perhaps it should just stay at home. :)

& as for the public vs. private school, no difference in the dress code when it comes to extra-curricular activities.

I don't imagine anyone would even notice what she's wearing.

It might raise a few brows. I think you did the right thing.

I agree that it depends on the school, my son's school is public, but uniformed. I think I would not let my child wear it to our school's function because we are uniformed. School events do not require the uniform, but the school does ask to remember we are still in a learning environment and to respect that.