You have two evalutions. Since Asperger is on the Autism spectrum, it is a medical issue. This medical issue just happens to create educational needs. You are responsible for getting her a medical diagnosis of any Autism Spectrum disorder, just as you are responsible for getting your child diagnosed with any medical problem. They are two seperate issues, although they will overlap in treatment. The school is there to educate your child, so, their only interest, and their only obligation is to make you child functional in the classroom setting and to provide her with a free, and appropriated education.
Evaluations are neither traumatic nor difficult, and when behavior pops up, it is noted in the evaluation data and becomes part of her profile. That is evidence that you need to fully understand her.
First: Call the nearest children's hospital and make an appointment with a Developmental Pediatrican. This will take months before you will be seen. You do not want to be guessing about what ancellary evaluators she needs, like speech, ot, pt, genetics, ENT, audiology, and so on. All may be involved, and rolled into one evaluation report for you. The DP will conduct a medical exam, and a battery of neurophsychological evaluations, and a pshychlogical evaluation, which may, or may not, be done by the DP, many work with Nueropsychologists in thier offices too. One of my children saw 7 evaluators for different areas for her full report. You will not have to guess if you are leaving anything out.
Next, call around to speech therapists, they very often conduct social skills classes, and you will also want to get a speech evaluation now, and start therapy based on what the therapist sees. Even though kids with asperger seem to have great verbal skills, they have a basic disfunction in langague and communication skills that will respond to thearpy. Contact an OT and start OT based on what is going on now, fine motor and vestibular-sensory issues are very common, nearly universial issues for kids with AS. Ask your OT for a referal to a Developmental Optomitrst, and have all aspects of her vision evaluated, not just if she can see 20-20, but how her visual perceptual, scanning, tracking, and descrimination skills are, these are very frequently weak.
Write a letter to your school districts special education director and request an evaluation because you suspect that your daughter has a disablity. The issue is going to be educational need, if she is doing OK, which many will for their entired school career, some, need help right away, some, will qualify at some point. They must both have a qualifying disablity and an educational need for special education. She does not have to fail to show need.
You never want to know less about your child than the school does, so get the private evaluations. She may need psychatric care. My Aspie is a real challenge, and some of the symptoms she had were eased with medication. You treat the issues that they have, if they have attention issues, you treat that. If they have mood issues, you treat that. If they have aggitiation issues, you treat that. Medication is a tool, it helps them to access all the therapy you will provide. Meds alone are not going to really help your child, but use them if they are helpful, because they certainly can be. For most Aspies I know, meds are essential when they enter their teen years; these are the most challenging, and they need all the tools that they can get to help them control their behaviros.
Here is the real nitty gritty...you will provide the lions share of her therapy. All the medical care, the medical diagnosis and evaluation (which will keep the school district honest) and much speech, ot, pt, social skills, cognative behavioral therapy, play therapy...
start learning about advocacy at www.wrightslaw.com. Get an advocate if you feel lost. What you need to do, is to know what your daughter needs, via the private eval, then you get all you can from the school, and provide the rest. Remember, the school is not there to maximize your daughters potential, they are there to make her functional, and there is a huge difference.
Don't know anything about chiropractic care for ASD, but if you see results, go. Don't count on fringe stuff to be what she needs. Go the the DP, and all the therapists and spend your money there first. If you have any left, spend it on non standard care, like the chiropractor, supplements, food allergys, diets, and on, and on and on. There is no shortage of people who will take your money, be careful not to waste it.
M.