At What Age Can a Child Be Left Home Alone?

I suggest going to the message boards on this website

www.wahm.com

It is a site of all work at home moms. If you go to the message boards, you will see all the categories of legitimate work at home jobs. I have done a couple of them and while they don't pay great, you're at home.

C.,
This is a really late post but I just wanted to add one thing that no one else mentioned. You said you were afraid of losing your home. Please check out DaveRamsey.com! He has down to Earth financial advice and help. Maybe if you listened to some of his "common sense ideas" (that's what he calls them and they are!) that he gives to others,some things may pertain to you too. Get on a written budget, (maybe you already are) it could help. Food, shelter, and transportation are the top 3. I started listening to his radio program at the suggestion from another Mom on this site, and it's changed ALOT of things for me. Best of all, it's made me more driven and my income has come up! The law of attraction maybe. An example (at his suggestion) is that I clean a friends house every other week. It's not my favorite thing to do, especially when mine looks a wreck- but it's better money than I'd make at a real job for the hours. And I do it when my son is at school, so it works! It's not forever, but it's mutually beneficial for the both of us, and it's cash! That's how I look at it when I start feeling like I don't want to go. (grocery money for the week.) But DO check out Ramsey's baby step program, and download the budget forms. I think it'll help you with trying to squeeze out every penny for the best. For what it's worth, I look at my almost 10 y/o and would not leave him alone either. DaveRamsey.com
Good Luck!

C.,

My husband and I both work in law enforcement...my husband is actually a juvenile detective. There is NO law in California that states an age at which a child could be left home alone. My husband said that each situation is looked at case by case and the biggest factors are the maturity of the child and common sense.

Our son is also very mature. When he was 9yrs we allowed him to walk home with friends the last 4 months of the school year...and was home alone for about 2-3 hours. The following year (10ys) we let him continue to walk home and then 4 months into the school year we let him walk to and from school. We have rules that he follows with no problems...he must get all of his homework done, no friends in the house and he may use the microwave...but no other cooking. He is now 11...and the routine feels normal and we're more comfortable with it. Something to take into consideration is the future...we did this because there is no child care in junior high school. There is limited bus service which we’re not sure they will provide next year because of budget issues. We felt it was important to teach him this type of responsibility.

I wouldn't be a good employee if my 10 year old was home alone. I am 67 years old and I make $500. per week, keeping 4 and 5 babies and I almost always have a waiting list. My retired husband and I devote every minute to them - we hire the grass cut and the house cleaned, so that our babies will get all our attention. We read and have music and PLAY OUTSIDE with trucks and tractors,etc. Will be glad to help you with a schedule if you need me. Praying for you, Pansy

Hi C., I'm sorry for the predicament you're in! I work from home selling goods on Etsy, a handmade only website. Check it out, www.etsy.com If you sew, make jewelry, crochet, paint, scrapbook, any kind of crafty thing, you can sell it online. It's a great site, very easy to use. My husband is in grad school and only working part time, and we needed some extra income, so I've picked this up doing wood crafts, which I've done for a while, and have got a pretty good little side business going! So if you're into that kind of thing, it may be a good option for you to do at home, I love being able to be home with my kids even if it does mean some late nights finishing orders. Good luck to you!!

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I'm sorry to hear about your troubles,i'm also a single mother .decisions decisions decisions tha best advice i can give to you is to contact dss and ask someone there.make sure you get the name of the person who give you the answer..feel free to contact me if you need any single mother advice...trust me i understand.

I know you are several months since this post and hope you are doing better. If not here are a few suggestions none of which involve buy plastic from you or selling jewelry at someones home. Evening childcare in your home for those who need a date night. Walking dogs for those who get home a little late from work for their animals to be comfortable. Doing after dinner cleanups or dinner starting which your son can accompany you to. These are just a few ideas that keep you with your son while earning a little extra make ends meet cash. Here are a few things most people don't want to hear...where is the money going make a list of every penny you spend, make meal menus, shopping lists, use coupons, sales and rebates(this too can be a job in the evening), if you have cable cancel it rather than leave the child or pay for care. Animals cost money even if you only feed them, are healthy and you don't do anything else. If you vaccinate, vet, shampoo, toys, crate, groom, register with county(legally required) it costs alot of money. Choose your child over the animals. Choose housing for you and your child over the animals. I know they are part of the family, but it is easier to deal with the statement as an adult..."you got rid of my pet" then it is to deal with you made us homeless or why did I have to go into foster care. Good luck and I hope things are changing for you.

Hey C.,

What area are you in. I would love to help you out. If it's physically helping you or if it's just offering support and money managments. There are AMAZING ways you can save money. You may qualify for assistance on your home, whether you own or rent, without having to move. Swapping with someone is a GREAT idea and also getting involved in an upbeat, fun, God centered church is a great way to really find wonderful people who have a heart for helping others. I was a single mom for 4 years with am 18month old and a 3 yr old and didn't get any help. I worked 80 hours a week, sometimes 36 hours straight when they were with their dad. I wish I would have known what I know now.

C.,

I am not sure what state/location you live in, but find out if there is a child care network in your area. You can apply for childcare assistance (which has been a godsend for myself) and provide you with names and numbers and ratings of participating providers in your area. My daughter is your age and I have left her alone for 20 minutes to run to the store, which is only 2 miles from our home. She is super responsible, but I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving her alone any longer than that. I've been in the same situation, and child care network (CCIS) is truly a great program that helps working parents pay for childcare. I wish you well! Let me know how you make out!

I think that 10 1/2 is a bit young to be left at home alone. Not so much as per his level of maturity, but he is still a child and so much *could* happen during the night. It is a chance I'd rather not take. If you are faced with getting a second job, why not look for a better full time job or look into some work from home positions or businesses?

C.,
This is a HARD thing to have to deal with.

My concerns would be the length of time alone. if son knew what to do in an emergency.
what he is allowed to do alone, (watch tv ride his bike)

My nephew was left home alone and told NOT to ride his go cart. He rode the go cart, and had a nearly fatal wreck. broke his face.

It could have been so much worse.

I just have started allowing my daughter who is 13 and a half to stay home alone until I can get home from class my self.

and this is a SHORT time period. like 15-30 alone.

So based on your son's maturity level, and what I have learned in my major, 12-13 years old is a base line for allowing a child to be home alone.

HTH,
B.

Georgia law makes it pretty clear. Between the ages of 9 and 12, you can leave a child alone for up to two hours. Age 12 and up, no more than 12 hours at a time.

Hope that helps!
A.

hope you've heard some helpful answers & hope your answer has come soon enough to get help with this issue. if you have a neighbor who could watch him, or a child care (nanny, maybe in the form of a RESPONSIBLE teenager, etc) to stay with him for a few hours. I have a 10 yr old & she is very mature for her age. but sometimes, things happen in this horrible world we live in. there could be a stranger watching your son & take him. since you obviously dont' want that to happen, i would look into abc vouchers as well. there ARE 24 hr daycares out there. just call D.S.S. and ask. i would get their advice on a few things. you might get abc (which is a voucher to help with the cost of daycare if you can't afford it) & they will be able to help with d.s.s. certified daycares, or stay at home centers as well!! it'll help. also, ask a friend if you could pay them a little to have him stay with them at night or something? there are also programs for at-risk foreclosures too. search the web, you'll find more than we could tell you prob. also-the usual age for LeGAL is about 12/13, varies per state. good luck!!

I do not know when a parent can "legally" leave a child home alone. My gut instinct as a parent says, "NO, do not leave a 10-year-old at home alone--especially at night." I would try to work something out with a trusted friend or neighbor. What about your son's friends? If you know the parents, maybe they can help out. Have you tried talking to someone at your church for other options? I am guessing you do not have family nearby who can help out. If so, that would be a good solution(trusted family!). Good luck to you and your son.

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D.

In Georgia a 10 year old can be left alone for up to2 hours. They must be 12 to be left longer. Do you have a neighbor or friend that could/would look in on him every couple of hours? V.

I have an idea that I didn't see mentioned, but I didn't read every response. Have you considered the idea of a morning paper route? It's something you and your son could do together, or you could do alone while he is asleep. If your son isn't afraid to be alone in the house, and he is mature, he should be fine sleeping at home alone for an hour or two in the early morning. If he wanted to join you, he could earn some money of his own. Just a thought.

Most states it is 13/14. But you could always make arrangements with another parent to "swap" babysitting. Even at 14, they can be "dangerous". My ex left our son (14 ) with his 12 yr old sister. They fought and my 12 yr old threatened the 14 yr old w/a knife because he hit her. You have to worry about fires, spills, break-ins. and just plain irresponsibility, along with falls down stairs if you have them. Not trying to scare you, just warn you of possibilites. A neighbor will sometimes help out. My daughter lives on a very exclusive area in SC, but there is no neigbor willing to help out. The crime is such, even though it's an exclusive area, that she can't leave granddaughter to catch bus 15 min. later (my daughter works shift 6am-4pm, 7am-5pm, noon-7:30pm). My daughter takes granddaughter to work with her (thank God they're ok with it at work) and then takes off to take her to bus stop. Same in evening. It's too dangerous otherwise with sex preditors, etc. You can check and see CURRENT sex preditors online now.

I think someone posted that there was no legal age, but actually in Georgia there is... it varies from state to state. In Georgia, you can leave a child aged 9-12 for no more than two hours. You must be 12 to stay alone for an extended time period (i.e. 8 hours). I know this because as a teacher, our school has had to report parents if we find out one of our elementary age students is staying at home for long periods of time.

C.,

Consider doing child care in your home.
consider driving kids to and from school. there is a woman & man in new rochelle that have a small van and have developed a nice clientelle (through word of mouth) doing that. you could pick up your child too...and take them for a ride as you bring kids home from school or afterschool activities.
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Very late response and didn't see this but might be there. How about you offer yourself as a babysitter for people who need baby sitters late in the day?

C., in this day and age do not leave your child alone. 16 yrs old is the legal age for those of you who don't know in California. AVON sells itself you don't have to hard sell. You can go on line through this WEbb site and do your thing at your own pace. I like tupper ware and would buy from you because I can't find anyone who sells it anymore. Why not do both? Also child sitting at your home or there's. You can take your son with you, You have lots of experience for someone who wants a night out once in awhile or maybe a weekend away. Finding child sitting and not having to worry about your child when gone is a blessing! Best P

I didn't read all the responses, little late but I have a very different view on parenting than most women. My parents started leaving me home alone in the afternoons at around eight and they trusted me home alone anytime at the age of ten. I think it was the best thing they could have done, I learned to think independently and act in the best interest of myself and my family. I think parents these days are too protective over their kids, simply because we're afraid of being bad parents but I think the opposite is true. I think it would be an excellent excercise for your son to take care of himself for a few hours, maybe even help you with the housework while you're out. Good luck~ L.

C., I think if your son is 10 and mature, he could be left alone if he has a neighbor or family nearby that he could call out for help just in case. 10 is a little young but you say he is mature and you need to "keep a roof over your head" and need to work as a single mom.

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Hey C.! So sorry for your difficult circumstance! I feel your pain! I can't answer your question about age, but I just want to encourage you to look into a home based business as a possible solution to your need for extra income. The benefit over a regular hourly job being that you could eventually be making more per hour and reduce your hours overall. I love the company I rep for, but I know there are many good ones out there. If you are interested, I encourage you to look for one that has a product that is consumable, has high market demand (people are already using it/looking for it), has a simple business plan, and a generous compensation. Just a thought to give you some hope in another option with unlimited potential! If you would like more info on the business I am in to see if it might be a good fit for you or not, just let me know. All the best, Dearly, G.

Hi C.,

Sorry, I didn't see this request when you posted in March. If you have good academic skills, especially in math or science, consider starting your own home based tutoring business. I used to do this when I was a stay-at-home mom. I tutored kids from elementary school through high school and charged $30/hour-long session, which at the time was actually below the standard rate for a private tutor, so it wasn't difficult to get jobs. I had the kids come to my house and my children, who were 8 and 12 at the time, learned that they could not disturb me during "work" hours. What I found early on was that most parents were just looking for someone to sit with their child to supervise their homework, answer questions, and explain anything that they didn't understand, which was pretty easy since it meant that I didn't need formal lesson plans for the most part. For subjects that I was less well versed in, like history, I would get a copy of the text and read up before a session.

To find jobs, I first posted signs in school offices and on public bulletin boards outside of grocery stores. I also left fliers at places like gymnastics studios, martial arts studios, and other places that offered pricey after-school activities, since I figured that the parents who used those resources were more likely to have the disposable income to afford tutoring. I also relied on word of mouth.

Since my clients were only available after school, the timing was perfect. I could usually manage 2 students/day and still have time to manage after school activities for my own kids and help them with their homework. I usually only worked M-Th but would sometimes meet with a student on a Sunday. Doing this, I could usually bring in about $250/week, which made great extra income. I didn't have to sell anything, I didn't have to invest much. except for some tactile supplies for building visual models, like modeling clay, straws and toothpicks, and the occasional text book. I was able to get a lot of these from the library or I would ask the parent to supply a copy. Many school books now are available on line for a minimal cost. Best of all, I was doing something that really helped kids to learn and achieve.

I wish you the best of luck!

C.,

I was really dissappointed to find that so many moms used your problem as a plug to promote their favorite home based business instead of answering your question and giving you support.

Like a lot of other mothers, I cant say that Im aware of what the legal age to be left alone is, but your 10 year old is still a child. I would say that it may be okay to leave a teenager (13 yrs old) alone for short periods of time, but I would never leave my child alone for any period of time, especially during a night shift job. This just isnt a world where our children are safe anymore, even when us parents are sleeping in the room right next door.

Im sorry to hear about your divorce and about your financial problems. I know that there are programs out there to help out for situations like yours. I would strongly advise that you check into Job and Family Services for assitance with food, bills, and healthcare. They also should have references and resources for jobs, child care, and Id also be willing to bet that they could answer your question about the legal age to leave your child home alone.

I saw that someone reccomended joining a church group to make friends and find other moms to help you out. I thought that was a great idea.. Not only for you, but for your son. That is a wonderful place to meet people, (possibly even people who could use your services as a child care provider, or who could provide child care FOR you) and your son can make friends, which is always fun and free entertainment! The newspaper route was also a good idea, as it is something you can take your child along (he can even help!)and you can make extra money. Thats also something you can build up, soliciting new customers and growing your route to make even more money, and in a couple of years when your son is a little older, he can take over your route and learn to be a responsible worker himself.

Providing housekeeping services for people is also another way that you could make extra money and not have to leave your child behind. This is something that you could also make enough money at (once your clientelle is built up) that eventually you could do this full time if you wanted to, and expand to become your own mom and pop small business wherever you live. Theres always a need for job creation these days, even if it is only one more job!

I know the economy has tanked these days, but I strongly believe that the American spirit is strong, and there are people in your community who would help give you a leg up. I think in a lot of communities across our great nation, people are coming together again to help those of us who were once middle class and overnight became poor, jobless, and in some cases even homeless. I think this is going to be the best year ever for the food pantries across our nation. People are finally going back to growing their own gardens, and many people are planting more than what they need so that when the time comes, they can donate their extra crops to their local food pantries to help feed thier community fresh food. (Im doing this myself.

There ARE options for you. Dont lose hope. I dont know if you own your home or are renting, and I know that in some places, it is hard to sell a house right now, but I DO know that your house payment is not supposed to exceed 25% of your total income. I think there are a lot of realtors out there who are willing to take on customers at a pay rate of 5% instead of the customary 6%. Its always hard to sell a house and go back to renting, which is why Im not going to reccomend that you do that, but if your home is bigger than what you and your son need, and the payment is more than 30% of your income, consider selling it and buying a smaller, cozier home. You can also take some of the profit from the sale to pay off debt. If that is not an option for you, talk to your lender about refinancing or loan modification to lower your payment.

There really are a lot of options out there right now,and I would really encourage you to look at all of them before you make a decision. I would never advise someone to walk into something blind. Research is your best friend right now! Good luck to you, girl.. and if there is anything else you need, let us know... and please, let us know how things turn out for you! Hugs and prayers with you and your son...

I know what you're going through! I'm a single mom facing the same situation..my ex husband has been missing for 5 years, I get no support. It's tough! I am not good at sales either...I recommend turning to the internet so that you can be home with him. I think the babysitting idea someone had is great! Or...How about ebay? What I do is take some surveys..and I do a few paid to read email programs...Doesn't pay a whole lot-but it helps! Every now and then-I'll qualify for a good paying one!

The minimum age:

http://www.nbcaugusta.com/features/goodquestion/2793961.html

Another link:

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_legal_age_to_leave_...

Hope that helps!

Doesn't your elem school offer an after school program?

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I know you hate the thought of leaving your child home alone..but at 10 we did leave my daughter for an hour or two just when she begged but i wasnt totally comfortable with it! Im just lucky so far I havent had to go back to work..if I did I think I would have to work at night, then their daddy would be here to be with them.

yell if you want more info i can email it or mail it to you!

hugs
J.

Check with DFACS in your area-they can give you the breakdown. With each age, there is usually a time limit. I know in Georgia at 10 years old a child can be left alone, but for only 2 hours (I think).

Do what you have to do to take care of your family. Obviously, it would be much more ideal to have someone watch him, but your circumstances may not permit that.

Good luck and take care.

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The exact age depends upon where you live. Regardless, I don't think anywhere in the country probably has a law allowing 10 year olds to be left home alone. In Missouri, if someone hotlines DFS to report a 10 year old being home alone, they will come pick him up. I think 10 is way too young. My daughter is 10 and is mature in some respects but not enough to be home alone for any length of time. I worry the most about a 10 year old being mature enough to make a good decision in case of an emergency. And, you never know when there could be a fire, tornado, break-in, etc. She does have a couple of friends who are left alone at that age, and I have tried to gently tell them that while the kids may seem mature enough, legally, they are not. Most importantly, regardless of how you or I feel about their maturity level, according to DFS standards, leaving a 10 year old home alone and unsupervised is actionable. Good luck!

Definitely not 10. Different states have different rules. Have you considered doing child care for one or even two children for swing/night shifts? My daughter-in-law had a horrible time finding safe, good care when she first started working at a hospital. Someone who cares, who speaks her language well and would treat her son well would have been a godsend. Good luck!

i would strongly discourage you from leaving your 10 year old home alone at night!! my stepson, at age 13, was still not left home alone. not that maturity is an issue, but the other dangers that come to my mind--such as intruders, or a fire started, or most of all, your child would probably be frightened.
what if he got sick in the middle of the night?
i, too, need extra income, but, please don't sacrifice the safety and well-being of your child.

Good choice not to leave him alone.

C.,

I think in most states the legal age a child can be left alone is 13. However, if your son is mature and you trust him, I don't see a problem with him being alone for short periods of time. Is there a neighbor he can go to if he gets lonely? If so, perhaps they would enjoy his visits, especially if it's a lonely elderly person. Something my daughter used to do was to walk her dog to the neighbor's nursing home and visit. The elderly people loved the company and seeing her play with her dog and train him. They also love petting dogs.

As far as a work from home business, I'm currently involved in Melaleuca wellness products: http://www.carolbiz.net. There are no start up costs or inventory for you to keep. All you have to do is buy cleaners, supplements, and/or skin care products online instead of at your local grocery store or drugstore. I find it saves me time and enables me to meet other people. I am not good at sales, but these products sell themselves. If you're interested, just let me know.

God bless you and your lovely son!

C. J.

I believe it is 8 if they are by themself and no other kids are there. You need to check with DFACS thought. Check the Goverment listing (blue pages) in the phone book and there may be an automated number you can call to hear about this...I think that is how I found it out a number of years ago when my step daughter came to live with me.

A.

I'm sorry, but I have an 11 yr. old mature son, and he is afraid to be home alone at night. He was not eager to admit this but it is how he feels. Is there not a friend or someone willing to have him with them for a few hours? Do you have a church? Contact some and ask ==perhaps a senior citizen who would like a little extra money and companionship. There has to be a way . . . maybe a mom on here would help.

I don't know about a legal age to be left alone, but I think 10 is old enough. I stayed home alone at 7 and my older sister was 10.

well my sister works around children and she says there is a book to tell you but since I have a ten going on 11 year old she said you could leave him up to 2 1/2 hour,but If he's mature you could probley leave him an extra hour like a thirteen year old.

Sweetie DO NOT LEAVE A 10 YEAR OLD AT HOME ALONE-- night or day------look into a church or something in your hometown that would help you with this...... After all- who would protect your cat from the dogs----sorry just a little humor.... AND TO YOUR QUESTION-----you are legally responsonabile for him till he's grown (and then some)...

Dont think he can be left alone till 12 then it 2 hours i will ask my grand daughter she know she took a baby sitting class they taught them.M.

Hi C.,

You did get a lot of great advice here and I hope you find an answer and soon. Good luck to you and I will pray that you find a solution.

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Hi C.,

I see that you've received a lot of responses already, but I still wanted to chime in. My daughter is 10 (will be 11 in July). While I would LIKE to leave her at home with my 7 year old for very short periods, like running to the store for 20 minutes, she doesn't want me to. I'm a pretty conservative mom and play it safe with my kids, so I don't push it. She's really not ready for that responsibility. And I wouldn't set up a situation like having to go to work that would REQUIRE the child be left alone for any period at that age. Sounds like a problem waiting to happen (see there's my conservative side coming out!).

I see, too, that a lot of women have responded to you with business opportunities, mostly work from home ideas. Well, that, in fact, was my solution to bringing in more $ to the household but still being there for my kids. I found Noah's Ark Animal Workshop as I was searching online for home-based businesses and have been happily acting as a Party Leader for children's birthday parties for 1 1/2 years. It's a traveling stuff-n-fluff animal workshop in which kids stuff their own plush animals in a creative, interactive, hands-on activity. Most parties are on the weekend, so maybe your husband can spend time with your son while you go to a party. Usually, my "work day" is over and done with in 1 1/2 hours, including driving time. And I earn on average $100 per party! Pretty cool! Oh yeah, did I mention how fun it is?! I don't have to carry an inventory (I order for each workshop) and there are no quotas or minimum orders. The starter kit is also extremely affordable....$129...and gives you all you need to get started.

You can check out this idea further on my website www.planetfluff.net. And I would be glad to talk with you on the phone and answer any questions you have.

So, I think there are some work solutions out there that still let us be with our kids when we need to be. My kids can and do help me with my business, earning a little "fun money" or the chance to stuff another animal for themselves.

So give it some thought and contact me if you would like to talk more. Good luck!

I think it is 12 not sure.You could call children services and ask

Dear C.,
My heart truly goes out to you. I can not imagine the stress you must be under. Have you found a job yet? If you have, I hope it is something that you enjoy.
If you are still looking,
I really would like to have a minute with you to explain to you what I do from home. It may not be a fit for you but it would only take about 20 minutes to share with you how I earn a second income. I am not a sales person either but I love working with other women and helping them earn a second income and pursue their dreams. Can I take you for coffee or buy you lunch and tell you a little about it? Or, if you are more comfortable talking on the phone, we can set a phone appointment. After I have shared my story with you and a few of the stories from other moms who are working with me, you are free to say that what we do is not a fit for you. I work with so many wonderful women and most of them are moms like you who were looking for a better way to earn more money and still spend time with their families.
I hope I get the chance to meet you and at least encourage you.
K. Parker
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Hi C.,

Sorry I missed your original post but one avenue you might think about if you are looking to work from home is becoming a call center agent. Many companies are looking for virtual agents to work from home because it is cheaper for them and offers more flexibility for a part time work force who can be called to login to a queue when call volume is high. There are a lot of call centers out of Orlando who may be willing to consider other FL based virtual agents. Your best bet would be to contact temp agencies and inquire as typically these companies contract with an agency who finds people as they need them.

I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!

I read your last request and wanted to share that I have had my own arbonne business for 4 years- it has been great to be home with my daughter and a new one on the way. I too thought no way with sales but it is not what it looks like from the outside. IF you have time I would recommend you really looking at exactly what it takes to be part of network marketing. Just so you know all the ins and outs because alot of people say no to it then hear what it really entails and are mad they did not know that before. I only say that because of your situation and it would make things so much easier for you. Every mom deserves to know her options so she does not feel like she is in a situation that cannot change. I help others do their research so they feel confident with saying yes or no to something they may have never thought they would be part of. That was what happened to me. If you would like to talk and share all your thoughts and questions I could be there to listen. Hope you have a great day.
D.
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I find it interesting that there are time limits to being left alone, anything that could happen, can happen in a second. I was also a latchkey kid (at 7), and took public transportation in a big city, I survived it, but it's not the optimal situation. Are there other single moms that need this help in the evening? could you babysit in your home? could you trade duties? Contact the school, church, team sports, and county about babysitting qualification (first aid course - they're usually for teens, but it doesn't have to be). If not, make a good plan, specific rules about what he can/cannot do, what to do and who to call for emergencies and check up on him. I hope you find you don't have to leave him alone. Good luck.

There is no legal age because it depends on the child, the place and the length of time. He is too young and too vulnerable an age to be alone for more than an hour. Please check with the school's after school care program. Many can and do provide scholarships. Another wonderful option is Girls and Boys Club. They so such a great job with children. Find a friend he can go home with who has a supervisor. This peer must be a postive one. Peers are more important than parents at 10 but choice in peers is critical. Find a neighbor. Join a church family. You must have a good support network to survive tough times.

Hi, I really think that 10 and a half is too young to be left alone. I recently had a break in at my apt. during the day, from 1-5 pm. A child at home alone would have been home at that time. Things are so hard right now for so many people that it has made criminals, or even those who are desperate, even more bold. You could call your local church, or if you already attend one, ask them for some help with childcare. Also boys and girls club of america or local YMCA could help out and they base their assistance on income. I would definitely do some web searches on childcare for low income to see what you could come up with as well.

Hi C.,
I know this is a very late post but I just have to tell you I personally believe all of the "work from home" company's are predatory, anytime you have to give them money to get started it is not good. The very few people who are successful are working their "@#*& off selling to every single person they know, I just hate that! One company that is legitimate is Alpine Access, I believe you do need an internet connection and it has to be completely quiet with no interuptions, I do personally know some moms who have done this( and no sales involved). Even if your child is mature leaving them home alone is a horrible idea, in fact the older they get the more they need your presence! This is why kids get in trouble, they get bored and can do silly thing's! I did see someone mentioned Dave Ramsey and I like him too, get his book from the library, if you aren't budgeting this may help you stretch your dollar. Remember, kids want your attention, firm limits and love, not stuff. So you being gone all the time is not good! This sounds bad but I would lose my home before I left my ten year old alone every night. It would be better for the two of you to live in a clean safe apartment that you can afford than for you to be gone all the time. Dave Ramsey says a house payment should not be more than 25% of your take home pay, so if it is more than that and you have to work another job that is not good life balance! Like Suze Orman says, People, than money, than thing's. Hang in there mom!

C., in Michigan there is no law about it, but Child protective services consider that under 12-13 it's not actually safe and they could get you in trouble for neglect or endangering your son...

Honestly i don't think 10 is old enough for your son to stay home alone, even if he's responsible and all.
Maybe could you have an agreement with a neighbor ? And when things settle you can repay the neighbor or do some light work for him/her ?
As for jobs with the internet they are merely scams don't waste your time with those.

Hope you found a solution !

Google the following question and you'll find the answer to your question: What age can a child be left home alone?

But here is something that is rather useful in your situation. Good luck!

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/At_what_age_can_a_child_be_left...

I actually asked a deputy friend of ours that deals with family issues with his job all of the time. He told us that there really isn't an age, but you just have to be smart about it. He said that he and his siblings were left alone all of the time in situations that were not good. He did go on to say that as long as the neighbors aren't complaining, you really don't have anything to worry about. lol

C.:
I am not sure if this group is all from Hamilton,VA but I am in Hamilton and have a 7 yr old son, if you ever need a playmate for your son. He's an only too and loves to play w/ older kids.

Also, I just became an Usborne Children's Books Consultant. Yes, it is direct selling, but I am just starting out and would LOVE a partner. I also am an Avon Rep, but fazing that out, because I really believe in the importance of literacy for our children, so Usborne feels "right" for me.

My son is ADHD and therefore,I am an advocate for literacy in children and champion for mental-health.

I just got this post, even tho your's is dated in March.

Lemme know if I can help. Hope all is better.

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Website: www.ubah.com/A3892

There is no legal age on what age a child could be left at home alone. As a parent, it is our responsibility to protect our family from any type of harm. Most especially, we have to keep our kids protected from bad individuals. I want to protect my kids in any possible way I can. Having kids myself I find myself worrying about their safety from time to time. However, I stumbled upon this blog the other day which tells how a mother overcame a tragedy and found an amazing way to keep her kids safe. Check it out http://www.tsue-thatswhatshesaid.com/2011/08/your-childs-...

You asked about the laws...what about asking if there was anyone needing a sitter at night? There is someone else out there in your situation that may need childcare at night. You'd be home with your son...making some extra money, AND you'd be helping out someone else in your same situation. I just find it hard that you are even considering leaving a ten year old boy at home alone. I feel for you, I really do. You're a single mom and without you he would have nothing. I bet you are already tired from your full time job. Think about doing babysitting during those hours. Be with your son as much as you can. It sounds like you love him very much. Good luck to you.

I think it depends on the state. I think that at 10 years old, they can only stay for so long by themselves; maybe 1 hour.

Legally, a child must be at least 12 years old before he can be left home alone. I know that there are plenty of children that are latchkey kids at a younger age. This is something that you'll need to sit down and discuss with your child. I must warn you though that should anything happen that could either put your child in danger or potentially harm them while he's home alone you could find yourself in trouble with Child Services.
I know this is a real difficult position for you to be in as a mother. You will have to follow your gut on this one.

Good Luck,
BP

C. - do you have a friend that maybe you could swap nights with? I have this arrangement with a friend of mine. Our children go to the same school and when I have an appointment in the evening my 12 son rides the bus home to her house. When she needs to go out in the evening her I watch her children. No money is involved.

Also your church is a great place to get help. When in a pinch I have one of the senior ladies come over and stay with my son.

Good luck I know how hard it is on you. God Bless

C.

Go to the department of human resources for SC online (http://www.ohr.sc.gov/OHR/OHR-index.phtm) or call and ask about the laws for leaving kids alone. I called my brother in law who's a cop (in GA) and he said that as far as he knows, it's not a hard-written rule and that common sense plays a very big part in the decision. Could you ask a neighbor to be available or to call every hour or so? I'd be hard-pressed to leave a 10 year old any longer than a couple of hours. How long are you thinking about leaving him? All of that plays into the decision.

Good luck -- I understand that you're in a tough spot. (You know, if you lived by me, I'd watch your son for free. I'll bet there are some like-minded people near you!)

No ten is not old enough.

I too have a home based business. BUT my business is free to start. Want more info just email me. If you just don't want to even consider that avenue try moneysavingmom.com It offers great ideas to save and sites were you can get free stuff. I have our grocery bill down to $50 a week for a family of 4!

Hi C.,

As someone else suggested, you may want to consider offering babysitting services on evenings and weekends. I highly recommend registering with www.GoNannies.com. They are a great resource for finding nanny and sitter jobs. Good luck to you and your son!!!

I think 10 is probably a bit too young, unless he's particularly mature. Years ago, I did leave my 10 year old sometimes during the day, but he was the kind of kid who would clean the house and start dinner instead of getting into trouble! I will send you a private message as well.

haven't read all the responses. what about friends? are they will to have him over. my close girlfriends & i help eacother out this way so we don't have to spend money on childcare. i'm praying for you too! Many Blessing to you and your son (& pets!)

C.,

I didn't read your plethora of info - but wanted to suggest if you haven't gotten it already, www.flylady.com. She has lots of suggestions about how to make things work. There are other (like two) sites that go with her - bratfactor.com and another (you'll see it in the website).

You might be proactive and find a smaller home that would be less of a rent chunk (all homes are rented from banks until they are owned outright then you pay rent to the town).

Good luck,
M.