Baby # 3...to Shower or Not to Shower?

No, I would think the mom was really poor if she needed to have a shower for a third baby. It's just tacky. If the person is a new friend and people want to get the baby something it's okay to give a gift but to have a formal shower and invite people then no.

Maybe I'm old fashioned... but I think baby showers are for the first babies. UNLESS there is a huge gap in age and you NEED all new stuff.

Nah. I wouldn't.
Just because a baby doesn't have a "shower" in no way means you're not "celebrating" the arrival--it just means you're not grabbing for gifts!
My .02!

I think EVERY baby deserves a shower! My first baby was a girl. Our church threw us a shower and we were given so many nice things for her. :) My second baby was a boy. My sister threw me a shower and only 4 people came. 4 people! I love baby showers. I honestly think the whole "one shower limit" is selfish, thoughtless, and old fashioned. So my son is supposed to wear pink, sleep in a pink bassinet, and use all my girl's hand me downs? Good grief. He did end up sleeping in a pink/brown bassinet and using a pink bathtub. ;) And to be honest it really hurt my feelings that none of my so called friends from church came to my second baby's shower. To me that was like saying he did not matter and did not deserve to be celebrated. It was not about the gifts! It was about coming together with people I loved and respected to celebrate this new life. I would have been happy if the people invited had come even if they did not bring gifts. So...I say "shower" every baby. ;) Make gifts optional if you must. Maybe that will satisfy all the stingy people.

I think all babies deserve to have a shower thrown for them! But typically it seems first babies of each gender. But when you're on your fifth baby, you NEED some new things:-) I vote for throwing a shower if you have the option.

I believe that all babies are miracles and all should be celebrated.

Have a shower and celebrate the upcoming miracle.

God Bless

I am having two for my third! Our church throws all moms a shower, so that will be one. My mom and MIL are throwing a welcome party at my house with just our family and really close friends for my other. I am looking forward to it. I have no stress this time, other than my crazy life with two little kids and another on the way! So I don't have to worry about registering or any of that. This time I can just sit back, have some cake and play some games and chill :D If anyone brings a gift it's fine but the party is really just to celebrate our baby and I think all babies are worthy of some celebrating and mamas to be of a little pampering, so I am good with it :D So I say, shower!, but maybe keep it small with people who know you just want to spend time with them celebrating and don't feel obligated to bring a gift but will just want to bc they love you. Congrats!

I was always told that a shower for any but the first is not "traditional" except in special circumstances. (Like a multiple birth where more of certain things would be needed.)

If you are in need of items and or a celebration then SHOWER away!! Honestly you can have a shower that is just a party.

It varies SO widely. Personally, I will happily attend any shower for any person I love or even like a lot. When it came to having *my* third (and second girl in a short period... my son is much older), I told people I didn't want a shower. Aside from diapers and the big things, we didn't need anything, and our previous experience was that people disregard girl baby registries and go straight for the clothes, lol. So we hosted a no-gifts welcome party when she was a month old. A few people still brought things, but nothing like what happened for her older sister. The practical part of me knows this was a good thing. Seriously, Mad was born when times were high. People didn't bring AN outfit, they brought three. And we had almost 70 people there. Fynnie didn't need clothes, blankets or books. She has worn brand new things that were gifted to Mad. Still, the sensitive part of my wonders if she will feel slighted. I feel silly admitting that, lol.

I think some people have diaper parties where they only have friends bring diapers and wipes... i dont like the idea of multiple baby showers personally though.

It varies regionally, culturally, ethnically, and from family to family.

In ours, every baby has a shower. First or tenth.

My family throws welcoming parties... we think that each new life needs to be celebrated!! My mom surprised me by throwing me one, we are having our third daughter in 2 mos!! Congrats btw

I say go for it! Every baby needs to be celebrated. If you already have most of what you need, say diapers only or something on the invite.

Yes! Every baby deserves a party! I know a lot of people disagree, but there aren't too many better reasons to celebrate than a sweet new baby. Plus, I'm sure you need at least a couple things, right??

It depends on how long in between your last child and this one. Also on the sex of the baby. A sprinkle might be more appropriate, or a meet the baby party a few weeks after the birth (once things settle down and you are comfortable with a group of people being around your delicate little one).

I've had an invitation company for 5 years and I'd say the majority of people do baby sprinkles, bear essentials, diapers showers, etc for 2nd and 3rd babies. Every new baby deserves a celebration and every child needs their own things like diapers and bottles, teethers, clean onesies. Baby sprinkles are great because they allow for small essentials that aren't so expensive for others to give but it's still a fun celebration.

What ever happened to the rule about NEVER EVER throwing a shower for yourself? For any reason--wedding, 10th baby, 1st baby, etc.

I think that if you have a group of friends who want to throw a shower for you then great! It doesn't matter what number of baby it is. There is nothing that says that you have to register for big huge presents. Register for your favorite brand of diapers and wipes, some new books for the baby, and a few new seasonally appropriate clothes. And then very graciously thank everyone for coming and send thank you cards afterwards.

But don't ever throw a shower for yourself! (And for the record, I had a group of friends who threw wonderful showers for all three of my babies.)

I think "sprinkle showers" are best for babies after previous births. This is a shower that is for the essentials but not the big items. ex. diapers, wipes, formula/breastpump, boppy, cute outfits, toys etc.

But, if someone offers, go for it! I just usually see people do sprinkle showers unless the sex of the baby is opposite from the other children. GL

M

I think a third child is just as deserving as a first. Now if you still have big items you can use from the first two then obviously there is no reason to put that on a registry But people can spend money on diapers and wipes and all the stuff the child will use a million of. PLUS it will be a fun time for fiends and family to come together and catch up on how your doing and to play games for prizes and have a great memorable time Just dont forget to take lots of pictures for the baby book and if you dont have one for this baby well thats another gegistry idea. And as for throwing it yourself. Go right ahead that way you can keep it budget friwendly and host the shower of your dreams if you need game ideas or any ideas you can pm me!

have fun!!

Have a Baby Sprinkle instead of a shower =)

I had a shower for my second baby, but it was mostly because I had made so many mommy friends after having my oldest who hadn't known me the first time around. And I've been to showers for second and third babies where this was also the case, and I never thought the mom was being greedy. My "new" friends wanted to do something special for me and the new baby. There wasn't a single person at my second shower who was at my first. If this is the case with the third baby, I think it would be ok. Otherwise, I think a "meet the baby" party is a great way to celebrate a third child.

@Cheerful M - I'm finding your name a little ironic, given the tone of your post! I totally get where you're coming from, but the way you say it - yikes!

It wouldn't offend me to see a shower for a 3rd baby. I do believe that every baby is special and should be celebrated. However, if the 3 babies were spaced closely together, I would think it odd for the Mom to register for very large items like cribs/changing tables etc...

It depends. My sister in law had a shower for her second child, but her first child was already 16. so most of her baby stuff was outdated. in that case I think it is fine.