Baby Shower #2 - Mobile,AL

Do what you like and forget what anyone else thinks!
★ ☆ ✰★ ☆ ✰★ Congrats on baby #2! ★ ☆ ✰★ ☆ ✰★

Every baby deserves to be celebrated! If people want to come and celebrate, let them...if they don't, that's fine too! You are very lucky to have so many people who love you!

Yeah, I'm kind of with you on this one. A shower is so helpful for a first born, but seems a little "off" for the second. Love the idea of the "meet the abby" party, though!

Do what works for you.

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Yes, and you should. Its about celebrating the life your bringing into the world silly, so don't feel weird, enjoy!!!

I agree that people love to celebrate babies & face it, with all the negative stuff in the world..we're all looking for a reason to celebrate the good things in life. I think we women should support each other in any way we can. I really don't think anyone will care if it's a shower for baby #1, 2 or 3! Don't feel awkward at all. Baby #2 deserves new things..not just hand me downs..and is every bit as special as the first. Let her have a shower for you. Have a great time & congratulations :)

I have never heard of this, ever, until I joined this website. Of course, I am not really up on "etiquette" so that's probably why. But I see nothing wrong with you having another baby shower, especially since you have many people in your life who keep asking about it AND you have someone who's even offered to throw it for you. I think you should be happy that your friends and loved ones care about you enough to celebrate your second baby, and you should let them express that happiness any way they'd like, including throwing you another baby shower. Congratulations on your new baby!

It really seems to be a regional thing. Where I am from, you don't do second showers unless there is a good reason. Here, it's considered tacky. But from reading this question a gazillion times over the years, there apparently are some circles that think this is OK.

I think that a nice compromise would be to decline the offer for a "shower" but ask if she would like to help you host a little "meet the baby" party after your little one arrives.

if someone offers to throw you a shower then i dont think it should matter how many kids you have or how close together they are! people dont have to come & they dont have to bring gifts, but do because they want to! & because yes people love to celebrate babies!

personally I think that any kind of "etiquette" that says things like this is rude!

now if you were throwing your own baby shower then I do think that is different, but if someone else wants to do it for you then it is completely ok!

I have said this before on MP....

Every baby should be celebrated - babies are miraculous gifts.
Have a shower - celebrate and enjoy the new life that you are creating.

Several of my friends/coworkers have had more than one baby - we celebrated every one with a shower.

Every child is special and deserves to be treated that way.

Congratulations on your new baby.

God Bless

I think every Baby should be celebrated. Please don't feel bad about having another shower. If your kids godmother offered, let her!!!!! I have heard the comment before, but I don't believe in it---I don't let it bother me. GL

M

Maybe you could suggest having a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born if you aren't comfortable with another shower. Or suggest a diaper shower, if you have everything else you need, you can always use diapers.

I had a shower the second time and im going to do it this time too!....Every baby should get a scrapbook page about their baby shower! Every mom(1, 2, 3 , 4 times whatever) deserves a day to open things and say "awwwwwww"

The first time i was majorly young it was uni-sex and i got hooked up with stuff!

The second time was more low key, only women, the registry was small, i asked for mostly clothes and diapers. I really wanted people to buy things they wanted to give me and not really pick off a registry.

This time im having two parties, My husbands going to have a "barbeque diaper party"...its byod (bring your own diapers) and im going to have an even lower key shower...all women again and an even smaller registry.

same family threw my shower both times and they have asked to again. I promptly give away all my baby things to more needy mothers as my kiddos outgrow them, so i have nothing left but a second stage car-seat.

I feel the same as you, but my closest group of girlfriends wanted to do something, so I agreed to a brunch with just them. I asked that they not bring gifts ( this was my second boy within two years) but of course they did! It was nice! No way was I inviting family or extended friends though! If someone really wants to do something, keep it very small or arrange for a "sip-n-see" when the baby is around 6 weeks.

I did with #2, but it was small and AFTER baby was born (about 6 weeks). My first one was a girl and my second was a boy so I got a lot of "boy stuff" with the second shower... not so much with the big ticket items cause I already had that.

That said... I think I had a bigger turn out because everyone wanted to SEE and get a chance to hold the baby. (did the same thing for #3 with just as much fan fare!)

Don't feel badly...let her bless you and that baby!
Those who feel it is tacky or inappropriate can stay home.

Take it as a chance for you to have a few hours to enjoy some good food and the company of good friends. How often do you get to have adult conversations these days, or have a day that's all about you? :) Enjoy it and if people want to bring gifts, let them! I agree with the posts saying that "all babies should be celebrated", it's true! Congratulations on baby#2!

Good Grief!!!!!!!!! I am NOT Ms Manners but I can tell you this...I had 4 baby girls and had showers with EVERY one of them, my friends & family would have been so very hurt if I had not allowed them to give me these wonderful times with the laughter & good fellowship...ALL babies are a gift that needs to be celebrated!!!! Whoever said such a thing is alien to me...I just can't imagine, really...if someone feels that it is too soon (WHATEVER) to welcome a new life all they have to do is decline the invite...enjoy your shower, Mommy! ;)

I am planning on having a second baby but not a second shower. I also assumed you only have one shower. It's still nice to get together though...how about instead of gifts, you do invites from St. Judes (or another organization) and people can give small donations instead of gifts. Good way of helping other babies and children in need.

Just read some of the other posts....diaper shower is a wonderful idea!!! I better remember that one.

If you feel guilty, then just ask for it to be a diaper shower. Nobody minds helping with diapers. And generally you will have a few people who can't help themselves and buy something cute anyways. I think it would also make it seem less greedy. I know its not you that wanted to have one, but that's because I read your post.

I had a very big baby shower with #1. She was our first child and the first grandchild in my family, on both my side and hubby's side. We had a big
co-ed shower party with catered food, games, etc. When I got pregnant with #2 just 5 MONTHS LATER! I did not plan to have another shower. I had a very small lunch party with my mom, grandma, aunt and cousin - they all chipped in to buy me an expensive double stroller they knew I wanted and we had a nice lunch. I had no idea they were getting me that, it was not a "shower" but more of a "sprinkle". Well my girls are now nearly 4 and 5 and we just had #3, a boy. I had a baby shower thrown by my aunt, she insisted. It was not something I planned. It was a nice lunch at a restaurant, and about a dozen friends, ladies only. It was really cute, and sweet and made me happy that they all cared so much. I didn't need alot of things, I did get the few things that I needed and more importantly, it was a really nice distraction and made me feel special while I was in the toughest part of pregnancy. BTW, I gave birth the next day! LOL

I didn't have a traditional shower w/ my 2nd.
I didn't expect one and had been collecting the things I needed since the day we found out the gender.
I did however want to celebrate my baby we had been trying for for 2.5 yrs..
We (just family-aunts/cousins) went out to lunch then back to my cousin's house were we had cake and visited.
They got me a Pandora bracelet w/ a baby boy charm-instead of unneeded clothes, whatnot.

Celebrate your baby!!!

The only thing that would be tacky is if you were to go out and register*-and clearly that is not your plan.
*Unless there is a huge gap. ;)

Congrats!!!

If the baby is the same gender - and under 5 years between them - it's considered unnecessary and somewhat against social standards to have another shower. But regardless of age difference if it's a different gender - it is expected to have another shower.

My daughter was born in 2005 - had a shower
#2 is a son and I just had his shower 7/2011

I'm all about a shower for every kid! If people think you are trying to get people to buy you things, they won't come. Don't worry about it and let your God mother spoil you!!
Congrats on your newest!

Hi N.,

I have 2 children, one 6 and one 17 months. I did have a shower for both babies because we were celebrating a special moment. I too was told that I shouldn't have a baby shower for my second baby (and both are boys), but I have to agree with Dawn and that even though I have 2 boys, the baby deserves to be celebrated and get new things as well. My 2nd shower wasn't that big and it turned out to be a lot of fun for everyone that was there. Don't feel awkward, enjoy the moment and celebrate a wonderful baby. Congratulations!

I. K.

Have you ever heard of a baby sprinkle party? I found out about them when I was helping my best friend do research for my shower. They are like regular baby showers but smaller and less lavish. It sounds like people are really excited and want to share in this special time with you while you are expecting, and I think this is a really great way to go. If you type baby sprinkle into a search engine you will find a lot of info.

Here is one link explaining the concept:
http://www.babyshower-simplicity.com/baby-sprinkle.html

I have heard that before; however, I believe each baby should be celebrated. And everyone I know has had a shower for each baby (maybe not the 4th one, but only know a few with that many - come to think of it they probably did with just their tight circle of friends and close family at that point). This baby deserves to see that people were excited about it's arrival, from pictures and memories from their specific shower, etc. Keep it small if you like. And you can do a theme shower - diaper shower, book shower (where everyone brings their favorite childhood book for this baby to have) or just select a few things for a registery (nothing big). Guests usually don't spend as much after baby #1, but they still want to welcome this baby with a small gift and celebrate the little one. I think since you have someone wanting to host it, let her and enjoy!

I'm old-fashioned in my thinking and agree that a second shower isn't "proper". That said, I think your friends could still celebrate you with a party that is themed as a "Donation Party". People could bring gifts that would be donated to a family in need. Most churches know of families expecting a child who do not have the means to provide all that their child will need. The big-ticket item, a car seat could be a group contribution.

All babies need to be celebrated and in our culture the only way we know of celebrating seems to be with "things". I think y'all might find that a donation shower celebrates your baby as well as helping others in need.

Let us know what happens.