Bed Wetting - Reno,NV

I have a 7 year old neice with the same problem. Anxious to hear what everyone says. She too is in a pull up and always has been and I believe that is the problem, just too programmed to go in the pull up.

My son also slept like a arock. i did the Miren alarm at 7 1/2. I should hve done it sooner. Worked so quickly! get one on ebay.

Dear K.:

I've got a radical suggestion for you and I assure you, it works. Neither of my kids wet the bed because I did this with them from the time they were little. In your case, since your child is older, prepare your daughter's bed for a flood by laying a sheet with a pad on top of another sheet and a pad. Then, give her TONS of water before bed. The pain of a full bladder will hit her quickly (not slowly as it does for those who restrict liquids) and will TRAIN her to wake up. That's it.

My close friends who have tried this have been SHOCKED at how quickly their kids learned after trying this method. The first time, the child wakes up surprised by all the uncomfortable wetness. Then they just remove the top pad and sheet and put it in the bathtub until morning and go back to sleep on the remaining clean sheets. The next night (on a newly prepared, clean bed), they wake up in the middle of urinating and they begin to realize what is happening. By the end of the week, the training "clicks" and the child wakes up when the full bladder pain hits them and they leap out of bed and run for the bathroom!

If you read my earlier posts about this, you'll see that I come from a family of bedwetters. My siblings and cousins and I all tried this with our kids and NONE of them have wet past the age of three! Restricting liquids before bed and waking the child up BEFORE the bladder signal PROLONGS bedwetting because it prevents them from learning their body's signals! Try it and let me know what you think!

Best wishes,

M.

OMG I can feel your pain. My daughter didn't stop wetting the bed until she was 12 and had her first period. The poof, no more wet beds. Her pediatrician told me we would worry about it if she was still wetting the bed at age 12. Before that we just did things to try to help her. We did overnights, got her up in the middle of the night, etc., never made a big deal about it but she did learn to do laundry and make her own bed. Nothing anyone suggested worked for us. My son is a medic in the military and he says that when you enlist they ask if you wet the bed AFTER age 12. Anything before that the military doesn't care.

you said she sleeps like a rock and very heavy.
Well, that is how many kids are, and that is why they don't wake up to go pee.

ALSO remember that night-time control is DIFFERENT than being daytime trained. It is NORMAL for kids, even at this age, to STILL have night-time accidents.
EACH child is different. Don't compare your 6 year old to her younger sibling.... would you like it if your Mom compared you to someone else?

Just put some waterproof bed pads directly under her.... and it really helps with clean up. I got mine from www.amazon.com

My girl is 6.75 years old, and she still has an occasional night-time accident too.... we don't think it's a big deal. We don't limit her liquid intake, we don't scold for it... its JUST an accident. Kids do that. No big deal.
EVEN my daughter's Teachers said that at this age it is NORMAL. Even our Pediatrician said so too. No biggie.

Once, my daughter wet the bed. She is a deep sleeper. She said she was having a dream... that she WAS on the toilet.... but then she realized she felt wet... and THEN realized it was not a dream, it was real, but the only thing was that she was 'not' on the toilet like she thought. HA, HA! It was funny!

I don't believe in waking up a child during the night just to urinate. For me, getting their sleep is more important.

For us, we don't do anything to our daughter if she has night accidents. Its not a bad thing, she isn't doing it on purpose, she isn't being a bad girl, she is not incapable... its just an accident. No biggie.

Some kids continue to have accidents even past 7 years old.... and its normal.
Some kids continue to have accidents because of stress that is placed onto them too. Or because they are having stress or problems. I would just comfort your daughter and let her know that no matter what, it does NOT mean she is any less of a child.

All the best,
Susan

Hi K.,

My daughter who is 15 now had the same problem. She would wet the bed constantly. Unfortunately it was something she would have to out grow. I tried the not drinking to late in the evening and I did try to wake her up also but she also slept like a rock. I would buy her Goodnites that she would sleep in a nite in case she had an accident. She did not outgrow it till about 10 I believe. I talked to her doctor they told me that she would outgrow it or they could run some tests to check her bladder but it would be a terrible experience for her. So in the long run you have to wait it out. Good Luck and be patient J.

Dear Kati,
I don't think it is "laziness"...they just sleep too soundly. My middle son was this way at 5 1/2 and we could not wake him and tried to stand him in front of the toilet and he just stayed asleep and he wet during the night. We did make a chart and when he was wetting only once every 6-7 days, I rewarded him and took off the night diapers. We put the plastic sheet on the bed and I told him I could wash every 7 days...I changed his bed that often anyway. He was to pull the sheets off so I would know I had to wash them in the morning. Don't make a big deal out of it. She will outgrow it. His doctor says you would be surprised how many children still wet until 7 or 8 and if he was still doing it at 8 years we could look into the devise that you put on the bed that goes off like an alarm when it gets wet, or some type of meds. By 8 I had forgotten about the problem and was toilet training the younger one.
It is not the pull ups, just the individual child. Just love her and encourage her with a chart with stars or other stickers and big hugs when it is dry. If she goes a certain number of days...like 7 reward her with praises and a hug and maybe a great big sticker. Have her take responsibility to let you know the bed is wet by pulling off the sheets.
H.
PS the soaker pads are a good idea...we used them under my Dad when he was incontinent...you place them across the area of the hips and lower legs and would save some washing..but you still have the PJs and sometimes the top sheet.

I feel your pain. My daughter just turned 7 this week, and I feel we have tried everything. She is a HEAVY sleeper. At her 7 year check up the doctor said there is really no solution unless we try meds, which I'm not willing to do. I am tired of buying pull-ups, but she has learned to dispose of them herself at least. She was also fully potty trained by 2 1/2.

Good luck!

K.,
My son was seven. Try googling the "Potty Pager" and see what you think. It worked wonders for us in about 2 weeks. It really was our miracle. My son could be thrown across the room and not wake up and this thing trained his brain to wake up if he had to pee. The best part is she can still wear pull up during the training process (over her undies) so you're not changing sheets all the time. I'll be honest and tell you that my son hated it and it was no fun for me to be waking up usually twice in the night, but it was so worth it in the long run.
To introduce it, I had a talk with my son about the issue. He voiced his concerns... mostly about being embarrassed to wear pull ups and not wanting to go to sleepovers because of this. I told him that I thought I found something that could help him and then I showed him the website and explained how the product worked and asked if he thought we should give it a try. He agreed and so we ordered it.
The pager attaches to your underwear and when it feels moisture it vibrates and wakes the child. I know it seems stupid to wake them after the fact, but the the process, over time, trains their brain to wake. It really was our miracle.
Good luck to you.
PS - Be sure you show her how the pager vibrates before she uses it for the first time so it doesn't scare her when it goes off.

My siblings and I wet the bed for a long time...me until about 7 or 8, and my brothers were even longer. We are all heavy sleepers, and have found out it runs in our family (bed wetting late). Everyone has outgrown it though. Sometimes it is just something that has to be outgrown, but it could be medical or psychological too.

Good luck and invest in waterproof mattress covers:)

Based on my own experience with my daughter, my advice is to stop worrying about it. Nature tends to take care of things in due time. My daughter wet the bed pretty regularly until she was 8 years old. Rather than stress about it and make it a big deal (and I tried several things, just like you!) I finally decided to let it be. She was happier, I slept better, and then one day her body was ready and within about 1 month she went from wetting her pull-up nightly to not needing to wear one at all. Every child's bladder develops at a different rate, so don't compare her to your younger child. I'm pretty certain she won't be heading off to middle school still wetting the bed :-)

Susan makes great points!

My thing as a Mommy potty teaching a little boy at 2.75 YO is that you have to think in terms of how your little one is thinking. She's pooped and just wants to sleep, so why should I get out of bed?

I'm all for whatever works and keeping it simple, but think about how the pull-up might be affecting her ability to know when she's wet and needs to get up. My son is in pull-ups for nap and bedtime, but we're still working on the underwear thing and he's doing great. You have to give her a chance to know when she has to get up and make some mistakes along the way. No biggie, it's all about learning and finding what works.

Get those pads that Susan recommends, and start explaining to her what's going to happen and how you are going to work as a team. My son loves it when we work as a 'team' and it makes him feel so proud. Tell her it's no big deal if she wets the bed, but she's a 'big girl' and you can learn how to do it together.

Night wetness from my own research is something that isn't under control until around 7 or 8 is sort of the general age range I've found. If you don't make it a big deal she'll learn over time and it will be fine.

I think for us when I stopped stressing about the 'how' and 'why' my son started seeing how much fun this whole process could be and we both are having fun.

I share your pain! I have a 7 year old who still wets her bed nightly. I, same with you continued to make my daughter wear pull ups at night even after she was potty trained. Should your problem be resolved, please share with me. Thanks

Hello, If you have had her checked by your doctor and everything has checked out, I would just not make a big deal out of it. I had this problem when I was a child. My mother threatened me every night with a spanking. I would lay in my bed afraid to fall asleep for fear that I would wet it. By the time I would fall asleep, I would go so far into a deep sleep that (guess what) I would wet my bed. When I had children, I had two who had this problem. I never made a big deal out of it. They are grown-ups now and believe it or not, they do not wet their beds now. I always have to ask, "Will this last until they are grown?" If not, don't fret over it. This is the same thing for any "problem". Just don't give her a bad feeling about herself.
Good luck with your precious children.
K. K.

My daughter was easily potty trained - but is also a deep sleeper. She also needed a pull-up at night. I didn't stress. Didn't push the issue, and she wore pull-ups - even after she started to have sleepovers. And she was rarely dry in the mornings. One day, shortly after she turned 10 years old - she told me she was ready to sleep in underware - and she was. Issue over. In some kids - that part of their brain is slower to develop. SHe was ready when she ws ready. Relax - your child won't go to college is pull-ups........and this happens with FAR more kids than you realize........just not something parents like to talk about.

K.

My oldest never wet the bed past the toddler years. My youngest rarely ever wet the bed beyond potty training. My middle child? Wet the bed consistently all through childhood. As he got older, he did it less often; but he's 13 now and still wets the bed every once in awhile. All kids are different. And, they just can't help it. Talk to your doctor to make sure there is no medical problem. And, there is a Rx they can take if you want (we never did). Good luck.

Don't stress, pick your battles! My brother did this till he was 12 or so, he even kicked out the window (slept on the top bunk) he slept right threw it, no one else did! She will grow out of it. Soaker Mattress Pad's work GREAT! get 2. you place it under child then you only have to wash it, not the sheets and clean the mattress too. But it will give you a back up. When she starts going to sleep overs, she can wear a "pull up", place a zip lock bag in her back pack and she can change in the restroom and place the wet pull up in the bag and not be self concious about it. No one will be the wiser! Keep her self esteem up, there are SO many other things that will tear her down, this should not be one of them.:) xoxo her she is growing up!

Hi K., Take her out of pull ups, and put a water proof pad under her. Make a chart and keep track of her wetness and dryness, and if she has a good weeek teward her, if she doesn't take something away, make her take her wet bedding off her self and put then in the washer. we moved from an apartment into Military Housing, my middle child was 4 and had been potty trained since he was 19 mnnths and at night at 17 1/2 months old, and then at 4 he started wetting the bed, I thought it was because he was jealous of his new baby sister, so I did all the above I told you to do, I found out later by my 7 year old that it was because he was scared to get up during th night, even though the hall light was on and there was a night light in his room and the bathroom, but in our apartment the boys had a bathrom in their room, and thats what he was used to. So my 7 year old told his little brother to wake him up and he will walk to the bathroom together, and walla problem solved. Most kids wetout of lazyness, so find out what it is for your daughter and go from there. J. L.

Don't fret the bedwetting. Some kids just take longer. My older son never wet the bed, but my younger son, now 12, was potty trained by 3, but still wet the bed. He had to wear pull-up until he was 10. Bedwetting has nothing to do with potty-training. Some kids are just really sound sleepers. Pull-ups and over night diapers are a wonderful invention as are water-proof sheets. As long as there is no psychological or emotional cause for the bedwetting, it's just an inconvenient stage that some kids go through. Sometimes their bladders are still growing and can't hold all the liquids in their bodies. Continue to stop the liquids 2 hours before bedtime and a trip to the bathroom before bed. If she is thirsty and absolutely has to have a drink of water, try just a sip, but still insist on the pull-ups. Use the waterproof sheets, too. My poor son would sleep through getting wet so the wet underwear theory will probably not work. Just be patient and don't make a big deal out of it. Good luck.