I have a son who is 10 and he still wets the bed. Help!! I've taken him to the Dr and he says his badder is not mature yet. I bought the device that alerts him when he wets but it has worked. Will he ever get over it? I am to the point where I want to make him sleep in the bath tub( not really just frusterated) any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!
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Thank all of you for the great responses. I know I can always count on great advice from my friends. I descided to get him some extra pads for his bed. I made a list for the morning that he needs to go by. Take a shower,put his wet night clothes and sheets in hamper and throw away his pullup. Let him know that he will grow out of it and I wasnt going to make a big deal out of it as long as he picked up after himself and also took care of himself in the mornings. Please don't get me wrong I never made him feel ashamed over it. It really helped to know that others have had the same problem and that it is normal and I will see (one day) that he will grow out of it. Thanks to all of you!!
My son had this issue as well. His pediatrician's advice to me: "Don't worry, he won't go off to college with this problem." That might sound cavalier, but his point - as he continued to explain - was that this is not uncommon and they always grow out of it. He was absolutely right. Within a couple of years the issue was resolved.
My boys are 11 & 12 and still wet the bed. We have tried the chiropractor adjustments, pills to help them stop, the bed alerts, me waking them up in the middle of the night to go, no drinks after supper... you name it, more than likely I have tried it. More so because they want to stop than it being an issue for me. The Drs have told us the same thing about immature bladder. I get fusterated at times but I know they aren't doing it on purpose. I just keep reminding myself I was 14 before I stopped ( embarassing, yes, so I know how they are feeling) so I only have a few more years to go of buying pull ups for them.
ITs not his fault and we all know this so make it as less embarrising as possible. Constantly changing out his sheets can be hard on the self esteem. and if he doesnt realize it then he is laying in it which is not good for hygiene. I suggest
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Pampers-UnderJams-Absorbent-Nig...
they come in all sizes and its like underwear. He can discreetly deal with it and have confidence that even though he cant control his not yet mature bladder he can control the out come. GIVE HIM THE STEPS HE NEEDS TO BE INDEPENDENT AND FEEL LIKE HE HAS IT UNDER CONTROL!
It will help the stress with everyone all around.
i know it can be expensive but its going to be money well spent
Well, if the doc says his bladder is not mature enough yet, I'd make bed changes as easy as possible, layer sheets & waterproof pads so you can just peel O. layer off.....good luck!
This is called Enuresis. My oldest son had this and not just at night. When he was younger like age 5 and 6 he still wet during the day and never knew it. By the time he was 8 we had him checked, he was diagnosed and was told not to punish him for wetting as it wasn't his fault. We were also told that as puberty came on, that is generally when the wetting stopped. Sure enough, as he started having nocturnal emission at age 10 the bed wetting stopped. Then I had a whole other problem. Needless to say, it was his job to wash his own sheets when that started cuz it was heavy. Yikes.
The only time he was punished was when he wouldn't clean up his mess in the morning or threw his wet pajamas on the rug rather than in the tub. Our deal was that we all understood it was a physical disorder that we were waiting to pass, but in the mean time it was his job every morning to strip his pajamas and toss them in the tub, strip his sheets and waterproof fitted pad and toss that in the tub as well, and shower before school. He was given extra time in the morning for this but wouldn't do it much. This was because he had ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) where he refused to do things. He would rebel against everything and everyone.
But the doc reassured us that when puberty hit the bed wetting would stop and he was right. Now this can go on until around age 12. With every year older the percentage drops on how many boys continue to wet. I'm assuming his chances of stopping the bed wetting should happen over the next year sometime. I know it seems like it lasts forever but just give him the tools to help him, buy extra sheets and waterproof pads and come up with a system. It's not his fault but at his age there's no reason why he can't be part of the clean up routine. It helps Mom with the stress and worry.
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
Well our son is 6 still wets the bed...has gotten better since he had his tonsils out...maybe because he was not sleeping well with all that snoring going on.
Anyway, the only way that I maintain my sanity is by getting these large tuckin mattress pad overlays from the bed wetting store. They go over the sheet. So when the kid wets the bed you simply take the overlay off, wash it instead of the the whole sheet set. I can not keep up with daily sheet changes or middle of the night sheet changes. Every night I put down three on the bed (one on top of the other). Then if during the middle of the night there is an accident, I just get up, peel off the top one. Still have two more ready to go incase of more accidents. These things are expensive...but have seriously helped me remain sane (I can not be changing sheets in middle of night). I ended up buying 12 for about $350 (get the x large tuck in ones), but I am telling you this was money well spent. You could get by with less....but this was an impulse buy for me when I was fed up at 2:00 am because I had to get up and change sheets!!!
Also my husband usually stays up until midnight and right before he goes to bed he wakes up son and has him go to the bathroom. This has been helpful...but if son does not wake up around 5 am on his own...then I am washing the overlay (which I can live with).
By the way, I wash the overlay with vinegar in the wash machine to get the smell out and disinfect the thing.
Below is the link to the bedwetting store. I feel your pain :0)
Good luck,
S.
http://www.bedwettingstore.com/Bedding/category_WaterProo...
My son's doctor said for some children this is normal. Just love him and know it will get better.
Just some encouragement: I wet the bed until I was almost 9, and the WORST thing was being treated like it was my fault :( Like something was wrong with me. The best you can do is encourage him and involve him in the clean-up :) My son is almost 5 and still wears a pull-up at night by choice. He's slept in underwear and does fairly well. Besides, don't we all dream about going to the bathroom close to our wake-up time and have to hurry for the toilet? hehe
I jumped on here to give you some encouragement and to counter the negative comments I was sure I'd find. How thrilled was I when I found all these heartfelt posts full of great ideas and encouragement!! Yay, ladies!! (Sometimes we're so hard on each other!) Sounds as if you're handling this well, make sure he knows you love him and that he'll outgrow this, and make it as easy on you as on him to deal with the middle-of-the-night emergencies. I can't imagine how he feels, knowing he'll soon be invited for overnights and won't want to go for fear of being "exposed". GIve him a hug for me!
my partner and both his brothers wet the bed for years, so it has been no surprise to me that my little guy does too. like your son, he wets through pullups too sometimes. a lifesaver in our house has been these cotton flannel waterproof pads my mom got me from babies r us. they are machine washable and feel good to lay on. i got them because i didnt want my kid sleeping on smelly noisy plastic layer to protect mattress. i put one under the sheet to protect the mattress and one on top of the sheet that usually absorbs all the moisture so sheet changing is not a daily practice. we travel with these pee pads so there is no stress anymore. my mom even sewed one onto a cool fleece print for sleepovers. we have about 10 that we keep in rotation for my two boys and they are a lifesaver.
In some cases chiropractic can help with bedwetting. It has to do with the neurology that goes to the bladder and the nerves in the lower back. It wouldn't hurt to investigate it.
My 12 year old grandson just recently stopped peeing every night. He also went to tons of docs. They all said it too, he wan't ready. The devices and waking him up did nothing but deprive everyone of a full nights sleep. It made the wetting worse because when he finally went to sleep he slept even deeper than normal.
So i know this sounds crazy, but have you tried a chiropractor? I have referred several friends with children over the age of 10 whom still wet the bed, and with a few good sacral adjustment it has helped the issue to stop. its a very simple and straight forward physiological answer that I won't get into here, but i assure you if your child is not having any psycological or emotional issues other than bedwetting, this could help to remedy the issue. As a chiropractor myself i could refer you to someone in your area. Good luck!
Hi - this is probably not good news for you but this is called Enuresis (which somebody already mentioned). I had it and I actually still wet the bed sometimes in COLLEGE...believe it or not. It can last for a long time, but just as everyone said it shouldn't be a punishment although I remember my mom being really frsutrated...I had the alarm and everything and nothing really worked. I just eventually grew out of it.
