Behavior Help! - McAllen,TX

Updated on November 06, 2006
Y.F. asks from McAllen, TX
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Hi! my son is 8 months and he used to be a beautiful behaved little boy, but it all changed 2 weeks ago! now he cries non stop for little things, and I know he's just throwing a tantrum cause if i ignore him he'll stop, but there are times where he'll cry for literally an hour or more, don't know what to do....HELP!!!!

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M.M.

answers from El Paso on

Please dont ignore your son, I would strongly suggest to take him to your pediatrician, He may have an infection and he just doesnt know how to tell you ... I would rule this out first ... If he is ok then ... attempt to calm him when he has a fit .. pick him up and tell him It will be ok, and if he refuses to be held or is fighting you then put him down and tell him that when he stops crying you will come back to him ... continue reassurance ...and when he does stop again talk to him and tell him "you see you are ok", If it is you that is losing patience then sit him down and walk away until you gain your composure ... these moments are hard but please be patient

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T.C.

answers from Houston on

He's 8mo old, not even a year yet!!! Don't ignore him, he might not be throwing a tantrum but stopping the crying because he's getting no response. Is he tired? Hungry? Grumpy? Teething? Could there actually be something wrong, such as reflux? Please don't ignore him, he's too young to be ignored!!

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O.

answers from Houston on

I think any crying under the age of 1 should definitely not be ignored. The reason for his crying could be a dozen different reasons...any one of them completely justifiable. I hope you can figure out the source of his complaints.

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O.

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C.A.

answers from Houston on

Hi Y.,

You can ignore him but before you do you need to tell him why. "mommy is not going to pick you up while you are (crying, angry, throwing a fit). I want you to stop crying then we can have fun." I know it sounds silly but they really do understand more than people give them credit for. If you put this in place now it will be easier as he gets older. You have to be consistent and not give in after 10 minutes or so. You can check him for safety (dry diaper, make sure he is in a safe place) and then say "I am looking forward to playing when you calm down". Then go about your business. When he calms down, go pick him up and play. You can say "Mommy loves to play when you are happy." It will be hard but it will work with consistency.

Good luck,
C.

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K.D.

answers from Houston on

As longa as everything is ok physically, Id say its probably a phase and wont last long. When he starts try to see what he wants and if its safe (cuddling, a toy, a bottle) give it to him. If its not stand your ground, but try to redirect his attention.

Also try to keep him well rested, fed and feeling secure. When the little ones hit milestones on the road to independence it can be a bit overwelming for them.

Good luck to you and baby boy!

K.

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C.G.

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Hi Y.,

He may be teething--my daughter is close to his age and generally very sweet-tempered, but she has had bouts of irritability lately because she is cutting teeth (the first just broke through a couple days ago). Try Hyland's teething tablets--they are homeopathic, no side effects and they work like a charm, she calms down right away! You can get them at Whole Foods or Central Market.

He might also have a tummy ache or something--if the teething tabs don't help you might want to check with your doctor. Another possibility is a food allergy--if he is starting solid food he may be allergic to something he ate. My daughter had corn a couple weeks ago and it didn't agree with her, she was irritable and didn't sleep well for 2 days. When we cut out the corn she was fine again within 24 hours. Our doctor recommended introducing one food at a time and staying with it for at least 5 days before introducing the next thing, so we could tell if she was reacting to it--it's been a good method.

Don't ignore him--babies under a year old don't throw "tantrums" the way toddlers do--when they are upset there is something wrong and hollering is the only way they can let you know, they don't have any concept of trying to manipulate you like an older child will try to do. When he gives up crying when you ignore him it is a depressive response, he's getting the message that his needs are not going to be met and withdrawing into himself. When he is older (12 months and up) and starting to talk is the time to set the boundaries because that's age-appropriate, but now he needs your attention. It's rough, I know! But you'll get through it and even if he is really cranky, the love you send him by staying with him through it now will last him the rest of his life.

Best of luck--let me know how it goes!

C. :-)

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