Birthday Gifts - Bedminster,NJ

I would start sending only cards to these girls. You don't say how old they are but anything over 7 or 8 is old enough to write a thankyou note. if they are not doing that then when they ask you can say well I didn't think you were getting them since you never called to let me know. as far as the your son not getting a gift. you shouldn't give gifts and then expect gifts back. gifts are just that. maybe her family is not able to afford to send your son a gift? and are you sure she expects it? it is a hurtful situation and it will eat you alive if you let it. let it go its a battle that just causes hurt all the way around.

I was always the one in the family (on my hubby's side) that would send birthday cards, gifts, anniversary cards, and would RSVP no matter what. One day, at a block party, I give a belated birthday present to my hubby's cousin for her daughter's 5th birthday. The cousin said, "Oh, Okay." Her mom (my hubby's aunt) said to me, "You know what? You are always thoughtful and give to everyone. Stop. It's obviously not appreciated. Save the money you would spend on everyone in this family and spend it on your kids." She saw that her own daughter had this behavior, and even though I never rec'd a thank you and my kids never rec'd anything from anyone(except that aunt) on that side, it was nice to know I wasn't the only one who thought it was rude.

Why do you say she "expects" you to send gifts for her girls? And not acknowledging the gifts is horrible! I would probably stop the gifts or at the very least ask if they were received.
People are weird. People are unorganized. People are cheap! Who knows why people do what they do!

I'm with ya. My dad's side of the family seems to care less about my son.
He just turned 2.
I didn't even get a phone call, card, present ANYTHING from any of them.
Oh but I did get an email from my dad reminding me that my grandmother *his mothers* b-day was coming up. Not a WORD about my lil guy turning two.

I could say stop giving gifts to her kids, but that isn't the right thing to do. It's not her kids fault that she is rude.