Birthday Party for My Baby

the kids don't remmeber. Why not do cake at home? small and easy? i'd leave the "convincing" to bigger matters.

I would tell him that even if the baby won't remember, YOU will, and it's important to YOU to celebrate. I'd also keep the party very small and simple. He might be overwhelmed by the cost of a big blowout, or he might be worried that you can't afford a "nice" party. Reassure him that small and simple is OK with you and everyone else.

N.,

Just remind him that although your baby may not remember the party, he/she will have the birthday pics of what he did on his second birthday for the rest of his life, and those are usually the photos we cherish the most as we look back on our childhood..and when he grows up he will pass them onto his own kids to cherish.

Don't need to convince him. Just have a family party and invite two of your child's playmates. They say one child for every year they turn. Make it small and intimate. Best wishes and let us know what happened.!

Hi N.. It sounds like you and your husband are on completely different wave lengths. Yes, he's right that toddlers won't remember the bd ( although if you have pictures taken, then they'll "remember" the time. Your first sentence says that you want to throw a party for your family and guests ( and the occasion happens to be your little one's 2nd birthday). Did you tell your hubby that you want to throw a party? Does he like doing parties or not? If not- maybe you could compromise and have a small party- or go out and have dinner ( that way no one at home has to plan, set up, and clean up). Those are just my thoughts- I don't know if they describe the situation.

Miss N.~
I understand that your husban thinks the little one will not remember his second Birthday, to his defense he is right. BUT and this is a big BUT, birthday parties are not only for the recipient. It's a time that members of the family and friends can come together and celebrate another year of blessings this child has given you and others. Maybe if you explain it to your husban this way he might be more receptive. In addition the child may not remember the event from their memory, but throught pictures and story telling of the event he will think he remembers the event. There are many family stories that were told to me that I swear remembering, alas i to would have been too young to have memory of the event. So remind your husban of these things and they might just have him give into the party.

Hi N.,
I think birthday parties are to celebrate the life of your child! I feel that children are a blessing and we should be thankful for every year that we have with them.It doesnt have to be a big party,but I think something special should be done every year.Just a note, My son is 9 and he remembers everything!! Good luck convincing your husband!!

Hi N., Be honest with your husband and let him know that this is more for you! Of course your little one wont remember but you sure will remember how that cute little face lights up! My husband is the same way but went for it when I told him "I" needed this. Good luck and have fun!

The party is for you. You gave birth and have a right to throw your child a party if you so desire. Your husband is right, he won't remember his 2nd birthday - but you will.

Hi N.

The party is not really for your baby, it is more for you! Your child will more than likely enjoy the party only for a short time, then have some sort of meltdown. A real party is pretty overwhelming to a 2 year old, so keep it short and sweet. I had a party for my daughter at 10am at a park, which was the time of day that we usually attended some sort of playgroup or playground time. We had some play centers set up for the small kids and some snacks and sang happy birthday and it was over by 11:30, when she immediately fell asleep in the car (even before we finished loading everything up!) We did not open presents at the party, we opened one per day for the next week so she could actually play with each one and I could take a picture of her playing with it and write a thank you note which she colored.

Enjoy it and good luck with your decision!

Yes your child will most likely not remember and it's really for you. Is it a money thing. He may not come out and say it, but if he thinks it will cost a lot he may be less willing to have a party. Did you throw a 1 year old party and did it cost way more than you thought? Just some thoughts but see if that may be the issue!

How sad if your son didn't get experiences because he "doesn't remember". I am very sorry your hubby is not on board, but I think if you would like to celebrate your precious son's life and first 2 years here on earth, you should be entitled. I am wondering if he'd just rather have a smaller occasion, a simple family gathering? Some of my friends celebrate with us at a park the day of, what do you think of that as an alternative? I hope it all works out,
M.

I don't think you can convince your husband any different. He has made up his mind, he dosen't want to be part of that or does not want to spend that kind of money (usually it's the money). Maybe you can just plan it anyway, it's not like he's going anywhere. He may not want to have it there at home. I had the same problem with my husband, and I thought maybe he just doesn't want to have it at home so I came up with other places, and he was little more moved about those ideas. You could suggest a different location, for kids his/her age group local zoo, an indoor play ground,for kids of all ages bowling alley, batting cages, skating rink. I know he/she's two, but your guest will love it, and he/she still gets cake, presents and a loving family around him/her. Take alot pictures, maybe it will jog your toddler's memory ;)Good luck!

It doesn't matter if they don't remember it - it a special experience for a special time in your childs life! If it helps convince your husband, tell him you can take pictures so when your child is older he can look back and remember these wonderful childhood experiences.

dear N.. Do you have or remember memories of your birthdays? Well maybe your hubby didn't have a good expirience with that. So try to convince him that you will record it and your son can see it when he is older. My kids are 17 and 15 and they love to see pictures and old movies when they were little.
Good luck i hope its fun for your kid.
D.:0

I would tell him that they only turn 2 once. There is not turning back once the moment is gone. You want to capture every moment you can because they do really grow up fast.

Kids don't remember at this age but I love celebrating birthdays. It does not have to be big and that is what you tell your hubby. Do it between meal times like 3-5, serve just dessert and keep it casual. if there are lots of kids or cousins you may want to do an activity but it can be really simple like freeze dance. When I have the party at my house I just let the kids loose in my toy room and backyard and they have plenty to do.

Even if they don't remember that doesn't mean they can't have some fun on their birthday. It doesn't have to be crazy big with a jumper or anything. Children need to know that it's important to celebrate our birthdays because we are celebrating life. It's also an important event for us parents because our babies are one year older. Good luck!

By agreeing with him!

You're right, hon, they don't. But I will. I'll remember my whole life that my baby turned two and I did nothing. This party isn't for (him/her), it's for me. And it's for the people who love our baby and want to celebrate, or have had a gift tucked away in a closet that the bought months ago.

Guilt him into realizing how guilty YOU'LL feel for years and years and years, and make him realize how happy this will make you.

If it's a money thing, a casual potluck bbq in the evening (or even a lunch bbq), is always fun. It doesn't have to be a KIDS party...it can be a family and friends party with bday cake. bbq & beer to offset the pin the tail on the donkey may sweeten the deal just enough if he's still on the fence.

Now...does every 2 year old need a party? No. It depends on their parents. And if YOU need a party, that's reason enough.

Hello, First of all, I am going to 60 in November and I can still remember things from when I was 2-3 years old. Also, this is a celebration of your child's life. Try that one on him. It is as important to your child as it is to you. Good luck with your precious child.
K. K.

On some energetic level your toddler is going to know that he or she is getting a special day and gets to play in the cake! And the pictures will be priceless forever. And as other mamas wrote, birthdays are also a celebration of the birth for everybody it's impacted.

Of course we don't need to tell you any of this. It's your bah humbug husband that is raining on the parade. These days, it is highly likely that money is a consideration, whether he wants to admit it or not.

Talk to your husband about how to honor your toddler and yourselves as parents in a way that he's comfortable with. Cake and ice cream at a park in the late afternoon when you wouldn't be expected to provide a meal might be enough. We're all belt-tightening right now, but special doesn't have to be expensive.

I agree with Riley on this one!! ;)
Tell him it's "mostly" for you - that you want to have pictures to show your child later on, etc...
Good luck and have fun! I love planning Bday parties! It IS more fun for the parents at this age isn't it?!! hehe