I was wondering if anyone had read a good book about mothers and duaghters.. I didnt have a very close relationship with my mother. Now I have a duaghter and I hope to do better with her.. If anyone know of a good book.. Let me know I would love to read it..
My #1 pick is
Raising a Daughter by Jeanne Elium and Don Elium
For those of us who also have sons, I also really liked
Raising a Son, by the same authors
You can find both on amazon.com
Enjoy!
I haven't read the book yet, but have read many reviews for it. It is titled "Don't Blame Mother: Mending The Mother-Daughter Relationship" by Paula J. Caplan, Ph.D. I purchased it at www.experiencedbooks.com. It was priced at $.99, but was able to get it for $.01 plus shipping and handling with a coupon.
I just began reading "All you need to know about Raising Girls" by Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff. It covers all the years from baby to nineteen. It helped me to understand the different growth stages my girls are going through and how to help them through it. I learned a lot about myself while reading this too. It really covers the importance of relationships very well, and how girls deal with relationships at each stage. I really like it so far. I think it's worth your time.
God Bless! Be sure to let me know what you thought of the other books too!
J.
Barnes and Noble or Borders has these small books that are full of pictures that edify moms and their little ones. One's called "Dear Mom", by Greive. My son gave it to me one Mother's Day.
Just for the record, for years I felt at odds with my mom too. Like she couldn't ever agree with my decisions about much of anything. I never lived up to her expectations or her illusions of what I was. I always have wished she'd known me better, like my likes, dislikes, good colors, bad colors to wear. She wasn't there to go to about personal matters. We still don't see eye to eye on everything, but she's alone now and quite frankly we get along just fine. I have some likes that I got from her. Not much, but then again we aren't supposed to be clones. We're individuals. But she's finally let go.
Make sure you maintain your place as the parent (lots of moms want to best buds with their daughters and it undermines the authority factor). But yeah make a bond with your daughter. It can foster some wonderful memories.
The Wonder of Girls by Michael Gurian
How old is your daughter?
A Mother's Heart by Jean Fleming is a great place to start (-:
You could also go to www.focusonyourchild.com and check out their resources. They are catagorized by age and topic.
I think it's wonderful that you are concerned and willing to educate yourself.
Much respect,
Johnetta
My daughter bought me chicken soup for the mother's soul for christmas a few years ago. I read every story, and I really enjoyed it. Since the stories are short I could pick it up whenever I had a little extra time.
Hi Lisa---These books are on my reading list so I can't give you a first hand opinion, but I've listened to reviews and interviews with both authors and I am very impressed. The books are, Mother Daughter Wisdom by Dr. Christiane Northrup. You may have seen her on PBS specials. The other book is "You're Wearing That?" by Deborah Tannen. I am the oldest of 5 daughters and although I don't feel that I experienced any pschological harm, my mother was much too busy to nurture and she was always critical. Even though my own daughter is 24, and I'm sure I've repeated many of my mother's behaviors, I believe that it's never too late to learn to do better and strenthen that bond. Good luck and congratulations on your decision to be proactive with your relatiionship with your daughter. Blessings, D.
Girl Talk by Carolyn Mahaney and her daughters is really good!
