K.,
Someone said it's not the bottle, it's the nipple and they're correct, however, every baby is different; some will drink from breast and bottle without problems, but many can not and end up developing problems with nipple/flow confusion.
The nipple should be silicone (soft)and have a wide base and short stem.
The Gerber dome nipple is one, but sometimes hard to find. Playtex also has a slowflow dome nipple, but be sure it fits the discription listed above. Munchkin has a tri-flow nipple that may work. The tri-flow is a revised version of Munchkin's original nipple (which was great for breastbabies), it isn't quite as good, but it's better than many others on the market.
I do not recommend the NUK nipple because the shape is similiar to what mom's nipple looks like when a baby is not latched properly at breast. However, some babies may be more receptive to this shape. You never know, "One size, fits all" does not work for humans.
The following is what I usually recommend to my clients:
1. Do NOT offer bottle at a feeding time and use breastmilk.
When babies are hungry, they don't want to learn a new thing, they want to eat and 5 minutes ago.
2. Do not starve the baby by not feeding under the assumption, "he/she will take the bottle if they get hungry enough". WRONG...no he/she will not; it will only compound the problem and can create an adversion to the bottle nipple and possibly even feeding all together.
3. Have someone else offer the bottle. You should be out of the room or maybe even out of the house.
4. Provide diversion, have the person walk around with baby facing outward (baby's back against feeders chest), stand in front of TV, follow pet around, outside where other people are, etc.
5. Do not force the issue. The baby may only gum the nipple, bite down, roll it around in their mouth or fingers and that is okay. The point is to familiarize the baby with texture, flow, etc. without anxiety, stess, hunger or anything that may cause unpleasantness. Babies are very smart and perceptive, they can pick up non-verbal ques and sense intent.
6. Warm the nipple (and milk). Some babies are very sensitive to temperature. Warming the nipple sometimes can soften the silicone to make it seem more like mom's breast.
7. BE PATIENT! Don't set a date and/or time when the baby has to take the bottle. This will only cause more anxiety/stress for you and the baby will definately pick up on the emotional turmoil and could create the counter-effect. Also, this isn't going to happen overnight and it probably won't happen after a couple tries. This scenario may have to be repeated several times before the baby feels comfortable and receptive.
Hope this helps. Let me know how things turn out. There are a few other tricks I know, but the above is usually what works best.
D. B.
P.S. Honey should never be given to children under 1 year of age.