Breastfed Baby Won't Take Pacifier or Bottle?

Updated on February 20, 2011
A.P. asks from Phoenixville, PA
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I'm exclusively breastfeeding and desperate for my baby to accept the bottle every now and then with dad. He USED to be ok with it and also the pacifier and then one day just rejected both. He has an urgent need to suck so pacifier would be helpful but bottle is necessary so I'm not tied to him every 3 hours. He's 10 weeks old.
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A.S.

answers from Pittsburgh on

You can try different types of nipples. As far as the pacifier, try the "hospital" type, they are kind of a clear green and round with a completely round, not flat, end to suck on. I beleive they are called Soothies? They are available in some stores now, used to be only in the hospital!! You may be able to "force" the bottle if you withhold the breast and offer only the bottle several feedings in a row. But that is awfully hard on both baby and mommy, and probably not worth it unless you really have to have to have him take a bottle for some reason. Just enoy the breastfeeding for now. In a coup-le months he will be able to take a little cereal and so it won't be as critical if you are going to be out for a feeding.

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

he will soon not need you so much , but thats life, bottles are unnatural , literally speaking . Im not saying its wrong of you to want time, i totally get it. Im not claiming that bottle feeding is bad, im merely saying that your baby is hardwired to want your nipple. soon his feedings will decrease and you wont feel so overwhelmed, but until then try to be there for every feeding.

This is a crucial time in breastfeeding that you and your baby develop an almost psychic connection to each others needs. Maybe let daddy participate in the other aspects of his life.

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H.H.

answers from Philadelphia on

I hate to tell you, but he might just be a "boob" man. My little guy is 8 months old and STILL will not drink from a bottle and I'm still breastfeeding every three hours (except at night, he sleeps about 8 hours straight). If you find a solution, would love to hear it! It definitely keeps me tied to the house which is tough on days I really need to get things done and not panic about when to get home...

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D.S.

answers from Allentown on

Hi, A.:
I regret that nobody told you that this would occur when
had a baby.
Good luck. He will be grown and gone before you know it.
Sit back and fall in love with your baby each time he nurses.
D.

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D.B.

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C.B.

answers from New York on

First of all congratulations on both your new baby and breastfeeding. I am still nursing mine and she is 14 month's old. Anyway, my daughter never had an issue with the pacifier but with a bottle she did. She took it at first as well but began to change, even when my husband gave it to her. Here are some tips that may help.
1) Your baby can smell your milk from 20 feet away, so maybe you should leave the house when his father feeds him.
2) Make sure you put only your breast milk in the bottle and make sure it's a good temp. sometimes they can sense the difference.
3) He is beginning to pacify on you, meaning he knows the breast is easier so he wants only that. Break the habit now, try to nurse him and finish him off with a bottle. This way he doesn't nurse so often and gets used to the bottle more.

I hope this helps and what ever you decide try to keep breastfeeding only. It is the best for him and you especially for newborns. All the best.

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E.M.

answers from Johnstown on

Consider yourself lucky he won't take the pacifier; you won't need to break him of it later. As for the nipples--we had best luck with the playtex brand. HTH

A.G.

answers from Pocatello on

yeah that's just how breastfeeding is. I mean some babies will do both bottle and breast with no problem but most....if you breastfeed then that's all you do. lol Both my babies never took a pacifier or a bottle. so yeah for the first year of their life I was never away from them longer than 2 hours. The fact that your breast fed baby goes 3 hours is pretty good. Mine ate every 2 hours and some days every hour. Yes I pretty much had a baby on my boob round the clock! LOL You just kinda get used to it. And as they get older the nursing time gets shorter. Like when their young the nurse for a long time but as they get older they'll be on and off in 5 to 10 minutes. But if you have to have your baby take a bottle then just keep trying. Try different types of nipples and after awhile hopefully your baby will take it.

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E.F.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Yup, that sucks. I always tell my bfing friends to do one bottle a day so this doesn't happen. Just keep trying. They say that it helps if someone else does it, and trying different bottles, but I know some kids that never took it (but only because Mom couldn't stand the idea of the kid missing meals). The truth is, he will take it, but you might have to be ok with him going without food for hours--- like, maybe 8 hours-- before you'll "break" him. Just depends on how stubborn he is and how much you can tolerate. You can also try syringes or spooning the milk in...

Next kid, make sure he or she gets a bottle every day. :-)

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M.F.

answers from Youngstown on

My son is 10 1/2 months and has never taken a bottle and he stopped using a pacifer at about 2 months. I feel for you. You can try a different type of bottle(that didn't work for us though) If that doesn't work for you then just know that as he gets older he will eat farther apart. We have 3 kids so I don't get out much and I just take the baby with me since babies are no trouble..I will say it is difficult but what can you do really it the baby won't take a bottle?

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S.B.

answers from Philadelphia on

I feel your pain. Both my boys did the same thing. Unfortunately, I have no advice. My boys would not accept a bottle until they were 9 months. However, I was able to feed them a small bowl of cereal at night before bed when they were 3 & 1/2 months & they would sleep a little longer. By 6 months I was giving them jared food 2xs a day. And the nursing sessions were much farther apart.
At the time it felt like the first 4-5 months took FOREVER. However, now that they are 3 & 1/2 and 2; it seems so long ago. And it seems like that time flew by. I know it doesn't feel like it now, but it will be over sooner than you realize.
There is something I used to tell myself (and still do sometimes) to help lighten the mood & give me some hope. "They won't go the high school still __________." In the blank insert any appropriate topic (breastfeeding, eating baby food, using diapers, etc.) Its also fun to imagine a HS version of your child still doing such behavior. It always made me laugh & I felt better.
Good luck.

H.X.

answers from Los Angeles on

Mine did the same thing. She is now almost 7 mo and still refuses the bottle. You can try different bottles. You can offer her water in a bottle just so she can get used to the idea with out it being a feeding. This has helped a little for us. But mostly because she can hold and chew on the bottle and she likes to take a few sips. This reassures me she is able to suck a bottle. However, I know that in order for her to take a bottle it will be do or die and I have not had the heart yet to do it. If it is necessary that yours take it because you have to work or something, I would leave the house for a practice feeding and let dad try and hash it out for a feeding. Stay close to home in case it doesn't work out. As for me, I'm accepting my little ball and chain. It won't be forever.

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S.W.

answers from Philadelphia on

Keep on trying. Have dad try with you out of the house. I must admit each child is different. My first refused to take a pacifier, but with persistance, he finally did. My 2nd did not take the paci or bottle. He actually drank diluted juice out of the bottle at about 8months but wouldn't take breastmilk or formula. When I had to go back to work, the sitter used a cup to give him pumped milk from and he finally took it. No milk from bottle though.

P.M.

answers from Honolulu on

Try a bunch of different nipples. My daughter had breast milk exclusively but not always right off the tap ;) She would go through cycles of rejecting certain bottles. She always wanted the rounder nipples like the Playtex nurser that she could latch on to similar to when she nursed. It's really all about baby.

As for pacifiers, try a few different kinds as well. She loved her MaM passifiers and wouldn't take anything else. Good luck momma and good luck, I know having someone on your body ALL the time can get exhausting and if you need to incorporate bottles to avoid burnout then go you! No guilt momma, you are doing a great job!

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

I breastfed both my kids.
My first child, would NOT NOT NOT take any bottle or pacifier.
I tried.

My second child, would take both.

Each child is different.

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