Hi C.,
I can relate to you and the other mamas. I'm breastfeeding my 18mo as he still has a severe intolerance to dairy and soy (blood in stool for dairy and very mucusy stool for soy). It is hard at times, but really you get used to it. The other mothers have great suggestions. I would like to add a few of my own.
Rice Dream "Ice Cream" is okay, but don't try it right away. I cried the first time I ate it because I was expecting real ice cream flavor/consistency. It wasn't really that bad, but I had some high expectations. The organic Rice Dream Ice Cream has a very bizarre consistency and I can't take that. You can thaw some of the ice cream and mix in berries or cookies (both Trader Joes and Whole Foods have DFSF sandwich cookies). It is like your own little Blizzard. Avoid deli meats because they can slice cheese and dairy containing meats on the slicers. Whole Foods has some prepackaged deli meat that is dairy and casiene free. Read EVERY label. So many things have dairy and/or soy that it might blow you away! I'm talking lotions, vitamins, cereal, gum, candy, bread, probiotics! My doctor accidently suggested probiotics for my son but many of those have a dairy base. Whole Foods will also make a DFSF pizza to order for you. I haven't tried that yet, but I'm going to soon. If you like buttered toast (one of the top five things I miss most), you can use canola on a toasted english muffin (from Trader Joes). It isn't bad.
I am making most things from scratch. The bonus is that this is the best I've ever eaten in my life.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or just need some support hear and there.
Julia