i was on another web site babycenter, and i was a member for a while and become great friends with lots of ladies there, then a few older members for some reason started to bully other members hacking their accounts bullying them when they answered or asked questions including myself which i chose to delete my account and not be a part of, was deleting my account the right thing to do or did i just get my feelings hurt?
yes i agree that bullying is not hacking, but when they make accounts using ur screen name but chnaging one small thing so that at first glance ppl think its you and hten go on a rampage of being mean to ppl or stuff like that, also like someone said this wasnt a i didnt like the answer or anything , this was more along the lines of phot cropping my pictures of my family and me onto things and posting them, making fun of me and my family for our clothes, and looks.
thanks for the welcome!!
thank you everyone, i am so happy everyone here is nice and understanding,yes it was my album that they took my pictures and cropped, i am kinda disappointed in myself for getting my feelings hurt because i know if that would of been face to face i would of never let her do that to me, but at the same time i cant understand how someones life could be so bad that they want to makes other just as unhappy as they are.thanks again girls!!
also i can handle a little argument about a subject or someone not agreeing with you but some people take it way to far.
Babycenter has a lot of toxic people. You did the right thing. I was also bullied there. Now, I just connect with the friends I made there through Facebook and skip the Babycenter drama.
i agree i have been on babycenter and the birth club i was in was the worst it was like high school all over again, " the click" and they would find someone and single them out and pick on them they called themselves the mean girls.. i also decided to leave there and found here is so much better there is a difference between not liking someones answer to someone stalking, hacking or bullying you, sometimes its better to get out of the situation.
edit, i am thinking when she says they cropped pictures, it was from her profile on that site your able to have an album of pictures everyone has them, no one thought ppl would steal them...
Depends on whether or not remaining friends is worth ignoring the bullying. Whether or not it's the right thing to do is also dependent on what you wish to accomplish by deleting it.
You deleting your account will not stop the bullying. If there is an oversight "person" as there is on this site, I would complain to them if I wanted to stay on the site. When bullying happens on this site, "someone" deletes the posts.
If the bullying upsets you then I'd delete my account, too. Life is too short to have toxic people in my life.
Welcome to mamapedia!!!
Bullying someone is NOT hacking their account - that's a criminal offense.
Bullying can mean different things to different people. Some people think that "one-upping" is bullying. It's all in a matter of perception. The problem with cyber-bullying? Is this is black and white...you cannot hear them. You cannot see them. You cannot hear their passion nor can you see their body language. If you don't like what someone says (typed) - or you don't like the person who says (types) something you don't like - you will put your own version of snottiness on it.
There are sarcastic women on this site. They make me laugh. Others don't know how to take that sarcastic "tone" - so they automatically assume bullying.
If your account was hacked - by all means - the best thing to do was to delete it. Make sure you have run a virus checker on your computer. Change all your passwords too. Better safe than sorry.
The beautiful thing about being an adult is we get to choose the environments we want to be a part of.
It doesn't matter what any of us think. That site made you uncomfortable and you got off of it.
Brush the dust off and keep it moving.
Seriously -if they hacked your account, the deleting was the right thing to do. I am on Baby Center as wel, but almost never ask or answer questions there. Overall, I never found it as freindly or open as this forum. Every orchard has its bad apples, in the end it is up to you to decide what site you fit best with.
You can always resubscribe to BC and give them another try...
Good luck!
HOW on EARTH did they get pics of your family???? That right there is hugely concerning. Honestly-do what you can to take all pics of your children offline. This illustrates perfectly the danger we face when we put our photos out there. And unfortunately now you have no idea where els your children's pictures are.
Actually - what you describe IS bullying - cyber bullying. As an adult, you can choose to leave. If you are a teen and your "friends" are doing this to you on Facebook, its devastating.
Should this happen to you again, please notify the site administrators. That type of behavior is not acceptable.
Also - very strange that adults on a parenting website would act like that.
Edit to add: Just read the other comments. I cant believe that adults would act like that!
Wow, I've seen and experienced this before and, after reading responses, I see that I'm not in the minority. Not cool and a total downer. Definitely agree that you should have left. It's understandable that your feelings were hurt. Just remember, they're not worth it and you're better off putting your energies into things that make you feel good.
Babycenter SUCKS!!! What a bunch of unhappy, immature, catty, bored, pathetic people with too much time on their hands. That site is a breeding ground for negativity, and not at all what it should be. The moderators are awful and the posters are even worse. The problem with that site is that it's so huge that there's no it can be monitored all the time. People grow internet balls when they are behind a screen, people say things they would never say to your face. It's awful.
What really cracks me up is that you have this set of people that have been on there since it's inception, and they will refer to things no one else would know about. I mean, are you really THAT proud that you've been wasting your life on an internet forum? It's kind of sad, really. If that's what "cool" is, then have at it.
Glad you found this site. You WILL get honesty if you ask for opinions or advice, so if you are sensitive, no internet forum will work for you.
Holy cow, photo cropping your family pictures and posting as if they are you? That IS bullying and of course you did the right thing to leave that site. Let those awful nasty women to themselves. All the rest of the members they did that to should leave the site in droves. Thank goodness that cannot happen on this site.
I wouldn't just consider what happened to you to be a reason to just have your feelings hurt, BB. I'd feel violated if someone stole my pictures and purported themselves to be me. It's kind of like identity theft.
Dawn
you are right to delete your account. You don't need to be part of a site where people are out to harm/bully others.
