Can Anyone Else Relate??

Sounds like you're questioning yourself and your abilities now whereas you didn't before, is that correct? There are good friends and there are ones that are not so good for us. You should notice if there is one person that is newly around you that after you leave their presence you start questioning yourself or your abilities - this is not a positive person to be around and you should either be aware of it when you're in their presence so you realize it when it happens and don't go affect of it or start choosing not be around them. Hope this helps. ____@____.com

I could've written that, except I have a four year old son, twin 17 month old sons, and don't know anyone! LOL At this point I just try not to worry about being too 'together'- if my kids are happy and healthy and my house isn't falling down, we're doing good. The rest of it will come once everyone hits their routine and gets over jet lag/moving/being a toddler. :)

Moving to a new area is emotionally and mentally hard. It's little things that over time has us exhausted. I remember when I first moved here I had to mapquest everything. haha. It was so frustrating. Then I got pregnant here and my husband and I were all alone with no family here. Then my son came along and it just kinda all caught up with me. Just the fact of not having help or being able to drive to my dads.
I don't think alot of people realize how hard it is to meet people when you are a sahm in a new area. True, there are mommy groups but usually we are in the group for our kids. Sometimes we get lucky and bond with them. Other times we just talk about raising kids and only about our kids. I moved here and since I am I still telecommute to my old job from home I have found it very challenging to meet people etc. There have been many days I want to give up and move back home. I However, I do like it here and my husband has a good job. I just have to keep my head up and know that someone up there has better things in store for us. I just try to keep goals and be optimistic.
Maybe you need some time to re-focus on who you are and maybe join a meet-up group based on whatever your hobbies,beliefs etc. are.

hey there J.,

I hear what you are saying. Give yourself a week or so. I think things will start to look up for you. Maybe I am wrong, but you moved recently from your family and it is the holidays. I always seem more stressed around the holidays.
I usually have my Christmas decorations up til after the new year. Well call me scrooge I took them down yesterday. Believe it or not, my mood seems better.

Hope things look up for you.

I know it is hard to be away from your family!!! I miss my parents everyday and would love to have them near. It just makes the time I get to spend with them even more special. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Truth be told, some of those moms you have met are not as "put together" as you think. Remember, appearances can be very deceiving. These days, mothers feel like they have to put on that facade that life is wonderful and everything is totally under control even if it isn't. Hopefully as you get to know some of those other moms in your group you will find one or two who will really open up to you -- someone you feel like you can totally be yourself around. It took me a while to find someone like that, but I finally did and it has made me chill out as a mom. Just give yourself more time to get to know these moms and I have a feeling you will learn that they are just like you!!!

Yes, feeling overwhelmed with being a mom is normal. My children are 3 years apart, and I thought I was the only one who was "failing" at what I was doing. All moms feel like all others moms have it together. I found the more I talk to other moms, the more we have a lot of the same problems. The trick is not to beat yourself up and take each day as a new day to start again. Good luck.

Hey are you making sure that you are taking care of you-avoid sugar as it saps your strength, and take a complete b vitamin- check on line with Dr. Bruce West- he has great info. Way easier I have found to take care of everyone else if you take care of your self
Kyah
ps no pop and esp no diet pop that stuff
'll hurt you