Cheating Boyfriend? What Do I Do?

J.,

Let me get this straight, he kept lying to you EVERY time you confronted him before. It was only when you had concrete evidence against him that he came clean? ALso, he continued the affair this whole time, knowing that you suspected something was up. DO you REALLY think he respects you? DO you think he's broken off this affair?

Only you know the depths of your relationship, but before you continue make sure he capable of the kind of relationship you want. Only you can decide how much you're willing to take. Just remember that whatever you decide to do, your daughter is watching.

Good luck.
M..
I'm in Palm Coast too, if you ever want to get together and talk - shoot me an email.

Hello J., I have been experienced though same thing. I was with a guy for almost 2 years; he was cheating on me while I was pregnant. He was seeing someone else at his work. He kept saying that he was just friends with her, and he even borrowed her car. He planned for us to move together after my son was born. We did not move and he was definity seeing someone else. I just moved on with my life and filed a paternity suit against him for child support for my son. A few years later I realized that my ex boyfriend was continuing to cheat on his other girlfriends. He is a habitual CHEATER and will not stop.

Your boyfriend cheated on you for 2 years, that's a long time. He is definity a cheater, it is his bad habit. Just take your daughter and walk out of the house and move back with your parents, who can help support you and your daughter. Let him handle any problems with the house. Let move on and forget him. Important special attention with your daughter and enjoy life.

good luck

Hey J.,
There are many men out there who fall into a very bad habit of cheating. We have all been cheated on and it sucks and rips your heart out. The one good thing that may come out of this situation is this...if you leave and go back with your parents he will get the message that you will not tolerate this type of behavior and he MIGHT change but it won't be in the begining it will take him realizing that he has lost his partner, his child and most important the sense of being a family. Do not tell him that if he gets better that you would take him back that will make you appear weak minded and he might think he can continue to lie and manipulate. This is going to be so hard for all of you, and I am so so so sorry for you. In the end when you and Tanner are gone he may start to realize what has happened and he will try to get back with you, if this happens you guys should try to get involved in couples counseling to help him understand the pain he has caused and how the healing process will be in the future if you guys decide to mend things. There are church groups out there that usually offer free counseling. On the other hand, lets say you let him go and he flies and he gets with this woman that he said was just a friend, you will need to prepare yourself for that. This will be most painful and keep in mind this could happen and he could be sorry 3 mos later and want to make ammends. Whatever happens you have to work on your self-esteem build yourself up. Work out, save money and try to get ahead for you and Tanner. Make vaca plans for just you and her to go somewhere. There are many women out there unmarried with children, I am one and I live in Palm Coast so if you ever want to talk shoot me an email. I have been trying to go on walks over by Linear Park need to get back in shape after baby, she is 4 mos old.
Good luck to you and feel free to email me anytime
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I too am engaged and I always fear the same thing happening to me I always check his phone, I never find anything but in his previous marriage he cheated and he says now that its just not him and he lives with a lot of guilt about his past. Sorry probaly TMI, but I just wanted you to know that I can emapathize for you and your family.
Good Luck!
M.

Hey J.
I feel like if your boyfriend, husband, etc. would cheat on you then he doesn't respect you or want the same relationship you want. I've been in a very similiar relationship where we both cheated, he would cheat then I would cheat to get back at him, etc. Then it lead us down a really long destructive road. If he can't come clean and it wasn't a one night thing when he was drunk or something but that he was carrying on a relationship with this woman then you know it wasn't just a one time mistake that he really felt bad about. Of course you have to make that decision but I'm not sure if this is a guy that really ready to commit.