Children in My home...Advice Needed

I think the best way to handle this is to ignore it, and I mean really ignore it----like turn your back and ignore it. Take your baby and the girl, and sit down to read a book or something, and exclude him. Sooner or later, he'll want to be a part ot what you're doing. Ask him if he can be a good boy, then include him. The second he fusses at anyone, put him on the floor and continue what you were doing like he's not there. He'll throw a fit. Let him---ignore it. when he settles down, ask him again if he's ready to be a good boy, and include him enthusiastically. They really are all too young to expect them to play together without a problem. Just be calm and firm. At least they're close enough in ages to nap at the same time! Don't forget the "Me" time every chance you get!

I also watch children in my home. I have a rule that if any child that I am watching is making my own children uncomfortable or upset, I simply can not continue to watch them. Your child should be happy and comfortable in his home. Five weeks is a long time, maybe tell the parents that you will give it two more weeks. If this continues, I would find another family to work with. In my opinion, one of the best things about the daycare is that my kids love the children that we watch. They all play together and get along very well. I am sure this is stressful for you and very stressful for your son.

Kids under three really do not play together they enjoy playing next to each other. but they cannnot share and interact like older kids Does the little boy get along with his sister in a way that is normal for kids this age? IF he's never been with other children than maybe more time is needed. IF this was a problem in the past then I'd worry it wont get better. Is this his first time with children other than his sister?
Will the girl play nicely around your son, if so continue to encourage that and let the boy twin play alone until he is more mature.
Hitting cannot be allowed Talk to the mom about how she deals with hitting/kicking/biting whatever If you get the sense she allows it then it will be very difficult for you Let her know it needs to be addressed. If she does not cooperate at home you may want to start looking for other children to babysit.

Of course children progress at different rates. But in general the ages you are talking about will NOT play well together. That depends a little bit on how you define it. If you are glad to have them in the room, playing near each other, watching each other and sometimes interacting without lashing out, then it would feel like success. But if you think they are going to interact with each other, enjoy each other completely, baby babble back and forth, and share aggreably, then you are going to be sadly dissilusioned.

How much time? A LOT, LOT, LOT of time. This all sounds very normal for the age.

Hi C.J. :-)

Have you spoken to the mom about her twins and the young boys response to your son? I think it is important that she be told and included in the brain storming as to how to handle this.

I don't have anything else to offer except an Energy Medicine brain balancing technique which immediately helps to CALM the brain and help it to de-stress. You can find this technique on my website under the tab Dr. John Veltheim teaches CORTICES, which is the name of the technique. There are two videos, just watch the first to learn what happens to our brains under stress, then watch the second one which is the actual demo which takes about 30 seconds to implement.

You might want to try tapping out your CORTICES, then do this on your son.. and then once you begin to notice how you feel and your son is behaving, perhaps ask the mom of the twins whether she would mind if you help to make "happy brains".. which is what I call it when working with the kids.. with her two children!
hugs,
A. R.N., Energy Medicine Practitioiner www.amyfreundbodytalk.com

I would stop sitting for them. Your child, your home, your child's happiness all come before someone elses. Give them 2 weeks max and tell them you will be unavailable after that.